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We Met In March, We Are In Love, Is December Too Early For Marriage?

Hi all,

i met this lovely guy in March and we hit it off right away, we started dating and truly i love him a lot and will love to be with him forever, i have tried studying his character and he is really okay and ready to settle down. he keeps on saying we must get married in December that there is no point waiting.I am young and he is about 10 yrs older than me, i am done with school and working presently that makes me okay to get married, but i am just a lil worried that this is early. I met his 2 brothers and friends and we see every day and he is yet to hurt my feelings since we started dating

We are not of the same tribe and my siblings have succeeded in convincing my mum to let us be,everyone that meets him love him. I see him as my husband already but i am just worried it might be a little too early to get married.

Please i need all the positive advice i can get

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You could want to study him more, pray about it. But really it shouldn’t matter so much cuz my parents dated for seven months before they got married and they’ll have their 24th year anniversary in Oct this year. But then personally I cant marry someone I have not date for over a year. Cuz iv been in a relationship for over 3 years now. I have learnt a lot of things I could never have learnt in a year. Iv learnt to accept it because I wanted too. Imagine if we were married I’d have been compelled to that is not having a choice. I really hate not having choices over certain vital issues. But then we are all different. Follow your heart. All the best.

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Thanks girl

I feel a whole lot better now and coming to terms with what is ahead, i have realized i love him so much and will love to be with him. I will just give my self a little time to realize that i will be a Mrs soon.

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but wait a minute, thats scary. Age difference is not an issue

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Thank you so much dearie, have come to love and respect all your opinions on this forum.God bless you and i wish you all the good things of life as well.

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Better grab him before you lose him to other girls. There are a thousand and 1 boyfriends all over but no husbands. Moreover, six months courtship is enough for one to make up her mind. As for the age difference, that shouldn't be an issue. Good luck.

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sounds to me like u aint ready or completely sure, VERY FEW PPL ON EARTH HAVE THE LUXURY OF 100% ASSURANCE/CERTAINTY THAT THEY ARE MARRYING THE PERSON MEANT FOR THEM.

but the rest of us need to be able to convinve ourselves beyond reasonable doubt, and it sounds to me like, u aint done that yet. it sounds like u feel pushed. Talk out ur fears with him, tell him u feel its a bit too soon, u'd like some more time, doesnt mean u've changed your mind about marrying him, u just need time to know him more and be at ease with the idea.

no be easy step, so dont feel pressured into doing something u WANT but at the WRONG time for u

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That could happen to a married lady too, that she's married doesnt stop her from being young - - - Yea i know "marriage" comes with its own share of commitment, , , , but some have gone astray!!

Its not a reason enough for her to go into it if she isn't totally comfortable with it, but i do agree that she could reassure him that she would love to be his wife but needs a Lil bit more time to adjust and get used to the idea and change!!

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Perhaps he's afraid that, as a young woman, you might soon change your mind and fall in love with a younger man.

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