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Trust In A Relationship: Should It Be 100%?

hi all,

Last night I was fortunate to have had a very pulsating discussion with a friend's kid brother and i discovered that the young man is somewhat confused with his relationship. He's kind of young though, but I think he's a bit matured for his age.

Rhe topic; TRUST was the topic and this guy told me outrightly that no man should trust his girl 100%, please i don't know what could have happened to him as his girl friend just got back from England. so the question is should any man trust his girlfriend 100%?

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Never trust anybody in ur life is a usual advice

Many said i trust God 100% , do u really?

If u cannot trust man whom u have seen how can u claim to trust GOD whom u have not seen

God is Love and God trust man despite man's failures

Just as many claim I love my spouse, yet u cant trust him/her a 100%.

True to type many will disappoint u dat should not stop u frm trusting. Those who do not trust r merely echoing what they r, not trust worthy "man wey dey kill person with cutlass no dey want make person take pen knife pass im back"

If u truly love somebody u can trust them a 100% just as ur kids love u n dey look up to u as there hero with wide trusting eyes. they trust u 100% but as they grow up they come to discover dat u dont even trust urself then how can they trust u.

again pple dont stop falling in love cos somebody they love broke their heart just as pple dont stop goin 2 da hospital cos somebody died there, u trust dat wen ur sick n u go there they will put in their best 2 get u beta.

So 4 all those who have been disappointed by those they trust try trusting again maybe we can change the trust no body to trust everybody untill then just be true 2 urself r u trustworthy?

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notin is 100%

but a lil ll do

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notin is 100%

but a lil ll do

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100% trust is an illusion; it never exist. I don't even expect it from anyone.

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Actually to me it depend on both parties, if dey re faithful to each other why not but if it is d other way round it will not be possibe. my bros.

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well said what more can i add.

thanx bro,all the best in ur marriage,ur marriage will be full of lafta and joy

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I suppose that why dating / courtship is important so one can disperse whatever doubts exist before committing to marriage. If both parties are in a godly relationship 100% trust can be achieved. It is possible not to have 100% trust in a relationship where they are sleeping together. In my opinion why should you trust a person 100% when God cannot trust him/her. If they can sleep together without getting married, what stops them from doing so with someone else or even in marriage.

It is the believe that you partner has the fear of God that gives one the confidence to trust 100%. You cannot be with the person all the time so you definitely don't know what the person would be up to or can do. But knowing that the person loves God and fears Him, you can trust 100%

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Trust should be 100% in a relationship from both parties if true love really exists. The truth about love is that you empower the person you love with the ability to hurt you the most. We cannot change that fact, it is how love works.

However in loving someone, you must give room for mistakes and errors because we are human.Only God is perfect so if our dearly loved ones goofs we should turn to God for strength and not commit suicide

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So much illusion. Idealists!

Be more realistic!

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SURE

INFACT MUCH MOR DAN 100%,IF NYTIN LIK DAT EXIST

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According to what has happened to me before,i'd just say you should be prepared for anything anytime so its better you trust yourself than to put so much of your trust in ur partner

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Can I trust someone a 100% in a relationship?

Yes.And if I can't,then I won't be in a relationship with him.

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100% trust on a mortal is far too much. Say may be 60% or, cause when you trust someone, you get tied of them quickely.

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no, never! u shud neva giv anybody ur 100 percnt trust, it shud be okk 4 d relationship, not totally, u cud wreck urself n thaz wat drives people to commit suicide once d trusted one fucks up, me i say no.

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It's even impossible as a human to trust another human 100% so there is no room for discussion.

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Trust no one!!! that's a commandment

60% trust should do 4 both parties

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There was once a time in the singles' fellowship

of my that church this topic came up as a debate.

It was about love and trust and the one that comes first.

We should approach this with utmost sincerity and

passion as some of what we call relationships today

results in marriage tomorrow. I can't imagine what i or

anybody else should be doing in a relationship which i know

deep within myself that i can not give 100% of my trust.

What goes around comes around, if i am not ready to give

100% i cannot get 100%. As a matter of fact i cannot love

who i cannot trust 100%. It also does not take away the fact

that people change. Should we say because people pass away

in their sleep we will stop sleeping?

if i ever find myself in a relationship where my trust drops to 99%,

i will call the girl and break it up at once.

Not been able to trust our fiancee / spouse is a

sign of the dept of infidelity in our society.

It is just a cover up of our inconsistency to compare

the trust we have to God to that which we display to other people.

They are both not the same. If we cannot trust the people we see,

how much more God that we do not see.

Jesus Christ himself comfirmed this by saying how can you claim

you love a God that you have not seen when you

cannot show same love to people around you.

I have stayed on the two sides i,e being single

and now married and i can say that it is better to get

someone you can trust 100% than jumping from one

person to another in the name of i can't trust 100%.

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1000% trust HOW? my dear it's tooo risky.but if u'r good at taking risks, no long tin.with the rate at which gals are sharp. U wan kil yr self

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I don't think 100% trust is possible. And if possible, it is definately not advisable though trust is a basis for any relationship but it can't be 100%- just God.

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if in marriage, it should be absolute. for girl-, boy friend stuff, watch ur back!

