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We Met On Facebook Now I Dont Like Wat I Saw, How Do I Say I'm Sorry?

It's really painful,

I met this lady on facebook since 24th of march,2010. we both resides in lagos, we started chatting and one thing lead to another with sweet voice on phone with the exchanged of pictures.

After 2weeks i traveled officially out of Lagos having not seen her yet, while i calls her everyday not less than 7 to 10mins on phone. within the pace of 3months we started promising love and marriage.

Now, I'm back to Lagos since (2nd July), which was Friday while we both arranged to meet on Passed Sunday (4th July) Excuse me! I DON'T LIKE WHAT I SAW, I manage to take her home and gave her what I bought her from traveling of while she was all over me,

YESTERDAY she sent a message which reads "You are the best thing that has ever happened to me I love you", I think of it everyday, not on my favor; I'm older than her but she's looking older than I, So what's gonno happen years to come.

I'm looking for a polite way to say I'm sorry it's not gonno work, Please help! What do I do?

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giggling. . . . u just got served brov. . . .

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guys, from queeneve's posts, venom and bile pouring, is not obvious she is the one the poster is referring to? we need to acsertain the identity of queeneve to verify she was the one the poster took home and did what she claimed the poster did to the babe in question

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This thread is actually too funny! spazzed out my coke!! all over my screen! LWKMD!

I actually agree with queen i believe the poster slept with the girl reason why hes feeling bad and hesitant to break it off, Anyways your a man. Breaking up is not hard to do|!

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let me giv u another option,u met on facebook and now u see each other live right? send her a message on facebook,simply tell her that u dont want the relationship to go beyond facebook

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@poster,

It happens.

Infact this is the best thing to do, ie if you have not slept with her.

There's no point being in a relationship out of sympathy.

Its bound to fail.

Lest i forget, don't judge people by their looks. Its not the most important thing.

That beautiful face could be ur death trap.

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my guy,from the picture you saw on facebook,you were expecting to much from her that is why.her present condition of living could be responsible and i think she need somebody like you to make her look younger.polish her a little and the difference will be clear.

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i dont have much to say!

just watch and look how DJM did his one facebook disaster,

x

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Whooo LAWD CHILE where you been! I been saying that for WEEKS, BUT NAWL THESE MOFOS got to call me crazy because AT THE END, HE WAS WRONG, simply as that, if he didnt like what he saw when he saw her in person, he should have then told her I am sorry but uhmmm it not going to work however if she continue to see him then it on HER, not him, However, KARMA IS A Dam AND WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND, trust!

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Its funny how people loses their mind over internet pictures & honey combed voice mails, Internet flings is only a game, reality sets in when both parties met, I think both the poster & d babe were so hungry for love or inlove with d idea of being in love & marriage that they forgot to play the game by the rules,

Poster, you are feeling guilty because you made the babe to believe in your love & marriage funny stuffs, you gave her what she was looking for and ure afraid of losing face wth her, Anyway, I wonder why you have to take her home when you didnt like what YOU SAW in d first place,

The decent & best thing is to call her and tell her that she deserves more than u can give or offer her, Tell her she's better off without YOu. I believe she will appreciate u for telling her the TRUTH without further wasting her precious time.

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@Poster how can u discuss marriage with someone that you have not seen, sounds very ridiculous.

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Amazing how people fall in love over the internet these days-without meeting face to face.

Whatever happened to meeting people in the real world.

@OP

You didn't like what you saw in real life? But you liked what you saw online, no?

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u don sample am? If not then get out clause is not so hard. She doesn't know where u live so either u tell her the truth or close all forms of communication with her

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That was my FUGGGIN POINT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  HE TOOK HER HOME WHAT DID IT FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, I am back,

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This is unimaginable.I cant believe it that a relationship can grow to the extent of promising marriage when one has not set his eyes on the would be wife.People should lern to control their feelings and emotion.My candid advice to u is just to call the lady in question and tell her ur mind.Tell her what u feel about her.It will be good for u to be sincere at this point before the relationship escalate.Dont try to play smart.Just be sincere and if the lady is mature enough she will understand with u.Tell her u can be both friends and as thing continue,u should be able to define ur limit as u relate with her.

