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We Are Both As Genotype,what Is The Way Out?

Hi Guys,

I have been dating this lovely lady for the past 3 years,and from the begining of the relationship i asked for her genotype and she said AA,i am AS so i try s much as possible not to hit the wrong target.

It was early this year that she did another test for one reason or the other only to get the result saying she is AS,we almost ignored it but i was disturbed that how can a paediatric hospital make mistake with genotype, I later asked her to reconfirm,the test says AS again,

I dont know which step to take now,she is down and i am as well disturbed,how can i just dissolve a house built through thick and pain like that,she has been all i need in a woman,

House,which way out?Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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hmn same story wit my friend, she almost lost him, he went for anoda test last week monday and was confirmed AA, prayers work get down on ur knees

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Bro, I beg go marry your woman! Una go first think about na love first, after when the love don metamorphoses into pikin, una go take am from there. Na part of the thing wey life's journey. The kind love wey you dwy describe between the two of una so fit cause long term guilt inside you. E no compulsory say una must contribute to the next billion people on Earth, if una get two and one na SS, na still life's journey.

Try pursue true happiness at all times. Somebody go say na wrong advice, say I dey push you to your early grave, but try remember the other heart, your wife-to-be.

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MY DEAR WHEN I SAY RUN FOR YOUR DEAR LIFE I MEAN FLEE. NO MATTER THE RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE BUILT.

DO YOU LISTEN TO INSPIRATION FM, AND DID IT SINK INTO YOUR BIG HEAD WHAT ONE OF THE INVITED GUEST AND A CALLER SAID.

THE CHANCE OF YOU NOT HAVING SS AS A FIRST CHILD IS ALREADY PROVEN. FORGET ABOUT WHAT THEY SAY OF YOU NOT HAVING SS

AS A FIRST ISSUE. IT IS RARE.

DO NOT BRING AN UNBORN BABY INTO THIS WORLD TO SUFFER. DID YOU HEAR WHEN ONE OF GUEST WAS ASKED TO EXPLAIN WHAT IS MEANT BY

"CRISIS" . HE SAIS CRISIS IN THE LIFE OF A SICKLER IS AEXCRUCIATING PAIN. ANOTHER CALLER ON LIFE FOCUS ON INSPIRATION FM SAID THAT

SHE CAN DESCRIBE IT AS A HAMEERING PAIN WHICH CAN OCCUR ALL OVER THE BODY OR ANY PART OF THE BODY.

FOR THE SAKE OF THE UNBORN CHILDREN PLEASE DO NOT MARRY HER. I KNOW IT IS NOT EASY TO LET GO. BUT THINK ABOUT THE CRISI THAT

THE UNBORN BABIES WILL GO INTO.

ASK THE SS AND THEY WILL TELL YOU BETTER BECAUSE IT HAS NOT BEEN EASY FOR THEM.

LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.

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That is exactly my point, your use of pediatric hospital. You have no business in a children's hospital because you're adults and 'am sure no pediatrics hospital would attend to adults, let alone take your blood samples! because the hospital is exclusive to children.

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Bro, i feel like crying for u, i empathise wit u cos dis is really a very difficult situation for both of u, but just like most pple said, man proposes and God disposes. I believe in God n i hav full faith in him,deres notin he cant do, as it stands now, u shd put dis situation entirely in his hands. My advise to u is dis, challenge God wit ur prayer n faithfulness, sacrifice sometin about u for him (maybe sometin u feel u cannot do without), make a committment to him and i tell u, he'll change ur story to a better one. I'll join u in prayers for Gods favour. All da best bro.

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Bros, go to God in prayer there is nothing he cant do. I am a living witness. My fiance is AS, i went for a test in one private hospital and i was told that i am AS too. i nearly died. Everybody was like dont marry him or dont marry her. I told myself, "In this guy i found my true love, everything i need in a man is in this my baby". I told God if u are really God, change my story. My JEHOVA did it 4 me. After 3 days or so, i went for another test and was confirmed AA. GOD CAN DO IT 4 U. THERE IS NOTHING HE CANT DO. HE HAS DONE SOEMTHING GREATER THAN THIS BEFORE FOR ME, THIS ONE IS JUST A MINOR CASE FOR HIM. HE IS ABLE TO CHANGE THE STORY AS HE CHANGED MINE IF U BELIEVE!!!

GUDLUCK

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The trauma of having an SS child or children from such relationship is better imagined than experienced. Such children spen 3/4 of their lives in hospital.

