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The One You Love or the One Who Loves You?

Love Tangle: You need a long term relationship which could probably lead to marriage but you are faced with two choices:

* You love girl/guy A so much but she/he doesn't have same feelings for you.

* Girl/guy B loves u dearly but u don't have the same feelings for him/her.

Which will u go all out for, the one you love or the one who loves u ?

Why?

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That's a hard one I think I'll go for the one who loves me .

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You get irritated when you love some one so much and the person doesn't love you back. it then turns into hatred and you start wondering if you were charmed.

i will always make effort to balance the love at least to an acceptable % be for marriage.

but if it doesn't work out I'll go for some one that loves me.

i know she will take all my poo. to an acceptable % too.

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I'm in a spot like this. But i cant play Idy cos she loves me too much and i pity her for loving a fiend like me. I'm in love with Miracle and she ain't anyway near the league of loving me like Idy does. Still, i choose Miracle as i can never love Idy

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i would go for the one who loves me. thta's always better. it is headache for a girl to be with a guyshe likes and he doesn't like her. it could be frustrating at times.

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why "why not"? I just asked a question.

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...even if she is blind?

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I wanna answer this before i read other people's posts.

I would deffinitely Without no doubt marry the guy that loves me. Marrying someone who dont like you, is not a good idea. You will have no choice than to tolerate all his nonsense and whatnot. But if you r with someone who likes you, Your love towards the person will grow. Not when you see how much he's into you. Only if you r like totaly obssesed with the other guy. And being obssessed with someone is really not Love.

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i'll go for option C. it's best to love and be loved. only God Almighty can love you without u loving Him back, even with time. i'd rather wait for the opportunity to find someone i love and loves me right back. it's better to be happy than to "manage".

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Love is synonymous with sacrifice.

U cant pretend to love.

Pretenders cant make sacrifices. If they do, they are probably in love.

U either love or u dont.

Pretenders only succeed if d victim aint looking for the right clues.

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The general consensus seems to be that most of us - men and women, boys and girls - would rather go for someone who loves us dearly. This implies that one way to get someone to agree to relationship with you is to pretend to be head over heels in love with the person! Is it any wonder, then, that men (and some women) do exactly this?

Personally, if someone likes me, I automatically like the person back. I don't know about "love" though.

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i will go with ve.. opinion(s). go for someone that loves u, u might end up loving them.if its the other way round it is not safe.

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i will go for option C. i wld want me partner to love me and wld wanna love him back as well. what is the point of going out with someone that does not love u. (Desperados) sry but am not. will rather wait for the right person at the right time.

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Na wao! This is quite a dificult and tight corner

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You have to understand that the girl who loves the boy does not know that he doesn't love her. Though he may not love her, he will pretend to be absolutely in love with her, so she will be give him lots of sex and food.

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Straying = infidelity.

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Do you feel that with Girl B you are more susceptible to straying if initially you are not in love with her?

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Note that this is just d last resort. We all want a situation where the love is mutual. but its just like asking which would u take incase it doesnt.

The fact is that that principle cant work with Girl A cos she doesnt have the same feelings so she'll probably not allow me in her life not to talk of love begettin love after a while.

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The girl is likely not gonna accept me in the first place.

But i could accept girl B because she loves me and i know love begets love. I could grow to love her with time.

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Scripture says we love GOD because he first loved us. This is a principle i found to be true in relationships. Love begats love.

A or B would go but to be on a safer side, I'll go for Girl B, the one who loves me "deeply", perhaps I'ld love her with time.

I can't vouch that Girl A would love me with time.

Of course Its got to be mutual for me to tie that knot.

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Do you think that getting rid of the one you love will free up your love to then give to the one who loves you?

Did that sentence make sense? L.O.L.!

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I'll simply fall in love with the one who loves me. Love is an emotion that can be built up under the right conditions. I will also try to find out why it's difficult for me to fall in love with the one that loves me. It might be that my "love" for the unavailable one is what is making it difficult for me to love the other one!

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Seun just did that. 'twasnt there b4

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Ha! Vexxy, No option C. What will do if all the ppl u meet in life fall into A or B (this happens 90% of the time). Remember "Tick says the clock tick,tick.".

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You never said what you'd do. I'm curious to know. . . .

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Me too o, the one who loves me. But it would also depend on my take on the person.......I have to at least see my self learning to love that person back with time......if not.............it's not worth it.

I could easily say the one I love, but I can only speak for myself......and no one wants to be used........

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I will also go 4 the one who loves me depending on the fact that she has the good qualities I want from a woman. If not I will continue to search for.

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I agree with Angela. I'll go with the one who loves me. I believe I'll learn to love him with time. I can easily forget about somebody I love if he doesn't reciprocate. Not hard at all.

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I think i will stick to the one who loves me. Hopefully i will get to love him with time.

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Tricky Question, this.

Well, I'd say that everyone, my self included, generally love to be loved by someone. But the feeling of losing the one you love will definitely be too much to bear for me.

I'd generally stick to the one I love and hope that in time, he'd love me back. After all, as they say, it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all!

That's my take on this one!

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