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Was It Right For Him To Do This To His Girlfriend?

Hey guys,

I have this friend, she is 19 years old and was dating a guy of 25 years. They had dated for at least 3 years I should say and during this time she had refused to sleep with him due to her beliefs about pre marital sex, this is not even necessarily about religion but just her general beliefs, anywho, as much as the guy was not too happy with this, he was patient with her and considering that he had been very sexually active with past girlfriends, he obviously loved her to enough to be so patient with her. During the time of their relationship, they had always seemed as a couple truly in love, had even discussed plans of marriage in the future.

I don’t know what exactly had happened, but one day, my friend just decided to split up with him based on the reason that she apparently just did not feel like being in any relationship anymore, just like that? I was really shocked, when she told me anyway. To cut a long story short when she told him that she would be breaking up with him, he Molested her, apparently because he had loved her and waited for her for so long (considering her beliefs on pre marital sex) and believed she had no right to just cut off the relationship like that and especially for a reason he had termed pathetic and silly, after all they had been through, he believed it was his right to sleep with her after everything they’d been through, this guy is not a bad guy I would say, but he just let his anger get the best of him.

Nlanders please do you think the guy should be excused for what he did?

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Tanks so much 4 dat statement, plus i think d guy jut checked mate her, lol, afta all d time,Money & Commitments evn if she`s ma sista i wuld tell her wat she did isnt gud although[b] i am not in support of d molest [/b] sha!!!

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@GEW,

I really don't know whether to reply you or ignore you. You are certainly reading my post for the first time. I am therefore willing to excuse your misjudgement.

Let me re-direct you to my post again. Go digest it and try to understand me. If you still didn't get it, then it in no wonder why you are attacking everyone that doesn't agree with you.

It is pathetic!

That said, did the poster narrated what actually happened between the two when they are alone? Was she a witness to the crime? Did she answer the big question my parable outlined?

Instead of dissipating your energy fighting a lost cause, try and understand that Law are guided by certain principles. You don't judge someone without hearing the other side.

If you have used the head GOD gave you, you will be asking questions instead of being the judge and prececutor.

Take note that she must have willingly entered his house, A lot of holes abound in the story and I hate to say it is unworthy of being pushed to and fro.

The only way you can know the truth is to listen to the guy side of the story. It is easy to judge that way.

Even the poster didn't witness the crime. She was narrating what she was told.

Dont be hasty in condeming people you don't know and abusing them just because they refused to act like todler who has mastered the art of talking early in life and therefore presume that everyone else is insane just because they discover that the tone of their voices is not as deep as the tones of elders.

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on the contrary . . .I am not in any way justifying or excusing the guy's inaction of Molesting her. . . . but I believe that there is more to the story than we are being told.

indeed there is no excuse for molest. . . but she should not play the victim card.

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E tire me ohhh but i read and reread the thread and i did not c were e say the babe is a virgin.

u'll be surprised what some 16yr old? ( 19yr when they started or when they ended? ) hav done in this life. mayb she's done it b4 and didnt like it so decided to wait till after marriage to try it again.

AM I NO WAY XCUSING THE GUYS ACT.

but since they are konwn 2geda it'll b difficult 4 many pple that know them to know the level of intimacy btw them. hw often do she go to his crib, hw long do she stay there. we fail to accept simply dat once pple are dating it doesnt necessarily mean they are sleepin 2geda but thats jst what most pple bilv. once a gal is spending time with a guy in his room they assume they must b doing things.

Guyz that molest are the poo to me

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sometimes i wonder how u guys werre brought up. you guys are calously Molesting today what next robbery and murder tomorrow?

funny thing is you people are quick to blame others for your predicament when you start paying heavily for this wickedness. if the Molests his girl friend you wonder what he does to enemies

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You said it all. There is no better explanation.

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There's a strong chance that she saw want she wanted to see, and the monster lurking around for her prized Virginity leaped when it was slipping from his grasp.

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Teomot,

I was not saying the guy was right or wrong. My experience in this life has taught me to look at both sides of the road before crossing.

If indeed she called off the affair without any reason after the guy have made personal sacrifice and commitment, then she must not be seen as someone incapable of hurting the guy.

