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ladies n guyz kindly say one or two statements on this to help me quickly.

I ad a slight quarrel wit my girl n she has been behaving very funny i.e no call, no txt, notin.(despite my apology on the immediate wen we sat down to talk abt it) even wen i call to ask hw she is doing n if she needs anything, she will respond in an unencouraging manner dat will put u off. i try not to get tired of her yet but in all honesty i am getting close dats y i need ur advice pls.

wat do i do pls or wat do u tink

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hi all tanks for ur advice,its really helpful n insightful.

pls keep it coming.

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I thought i was d only person thinking in that direction.

God bless your soul!!!!!!!

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I guess the mistake you made was the fact that your reason for not being able to pick her up was that you were partying the night before. This could have brought up thoughts of you possibly messing around on her because she is out on business and you are partying with only God knows who.

In this type of situation you only have to give her time to come around just like you are thinking if you are tired of the relationship, she is probably thinking that too. But, this is not that serious of a matter which should make you guys break up just give her time and let her know that you care and not by apologizing continuously because that would continue to remind her of what happened. You already apologized now just let her come around and if not oh well.

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I am not saying that you should plan everything out, but one should not get so mad at thier partner when they cant do one thing for them.

I would never hold it against him if he said I am too tired to drive to pick you.

i would rather think about his walfare and not want my man to get behind the wheel of the car driving tired.  Maybe it is because i have seen first hand what tired driving gets you, or maybe because I dont have expectations that he will always drop everything to accomedate me, but whatever the case I would be understanding and his simple i am sorry would have done the trick for me.

I dont understand her being so upset as to not want to talk this out and work this out.

If he is always there for her and this one time he was able to be then what is the harm in saying "baby it is ok, maybe i was a bit unrealistic in my expectation that you would be able to pick me this am".

I am sure that the guy would have done differently if he knew he had to pick her the next morning.  I know I would have.

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Wood p, i  like dis, do u really do dis in public? u d man. i must learn from dis.

tanks man. i owe u one in swe bar.

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before we start accusing her of being unreasonable we should find out whether the poster was apologetic immediately he arrived at the airport, he might have also been in a bad mood at that time which is what is making her overreact. abi poster?

yeah woodpecker u very correct, i did nt appologise to her cos i ve done notin wrong as @ den, i was nt ok as well cos i was really tired n embarrassed by her calling who she did n she as well neva appologised for keeping me waiting for 1hr 17min. i could take her up on dat bt again i decided to relax n embrace her. but see wat am getting. too bad.

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tanks again sis.

i am trying to be gentle wit her b4 standing my ground, i dnt wnt her to feel oda wise.

i can be NAUGHTY n VERY HEADY as wel.

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i strongly advise that u show her that u're really sorry by doin somtin radical that will show her that u're wiling 2 do anything to get her heart back, from the way u make her look she reminds of me of mine and when i offend i usually do somtin extreme like shouting "am so sorry luv" when there are strangers around so that she'll be too touched or embarrassed not to 4give. its not onlly in the movies this stuff works

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before we start accusing her of being unreasonable we should find out whether the poster was apologetic immediately he arrived at the airport, he might have also been in a bad mood at that time which is what is making her overreact. abi poster?

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i agree with sistawoman but if she still insist then let her be when she finally realise wat she is doin she will definitly come back. but mind you dont play around

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JJYOU, wat does d D stands 4 in ur formula? can one really do without being angry at times?

she actually called her house for someone to come pick her up wit her car earlier on but no one was available to so she called my person.

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igwe 1, tanks as well bt obviously it hasnt gotten to d extent of me findn anoda girl nw.

so wat was my mistake igwe?

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True, you made a mistake, but this her excessive anger was uncalled for. she might now be doubting your love for her also.

But like i said, relax and leave her to re-think while you ma re-think also but don't  go into any other relationship now, it might complicate your life when she comes ranting.

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If her call was a last minute call she may have been trying to show off in front of her colleagues.

She may have said I will call my man and he will be glad to pick me but when you refused she got angry/hurt/embarrassed.

With that in mind she should have accepted your apology and kept it moving.

I was trying to defend the sista but with the fact that she called you last minute I cant defend her.  You should sit her down and explain that had you known ahead of time you would have made the necessary adjustments in your parting to be sure to be there to pick her.  That if it happens again she should let you know at least 24 hours ahead of time so that you can be sure to be there for her.  You should also reassure her that by not picking her when she called in no way reflects how you feel about her and just like her time is precious so is yours.

Ask her to please put this behind yall so that you two can move forward and that with reasonable accommodations and mutual respect you can move past this.  Let her know that not putting it behind yall also shows that she is selfish and unwilling to take into consideration your feelings or needs.

Doing so puts her on notice that 24 hours notice is required and allows you to move your actions in a way that accommodates her.

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Did she arrange for you to pick her before hand?

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yeah sistawoman, i understand she feels bad n all dat but take a look at dis. she travelled on an offcial assignment wit her colleagues n dey r back wit the offcial car n driver waiting @ d airport to convey dem n she is refusing to go wit dem, not dat she does nt ve anyone to pick her up. wats my major fault here pls, i need to knw.

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If you knew she was coming and then refused her when she called she should be pissed.

You should contiune to tell her you are sorry and show her how much she means to you. She is worried that when she needs you most you will not be available. Addtionally by you going out to party and not being responsible enough to deal with it the following morning and follow thru on your obligation to her it tells her that you dont care.

Remember actions speak louder than words.

You must go and get her something nice to ease her worries and her hurt pride. She had to call someone else to convince you to come and get her, she is very embarrassed now.

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ok keeping it short.

she travelled to ABJ n was to return on a sat mrng, she called to come pick her up, i told her i wnt be able to that i was really tired because i went partying nit before. She den called someone i respect so much to report, d person called me, i called her to tell her i will pick her up n i forced myself to d airport n ad to wait 4 another 1hr17min 4 her afta her flight was on ground already claimng a luggage was missing. while in d car i noticed she was quiet n i questioned her severally on y, she said notin until afta a while she said because i said i cnt pick her up earlier on n i appologised on the spot with even holding her palm to shw that it was not intentional just that i was really tired(i always pick her up at d airport).

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ANGER + D = DANGER

always avoid angry people

what if you didnt have a car?

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what was the quarel about?

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