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Well, the mistake i think you made was taking her to your house to give her what you bought for her from your trip. Despite the fact that you feel for her, you shouldn't have let it got to the stage of taking her home at a fist date meeting, next time keep a low profile on how you feel when on a blind date any other time.

But my advice to you now is to walk straight to her and let her know she cant have you and with your reasons so as not to allow any heart broken soonest cos the earlier the better. What will be will be, no mater how she felt, she's going to get over it any how soon okay, Good Luck.

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Be forthright abd gentle about it. Tell her your mind and don't keep her waiting or hoping.

It is better she knows how you feel now that the boat has left the coast.

I don't think online is the best place to meet a life long partner.

All the best.

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Be forthright and gentle about it. Tell her your mind and don't keep her waiting or hoping.

It is better she knows how you feel now that the boat hasn't left the coast.

I don't think facebook is the best place to meet a life long partner.

All the best.

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na wa o! u shuldnt av bn too atachd! anyway, simply tel her u re maried!nd ur wife just came bak 4rm abroad! lol

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If you read my LAST COMMENT, I TOOK A BET, and I was on point,

Do you see dead people?

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all u have to di is kiss the girl

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One of your SPECIAL ED friends told me,

Oh she said give her back her GRAHAM CRACKERS!

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I think you should tell her now. I hope you didn't have any intimacy with her sha. You shouldn't have intimacy with people you don't like or wouldn't want to be with. Unless, both of you consent to it.

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I bet you was the TOP -45% in your graduating class wasn't you? How sad, It shows!

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where is the psycho nukka bi.tch queeneve?, seems the chill pill worked after all!!

@ poster, u goofed big time, u r still playing in the junior league, grow up man!!!, only kids or heavy play boys talk of luv n marriage to someone online!!, n going by this ur thread, u fall into the kid category.

u dont hv 2 be sueamish abt it, u gotta do what u gotta do, show us u got real cojones in ur sac, n not peanuts!

u cud do this 2 ways.1. THE NICE GUY WAY

OR

2. THE BAD GUY WAY, its ur call bro,

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This is all so funny; the poster is a bad mam because he saw her and still took her home.

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I agree. OP kinda deserves it for promising marriage and confessing love before he met the girl. I think meeting people online is great but you have to realize that you probably won't truly know how you feel about someone until you've met them in person.

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every girl that has said no to something, has always ended up doing it

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Well, let's just say i can't be in her shoes cuz i don't fall in love like that. Especially on web, HELL NOO!

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^^^^^^^^^^^

i then imagine u in the girls shoes

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well, i have to first blame u for getting urself into this mess,

now wat u shud do is call her n tell her, though u like her, u dont see a future with her or betterstill ask for her genotype, if she says AS, sharply claim SS sef

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I will pull up the thread for you, heheheheheheheh

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Do what it is in your mind, but do you love her?

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@ Poster, did you bleep her? Pls clarify this for some people's sanity.

@ Queeneve

Are you the lady in question?? The poster didn't mention bleeping her. So, why are you concluding stuffs and crucifying him?? 

Secondly, you are frustrating this thread. Show some decorum!

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Thahahahaha, i love this lil dramma conversation.

but dont forget that some people's brains dont function right in the face of adversaries, it starts functioning properly after the mistake has been made.

u na guy man, dis kind idea go fit enta ya head instanta but the poster, his spirit was killed the instant he saw the gorilla girl and he lost all power of thoughts. lol, i presume though.

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Purple pill with polk dots? or Blue striped with smiley faces?

I think I prefer the blue one, the purple one remind me of my nightmares with Barney the dinosaur,

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It won't work,

whispering to Goddess, you know pills don't work on personalities right?