Maybe you should ask what took her to the guy house when she had hurt him. Or the guy Molested her on the street or in her own house? The answer to this question will reveal sth about what happened. You cant stab a man and still go to his house to dine. He does not know why you stab him and you wont apologize either. Do you sincerely expect that man to be dine with her?

If the act is committed in the guy room, then something must have happened that led to sex NOT molest.

Maybe the guy later boasted of conquering her and she felt used. I am sure the guy will have his own bitter naration that will make the girl guilty.

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how can an violate and molest a 19yrs old and you sit behind a computer and say she deserve what she got?.

what amount of money do you think the guy at twenty something have to warrant rapping someone daughter?

i expected something better from you.

a rappist is vile i hope the girl has someone in her family who can lock up this fool for a long time

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no no no. d guy waz wrong. but d girl should hv been smart enof not to go 2 his house say poo like dat.

i petty d girl.

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Hilarious, yet parthetic!

I am refusing to accept that he molest her though. He might have invoked his power to neutralize her resistance which obviously took her by surprise while she lost control.

People should look deeper before accepting false accusation. In a court of law, the girl may lose the case anyway.

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Then let her come back after she has been Molested. silly girl!

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Actually, no one is right for Molesting anyone but, what was the girl thinkin? Goin' to the house of a three year old boyfriend who she's deprived sex to break up with him?

She shuld've thought better.

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hello damsel do check yur hotmail email, someting waiting for u in there,

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dude, I just read the post again and my opinion has not changed. . . how about u state why u disagree with my opinion?

and also think from the guys view. . .if u can think.

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@noetic, dude u need 2 get ur reading glasses and read d post again, maybe u can post a beta reply

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Ok, that is your own, Mr Man.

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no she doesnt. . . she needs a sober reflection.

dont play with the food u aint gonna eat. . .

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why is he silly for his stating his opinion?

how about the emotions, time and money the guy has also invested in the relationship? what makes u think she was not dumping him for a richer guy and was willing to spread her legs just like that. . .for all I care she own her Bottom. . .but she also deserved what she got. . . . though I dont condone molest.

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You are highly silly for this comment you made. Do you think molest is like touching one's bosom or giving a slap? The girl was a virgin too. Her values have been broken and you are here saying poo about how she should forgive, forget and move on?

Do you have a brain? If it was your sister would you be telling her the same thing? Foolish .

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the guy just showed his true self he showed how immature he is. however the girl should have known the temperament of the guy, in such she should have broken up with him in the presence of other highly respected people like friends, elder cousins who are close to them. she shouldnt have allowed any private talk between them let alone go to his house.

to the girl, she should please forget about it and move on. dont forget to forgive him though. as for the guy he is not worthy to be called a man.

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The guy is just an that deserves to be burnt alive with tyre and petrol but there is 2 sides 2 a story

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women shld be cautious who they date . . . how much did she collect from him? Nothing is free these days.

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The guy is on a cheap Bottom crack. He's disillusioned and twistingly confused. And you said he's not a bad guy? Then what is he? What did he exhibit? He was in the relationship just for sex and nothing else, he got upset he didn't get and settled for molest. 25 years and he's still a fool taking advantage of a teenager speaks volumes of how increasingly his silly has overflown its annoying cup.

The girl, I hope like someone said, didn't ask for allowance from the guy.

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human what?! did you say human right?! i am not sure if anyone in the land understand and comprehend that word. i would rather say the "money right". . . . if someone has the bribe money then they can do what the fukc they want. from top official to low life morons like that Molester.

the funny part is that , if his family is" connected" he might not even do any jail time. let alone get arrested.

thats what happens when women date psychopath and promise them the world. obviously this relationship was based on that virginity and it was viewed as the "main prize" to the Molester.

am i even surprised that it happened in 9ja? not a bit.

i can already hear that give his reason: "i waited three yrs without sex for that virginity and when she decided that she didnt want to reward it to me any longer, i felt i had the right over it and that it was mine so i took it anyway."

9ja, na wa oh!!!!!

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I don't know about lagos, or anywhere. But if she's in America, he wouldn't have gotten away with that. Thats bullshit.

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in Lagos? She's better off ironing clothes.

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Thats no excuse. He violated someones human right. You don't do that to anyone. He is completely wrong and she should press charges.

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