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You never walk up to someone and say hi, my name is xyz and you walk away trusting the person 100%. Trust is built over time. It is not a snapshot. It is a reel which is produced by time and space. People will deserve your trust by what they have given. I have trusted a 100% and was betrayed but that does not mean that the genuine which we all hope to bump into doesnt exist. In life we must all take risks, even the risk of loving, living, smiling, crying, laughing and trusting100%. I say all this to say that you can get to a place where you know this person is sold out to you and your course. Even if they fail, they are only human. Are we not all?

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(Trust In A Relationship: Should it be 100%?) At the start of a relationship it is difficult to trust the other partner because of certain inadequacies, but as the relationship progresses trust for one's partner quietly creeps in. Trust in a relationship is something that comes about because of the level of openness and sincerety of both partners, where this is absent then trust has no soil on which to grow.

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ha! 100%? 100? abi no bi 100% trust? count me out please.

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every relationship that u not built on trust is bound to collapse,wats wrong with having 100% trust 4 someone u are dating it goes a long way to strengthen the souls-grip both parties.trust not love is the principal thing for if u trust him,u will always love him unconditionally

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trust in relationship should be like 85% and give room for doubts and betrayal

You can tolerate or understand people but u cant b denied that they are human and are prone to temptations

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personally,

i doubt the possibility of having an 100% trust for my wife/Gfriend n vice-versa.

sm situations byond her/my control might warrant either of us to cheat/b unfaithful, its onli logical and natural.

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"Trust in the Lord with all thy strength and lean not unto thine own understanding."

To trust my girlfriend 100% is impossible.

To trust my wife 100% is close to impossible, except after we have been married for so many years.

I think trust should grow with love which grows over time.

Only God is worthy of 100% trust.

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Hello people, trust should be 100% but unfortunately we are all human and we err so it never works that way. Don't we all wish it could be like that?

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I will not do Ladies the disrespect of mistrusting but I will likewise rather not

do myself the dishonour of trusting any. As i am so i will surely be.[/color][color=#990000][color=#990000][/color]

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in as much as TRUST is the engine room of any relationship,it should never be 100%.may be from 0.5% and then you let it grow.but neva 100% that is only meant for the big GUY upstairs.

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it's good 2 trust ur partner firstly so that you can love him or her genuinely and secondly for you to have peace of mind but the truth is the bible which is the only truth says WOE to any man or woman who puts his TRUST in another MAN. so it's even a curse to trust any body 100%

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Trust is the foundation for any good relationship. You'll always attract what you are. If you are trust worthy you'll attract trustworthy friends. There can be the odd person here and there but the de facto is always true. It up to you to choose your friends wisely and not commit to a relationship until trust has been established[b][/b]

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Obika.

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Love is very paramount

But what of our canal body that can be tempted?

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My kind of woman! Bold and never afraid to trust 100%.

The only thing harder (and better) than the all-too-common cautiousness and guarded attitude we see in most relationships today, is to trust completely - 100%!

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Never try it at all.

I did it once and I was wonded and still living with the scars till now.

ONLY take people for who they said they are but don`t trust them. In relationship or business never trust anyone. I will say 0% trust for the first 3 months in a relationship and gradually increase it but not more than 40% until marriage if possible and not to exceed 50%, 2 years after marriage. It is now up to you to increase it to 70% when you are both old,

But not 100% at all,

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@For those who trust God 100% but not their significant others

You should not be with someone you don't trust 100%! why are you wasting your time and hers/his?

I trust my hubby 1000% - that's the meaning of a RELATIONSHIP! Does this mean they will not mess up and make mistakes and hurt you sometimes? no. Human always make mistakes, part of life. But trust in any meaningful relationship should be 100% - ideally.

But it appears that's not the case for most of you and that's too bad - you prob need to dump that relationship.

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i can only trust my GOD 100% not a human being like me

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Keeping it brief,

, Yes.

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NO, it should be 101 PERCENT.

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with 100% you are dead and buried while breathing. trust no man

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d only constant thing I know in life is CHANGEs, even Human Change, so where would you put d 100% trust, even words from your partners affect trust, I will trust u with material things and live my free live, having in mind you can change, coz even d devil can use him/her LoL

put all ur trust in God almighty, he stirs the affairs of man.

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u can't be 100% , there is no way.Trust in terms of commitment(yes) but in terms of finances and "woman trouble" , u have gotta be smart,

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even when we try, we cant because it is inconsistent with our existence,

saying we can would be an obvious expression of either self or directed deception

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Sure Even God said don't put ur trust in man.

But stil we've got to give a little trust, if not we will be doubting every man.

Some people's behavior will just earn ur trust

Whatever trust u give whether 100% or 5%, it hurts when we are betrayed.

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Trust is the foundation for any good relationship. You'll always attract what you are. If you are trust worthy you'll attract trustworthy friends. There can be the odd person here and there but the de facto is always true. It up to you to choose your friends wisely and not commit to a relationship until trust has been established.

More here: http://www.peleodiase.com/blog/integrity-relationships

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Uchetobi its not our fault o - its what we have been through.

Even God is still having trouble making me trust Him 100%.

Talkless a man.

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well, i think the only time i can trust my girlfriend wife 100% is when she is God which is nt possible.

TRUST - A VERY HARD WORD

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giving 100% trust is ideal for me coz without it i  think it (relationship) would be so prosaic (especially marriage), PLS BE TRU 2 UR MAN/WOMAN (100%)

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