Just checking,

Question Goddess, did the pill work for you?

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It's probably best to withdraw, and if she confronts you about your withdrawal, then just tell her the full truth, it'll be painful, but when you play with someone's heart, you have to understand the consequences.

I understand this is the 'dating in the dark' scenario. You fell in love with her personality, but her looks have outweighed everything, and now when you think of her, you don't think of her personality or character, you think of her looks which you're not attracted to.

Is she really all that bad looking? Because you know once you let her go, you may never be able to get her back, especially if she's a catch in terms of her personality. It'll be painful for her to forgive, after all this would be a blast to the ego and confindence.

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@poster

you only got what you deserved for promising marriage and love to someone you never met before.

you shouldnt have given her the gift and, if you had told her before that you bought her something, you should have said you lost it!

here is how the discussion should have been:

poster: hey is that you? you look different!

gal: what do you mean? dont you like me anymore?

Poster: well, to be honest, you look way different than in your pics, i didnt even recognized you. maybe its the fact that on your FB pics you have long silky curly hair(weave) and now this gorimapa style is blinding me.

gal: yeah i wanted to be au naturel for you so i stopped wearing weave. shall we go to your house?

poster: ***making his cell ring**** hello. . . . . yeah?!. . . . what!?. . . . really?!. . . . . oh no!!!. . . . . .NO!!!! I AM ON MY WAY!. . . . . . . .**talking in a stressed voice while putting his jacket*** babe i have to go, emergency at home, we have to reschedule this meeting. i'll call you!

proceed by deleting her number from your phone and blocking her number. gals like that do not deserve an explanation, the only person who does is the one in the picture she sent you who is definitely NOT her. lol!

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Interesting topic I must be frank.

#Queeneve,

You stole the show on this thread and I can only say this,please come back for season 2,because I am dying to start laughing my heart out again probably another thread or who knows on your own primetime show on the E!channel just like Kendra or Holly.

#OP

You no try at all oh!so you mean at your age you can not tell the difference between photoshop and Orogbo-shop !

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never meet anyone from facebook, only done it once in my life, he doesnt look half bad on fb when i met him gosh he was fugly, one abojugigun legbe eti guy, his cheekbone was so high i got scared for my life, i dont like problems so i told him straight away that i'm going home and he should never call me again

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@Poster,

There are a million ways to tell someone you like them without saying it. That way if you change

your mind, you can just tell her that she misread the signals. But since you'd gone too

far already, just tell her what you think anyway. Exactly how you said it here.

She'll hate you right away but in the long run, she'll remember you as one of the very few people

who told her the truth. What she was lacking that you couldn't live without.

Who knows, she might just do a rebranding of herself on facebook to reflect more of her real self.

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I love Nl,wudnt trade Nl for all the friends on fbk.

Thnx 4making me laff queen.You are a true child of ur mother!

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Chairman, Next Time Don't Mention The Word 'Love' When You Ought To Say 'Friend'.

Digital Camera Has Caused A Lot Of Trouble

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Holly crap i'm in Romance! This PDA made me think I was in Sexuality!! Wetin I dey do hia?!?!

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you need to get off this thread cos you're not making any meaningful contribution. i blame your irresponsible father for not using a condom when he paid your mum for sex. . . just know dat DRUGS KILL

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Spikey, Queeneve wa on about the post before yours, not yours. Meanwhile I still dey para for you and this is no truce.

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Queen Eve, what's the deal with your aggression? 'Cept there's something we are not being told. You could pass for the facebook woman this thread is about.

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WAIT!

POSTER IS OLD?!!!! HOW IS AN OLD FUCCER GON BE PICKY?!!! YOU BETTER BE LUCKY AND THANKFUL THAT SHE THINK YOU MKAE HER DAY, YOU MUST NOT BE THAT FINE IF U MEETING CHICKS ONLINE,

SUSPECT!!!!

ANYWAY, GET TO SAWIN OFF UR DICC, IT LUNCH TIME!

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