However, I also there that there is a Sickle Cell center in Lagos where preganacies can be tested to know if the unborn baby is SS. In such a case, you will be advised to terminate the pregnancy until you have AA or AS pregannacy.

It is choice you have to make and wisely too.

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@Cooolier:

I used the paediatric hospital reference to show that the first test is genuine since hospitals that deal with children are more detailed because of the delicate and fragile nature of kids,and they take blood test serious.

@All: Thanks for your words of advice and encourangement.

I av spoken with doctors both home and abroad,they all advice that the risk is high and that how many foetus are prepared to flush out before we get our desired result?

Also,if we are not aware,we can claim ignorance but since we knew we should not allow today to mar our future,

We,both are given to prayer,we have been fasting for the past few days, but God need to give the go ahead before such decision can go on,

The problem,we both never thought that we can get to this junction,where we have to choose between now and our future.

She is the best any guy can ask for and on my part not to blow my horn,i am ok for any God fearing lady,but where do we start from,can i really remember the best line to use in asking a lady out,getting to know her etc,she on her path has forgotten that other guys exists apart from me,

She is my sister,that was what my Pastor called her when she came visiting me in the north because of the resemblance,eye contact and the body language,

God take control and let your will alone be done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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tough luck bro, wish there was an alternative.

best you part ways or just sit pretty and face the music.

one thing though, nothing says ss is a certainty, only if there are more options say like four kids.

if you must, then i suggest you have just a kid or two max. that way we eliminate possible chances of ss kids. not saying it a total assurance oh!

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If you are truly in love as you said, do not break up with her. Here are my suggestions.

The likely hood of having SS baby is 25% so you have 75% chance of not having SS.

Let me share with you a true life story of a person I know

Mr A has been dating Miss B for about 4 years (immediately the girl left Secondary school), Mr A asked for her blood GP out of desperation she lied that she is AA 'cause she does not want to loose the guy, only for Mr A to detect after getting married and she was pregnant and a test was taken on her.

She has since have 2 babies, non is SS. The man kept on telling me that they always put it to God in prayer everyday whenever she was pregnant and GOD do answer prayer.

U can do it prayerfully. If you are buoyant, you can as well go and check the the blood Genotype of the fetus. There is nothing like having a happy family

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What has pediatric hospital got to do with your blood tests? And I thought you said you're both 29?

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eh yahhh. . .

this is painful

**sheds tears**

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Gbam! You and I are >>>here<<<.

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Talk to your doctor, tell him/her you are ready to do anything to keep her and you can wait for a while after multiple trials; i need not say much on this forum else i'll be condemned.

Don't leave her please.

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U are saying 3 solid years of moral and selfless support should just go,we are both 29yrs old,looking trying to fix a date for the introduction,and the wedding for next year,she has been my pillar and the sister i never had,she is at home now crying her head off,while i can not concentrate at work,

we keep calling and consolling each other,

I love her and she love me like her life,

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My advice is never try to marry each other

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Dont try it my guy,if you were living in the western world its possible because they could identify the genotype from the womb and then flush it,how many times will you flush,because you cannot predict the next one and the next one and the next one,and its also possible the As comes  first who knows.The medicare in Nigeria is in camatose ,There are know insurance or national health insurance ,so it an expensive venture.Try to forget it ,ITs expensive to manage and its bad for the children and you your self.

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pls pls my brother time heals all things you both can still find love elsewhere, save your children from the PAINS of the sickle cell.

imagine your sweet daughter writting in pains day in,day out.and dying at the tender age of 10 without been given a chance in life

becos of your selfish love.

bros you will hate yourself and your poor wife ll live in the hospital.

what if they come  2 sicklers i your home. your 2sweet girls or a girl and your only son.

there is a way out though: JESUS OUR LORD

HE CAN CHANGE YOUR GENOTYPES TO AA.It a blood ailment and he heals all ailments.

All the best bro.

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The way out is to search for another LIFE partner. . .Such "love" doesn't last.

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Dont get carried away with love, if u want to go ahead with the relationship, make sure u dont prduce kids

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Awww! *hug*

Maybe you shouldn't give up on this relationship just yet. You guys should make an appoint with your doctor (or a geneticist?) and see what they have to say about testing in utero for SS; if they can, then you two will have more options on what to do regarding pregnancies. I wish you two the best of luck; don't fret, hun.

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