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Unbargained Mess, How Do I Treat The Situation?

I went on a few day voyage to visit a family friend only for me to get entangled to a gurl (not even beautiful an inch), as nature wuld have its way, one thing led to another etc, etc. After about a year the news flew to me that she was pregnant and so on but the most astonishing thing is she began calling me as regular as she could, sometime i even overheard baby cries from the call background etal. . . all indicating with conspicuous iota of her having a baby.

But soon as i notice her communication grieviances, i suspect she's trying to put the baby on my neck to father while i am NOT ready to father a child at all for now.

Good people of Nl, would it be right for me to resist communication with this (not beautiful/pretty) girl? cos i can as well just change my sim card line and let go since am back in my domain and she doesnt an inch of my whereabouts. .

I need candid advices so i dont be a victim of a come-back future negativities as result of my then act.

Thanks.

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Thanx Sweetie, Tanx MrbROWN,

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Brein, Im going to go with MrBrownJay's advise for u.

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@poster

in my humble opinion you shouldnt even mention the baby to her and continue talking to her on the phone like nothing happened. if she doesnt say  word then she has her reasons.

you are ONLY to be blamed for having unprotected sex with this damzel AND if she did have unprotected sex with you, god knows how many might have had the same ¨luck¨as you. she may have given that pregnancy to some better off guy than you and if she doesnt mention it, it is maybe because that child already has a daddy.

and if you really want to get the ball rolling then next time you are on the phone with her and hear a baby in the background then ask her who it is and how old it is. . . . . . . . . .  end of story.

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Hear yourself. Did u not know that the girl is ugly before you put ur fckn dick in her Kitty-Cat.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

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pls dont run away if u no dat the baby is urs, wait and confirm before exatin frm the earth

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Bro go and do the right thing as advised, if she is not too ugly for your thing to rise and poke, then she is not too ugly to be your child's mother. Congratulations.

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The situation is bad enough. . . however no matter wat, the life of a child and any human being for the matter is precious. Hence

1. Do blood test to confirm the paternity and maternity of the child.

2. Do DNA test to confirm that the paternity and maternity results from blood test is true.

3. If the results confirm that you are a father of the child. . . then you need to start thinking about how to raise the child.

4. Speak to your parents and let them give you advice on how to raise a child, cus at least they have experience in that area.

Until then please, understand that this is not a matter to be taken lightly otherwise you would bring curses on yourself if you try to abandon the mother and the child wen it turns out the child is actually yours in the first place.

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You did not know she was ugly wen you were having premarital sex i guess . . .

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@Selena, tankx.

My ernest prayer is i hope d baby isnt mine, the problem of tension here is this ugly damsel wont disclose if she's got a baby, wether mine or not. . . How do u tink i can find out bout d authenticity of any baby existence either secretly or however? ?

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Go back and claim your baby. . . you and I both know the child is yours, so why denying and calling her ugly? Huh?

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I would advise you to take responsibility of the child if he or she is yours,to avoid future regret.You dont have to be with the girl.

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Poster this question is for you Did you inpregnant the Girl? If yes why da hell are you running away from your responsiblities .

You knew from the unset that she was not beautiful and still layed with her, Go back to her, if the child is yours .

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Tanx Selena, the truth is, im kinda confused myself, cos i really dont know my take on this wether or not the baby could be mine, but from all indications, it seem obvious that the baby coulda been mine, and what if the baby happens to be mine after a DNA test. . . would u advise i take the baby or something, cos there's no where possible on this earth i can live with the girl, (she's as ugly and LOCAL as), i actually regreted my actions and have learnt my lessons, .

I'll still appreciate you inview of your thoughts.

Cheers.

Mehn, i couldn't have blamed myself after the initial act of sleeping wif her, it was moreorless a sharp sharp runs, u know how it is man., remember i mentioned i only went on a visit . . . i hated myself for this.

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I guess i should do as obliged by carrying out a **DNA medical test, I just pray its not my baby. . . huh!

i really a not sure but just tryna think ahead of time if it is possible to only accept the baby if mine and let the woman go her way or leave them both while i pay baby allowances, i dunno which the Nigerian law permits, Please your kind advises are most welcome.

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"dude y not go do they DNA txt" as senele said that will be a nice solution, but u ve to father the baby if na u bring am come inside this earth cos u go put your dady d .ck were u no suppose put em. pretty r ugly no be excuse for this 1 .

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What u have done is nothing short of callous. Now you know she's ugly. Buck up and be a man not a runaway baby daddy.

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don't mind the dude, slept with an ugly girl and did not dime it fit to use protection and now you want us to do magic or reverse the hand of time. like this lady rightly said do a DNA test to prove if the baby is urs and if urs congratulations to the latest dad in town and if not use protection at all time for this mistake not to occur again.

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I hope you do not take this adivise the wrong way.But i suggest you do a DNA test to prove if the baby is urs or not.But come to think of it,y did you sleep with her if you knew she was ugly to you?

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I no fit shout o!

confirm first! if u r d baby daddy, i guess u rock ur music - tk care of ur baby.

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