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What Am I To Do? Please Advise Me.

I met this guy far back as 2005 and he was just like hey i want to be your bf. but i was in another relationship then and he was almost breaking up one then. But we did not get to see very often in 2006/2007. Late 2007 one thing led to the other and i broke up with my bf. But by this time he had been sending me text and calling like no mans business so i decided to give in to him. Not long he just called me and made me to understand that he would like to have me as a wife and not a g/f. I did not give him any response to that but i was really glad about that

As time went on he kept reminding me that am not a girl friend but a wife to be. I eventually told my mum and she was like no way to a non- yoruba guy. He is from Delta and born and bred in Osun state. My Dad is from Ekiti state and my mom from Ogun state. I love this guy and would love to nmarry him. But i attend a K and S church and when i enquired about it at church they also advised that the way is rough i told him this and he fell sick. He asked if there was anything he could do but i said nothing could be done. please bail me before i make a mistake. Thanks for your expected replies.

My mom did not leave a reason as to not to marry a non yoruba guy. I know he might never get over this. please what can i do

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You're old enough to make decision on your own!!

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You're old enough to take decision on your own!

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Apart from this being an over-complicated love story, by tradition and parents, I just want to ask, if you genuinely want to marry this guy, that could help you answer your question. If there was nothing in your way, are you prepared to start wedding plans because honestly, I'm not sure if you're more than just flattered that he wants you as a wife.

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nothing in particular

i plan to go chill with me mates

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i intend 2

gat plans too?

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what does your dad of him?

also which one is K & S?

Edit: C & S. Dont think you should be taking their advice.

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There's no letter "C" in Yoruba alphabet so K is the preferred letter for the older generation who never saw the 4 walls of a school.

Are we CLEAR, now??

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why the heck is it called [b]K [/b]and S?! Shouldn't it be C and S?

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its the other white garment church

there is cele n k n s

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what is a k and s church?

cele?

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Marry the guy!!! Don't let anyone, not even a church person or parent, hold you back from true love. If you listen to them, you will end up being miserable for the rest of your life. You said that you really love him, so do not let a good thing pass you by,

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i don't believe in k and s poo. go and marry him.

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Forgive my ignorance but what is a K and S church

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So your problem is that your mom wants you to marry to a Yoruba boy and no one else?

Well, my bf's eldest sister had the same problem like yours too. Well, somehow. What his sister did was that one day she brough her guy to the house and the guy and her talk with her parents and both told them that its their life and they are old enough to decide. The daughter ended up telling the parents that she really love him and no one else and told them that it is unfair that they could choose whom they wanted to marry to and that she could not choose. The guy really had to prove to her parents that he can be a responsible husband by having a good job and help to buy groceries for the house and stuff like that.

Then after some few months, the parents let the both of them get married.

So try to get your bf over to your parents house and just talk and know each other in general at the same time your bf should try to buy their hearts.

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I am tired of parents meddling into thier children's relationships and love life

I am sick and tired of moronic religious leaders telling people who to marry and who not to marry!!!!

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Follow your heart, trust me, u wont regret it!

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