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What Are You Most Afraid Of When You Start A Relationship?

What are you most afraid of when you just start a new relationship? as for me the first feeling is that God I hope he's not a player. the next thing is rejection, I had rather dump a guy before he dump me.

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Gabby, how much is your teddy worth?

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I really do not have anything to be afraid of as regards topic. As of recent I have developed a heartbreak-proof, in which if I get dumped, which is the most common thing, then ther's nothing to write home about.

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It depends on the comfort level I am on with the lady I want to get involved with. But generally I'm not afraid of anything because, one, I've got nothing to hide and secondly, I'll bring my best to the table and it'll be left for her to make a choice on what to make of the relationship.

And guys, don't go into a relationship when you have a lot in your closet to hide or it'll blow up in your face. Howbeit, some girls I dated in the past somehow raised my suspicion when I wanted to start dating them; and what I feared, happened.

But the worst fear of many is the past being continually played out at repeated intervals.

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ahhhh!there is nothing 2 be afraid of the game is all about ups and down it is either u get screwed or u screw.but if there is anything 2 fear i insincerity and 2much demanding.

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I'm not afraid.

I would be concerned about many things though,

Like giving my full trust to this person

Love not blossoming but instead dying out; growing apart

That after all these years I just wasted my time

etc

etc

etc long list of things would run through the mind

Above all else though, I leave it all to God to sort things out.

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Topic.

Scared of expressing the "I Love you" Syndrome when i know i dont neither do i know if the r/ship would take forever. LoL.

Also the initial lies acording to biola. When u know the truth will def expose someday.

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Noetic: it's more than just insecurity, it's fear, fear of maybe the past repeating itself. Yes, a little of it is insecurity but most decisions made in relationships are in fact less to do with love than they are to do with fear of rejection and insecurity. Relationships these days are rarely inhibited.

To the OP; one of the things that worries me, is him being unable to tolerate some of my habits, and yes of course, the idea that 'this might be too good to be true;, "is the playing me". .

But most of the time, I'm too busy staring into his amazing eyes and thinking of the what happens next and the romance to worry. It's only after he's gone that I will start thinking down the path of insecurities.

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I might get bored eventually.

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im always scared of

what if she catches me that im cheatin on her and dat i have another GF(s) ELSEWHERE!

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Wat is in a r/ship 2 be scared of? Guez notin, cos itz a 2 way tin either u win or u lose. Watz gonna be is gonna be.

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As far as i'm concern, nothing to fear about relationship. Relationship is like a football match where you must have it at the back of your mind either you lose or you win. It is not every relationship lead to marriage.

The major fear i observe from people is when they see their taste ( lifestyle compatable) and they lose it at the end of the game, their fear are: where can i see somebody like this again? or where can i start again.

But the answer is life goes on. when love dies life goes on. when one road close means another will open.

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but yet u aren't afraid of poo, STD is poo and a big load of poo for that matter

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I aint afraid of poo except an STD or an unwanted pregnancy.

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Am afraid of falling in luv,

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Lies and exaggerations!

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i use to be afraid but now, i don't care cuz i have out if you are afriad of something,it turns out to be what you are afraid of is what happens.talk about whatever a man thinketh so is he.

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Increasingly. . . The "M" word. I simply dislike it when a girl brings that up within days of knowing u - its just soooo off-putting!

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nothing really I go in free minded

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having to compromise my freedom. eg having to explain why I did not call or didnt pick phone calls

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lolololololol!!!!! honestly that one na storrrrrrrrrry!

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that 2 days after, I find out that he has this steady babe that everyone except me knows about! but i try not to let the fear bother me too much. if it works out, it does. if it doesnt, it doesnt! dem no de die put

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Am always afraid of break-ups. Cos i know luv fades away.

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i fear he is not going to look after me the way i want - and is going to turn out to be just like every other w*nker i have ever trusted

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D guy turning out 2 be d opposite of wat i expected.

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my independence. . .

I'm my own person, I like to do what I have to do, but under no obligation. . . (This is the first ever relationship though.)

Generally, I think the fear is that of what if? but I say, why worry abt something that hasnt happened?

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@ezinne,what have i done ?

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If she very cute and good too,my fear is that ' i'll break her heart' ,but if she aint fine,my fear is 'what would people say? '

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When i was 1st introduced to the system (stil immature), my fears was that it fails. Always wished it'll last 4eva!

Now i'm older and a bit matured, and i don't see any fear drivin me, I go in2 it wit de philosophy dat 'it either works or fails: either of it is bound to happen'. So, all i do is enjoy it while it lasts.

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That i would be bored. . .

. . .and i get bored easily

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i enter my every relationship with an open mind, if it works good if not good.

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@ Poster

You are simply insecure . . . , low self esteem.

what do I fear in a relationship? cant think of any.

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she tryin to knw everytin abt me in hours n pretends

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