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What Can Be More silly Than This In A R/s?

I dated a virgin(19yrs) 4 about 6months and although with no talks abt marriage 'cos i bliv we were stil young n had a lot more to think about. However, her parents want her to marry early. Her mum asked her to leave me 4 a man that claimed he wanted to marry her. The guy used her and jilted her and she wants to come back. I dnt trust her family anymore and they are very ashamed. Is it wise to give her a second chance afta they betrayed my trust

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Guys, let us be patient with the parents cus they have their daughters best intentions at heart; although, they are sometimes wrong.

To be or not to be, that is the question,

To openly embrace her bosom with the knowledge of past betrayal and the possibilities of future unfaithfulness,

To kiss the lips that was once tainted with poison and now drink her milk with calmness of mind,

To show affection to a pig hoping that she will later become human,

With a the taste of blood, would a lion see her master as bacon,

Stand on dog's tail and tell the tale later on,

But if you happens to beg the difference, count the cost and look well to the path,

For you will soon be on a journey of no return cus you will find her to 'be' or not to 'be',

whatever be is to you!

Written by The real Taken (copyrighted 09)

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@EBILA

what do you mean by she is not worth being with me. 'cos i am not ready to settle down or what. i was always there when she needed me but do u really think at that age, she shd be that desperate.

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@Poster,

She ain't worth bein' wit u,just let her go n look for someone more deservin'.

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guy, which d'u luv & wanna marry? d gal or her virginity, also r U sure U r a virgin?

, lol,

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Does her family respond well 2 u now, anyways at 24 bros u shuld hav sumthing or r u those peeps dat use all their pension money 2 send children 2 school and since u r not ready 4 marriage her parents are so it will always be an issue MOVE ON

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@19 nd her parents on her neck 2get married.

Isn't d yr 2009 or do they still think d yr is 1979.

D gal is still dependent, trying 2please her parents, not knowing what she wants nd emotional insecure.

Her parents just gave U an easy pass 2focus.

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No many people are of independent thoughts. . .some even at 30 still have no independent thoughts. And well with parents, sometimes it's nearly impossible.

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R u asking me to go 4 sum1 younger than her?

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24! You just a year than me men you ain't financially sound.There's boyfriend material and husband material and you are the former leave her for more serious suitors if they sent her packin how would cater for her.Am sure you haven't done service that leave you with max of a 40k job.Better face your career you too young.Peace

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@ 19, she's too young to have her say, dat age girls are stil scared to admit to thier folks about having a bf how much more challenging thier authority on choice of a hubby. Like most have said here, b rest assured that taking her back would have its issues. Like xta change, nd more interfarance from her parents. I think you should just let her be cos u are niether ready or capable to the challenges ahead.

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Guy take back the the girl like i told you, especially if u still like her. she is now a woman, well baked for you, no more excuses. Infact u now have the real thing. I wish u all the best.

Dont mind anybody telling you that the fact that u dont have mony u shouldnt have a girl. Thats complete bullshit. Allu u need to have a girl is selfesteem, confidence and ambition.

even touts on the street have girlfriend, what more of a graduate. the only thing u need do now is to define the relationship, solidify it. dont let your financial condition determine your role as a man.

you see, if u had slept with her is the first place she wouldnt have left you that easily for the other man. but now u have the chance to make her ur woman.

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whats the educational background of the girl? is she not a student??

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What is so normal around a number of countries? Forcing marriage on a 19 year old girl? Or making off financial gains from marriage?

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People in general cannot stand by their decisions.  Sad.

It's so normal around a number of countries around that world that it's scary.

Since you feel too young.  .  .you focus more on yourself now.

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@Poster

I do not think she's the right girl for you. First of all, she's 19 and I don't see why a 19 year old should be pressured into marriage by her parents unless of course they don't have better plans for her. There are parents who want their daughters to succeed and be a good, established and successful woman before they get married but in her case I see otherwise.

I am almost confident that her parents are looking to make off some financial gains from shipping her to a matrimonial home. Force marriage on a 19 year old is way too absurd! Who does that these days?

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She's the only girl. He younger sista died a few years ago. Bt not all r/s lead to marriage.

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Money can be a crashing factor in a serious relationship. Take this thing like a man, its experience.

Take her back if you still value her (except she has older sisters, in which case run! The parents have done it before and will do it again).

. . .But I suspect that manly pride might be the real obstacle (someone was there first in what was rightfully yours).

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What? You think she'd want to play suga mama and take care of you?

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Am 24? Are u tryin to say that money is the driving factor in a serious r/s.

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But i dnt even have a job because i just graduated. Is that why they can't wait? Besides, i dnt bliv that i hv to rush into marriage.

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I feel bad for her cuz her family drove her to it.

If she stood by you, her family would have disowned her.

Then, would you have taken care of her, take her in, be responsible for her expenses etc?

Its not so easy, you see. I'm sure she wanted you.

But age 19, she still lives under her parents umbrella.

Her parents is who you should be angry with.

I mean, did she encourage her parents decisions?

We musn't be too quick to judge na

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@frank

Wonder why i can resist answering ur posts. Seriously, when last did u visit yaba left?

@post

No one can make the decision for u bro, u have to take the bulls by the horns and decide what u want. Take care

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i just think she is more useful to u now than before. moreover she has gotten more experience, her hearts been broken unlike when she was suffering from the ignorance called virginity virginity

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, but she wanted someone that wd marry her to disvirgin her bt she gt it all wrong n is now paying 4 her naivety.

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what do u mean by the man used her and dumped her?

well go back and confirm if she is still a virgin, if she is not, good for u. now u have a woman and not a girl.

the man only came in and did what u wouldnt do for 6whole months.

u must go back and recapture u lost moments with her. I promise u that by the time u are into her this time, u will forget weather she left u b4 or not

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I am very impatient with children.They can't make a decision and stand by it.

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No. . .  Seriously. Leave her for her family, they will still come into the picture again and again. I also have a problem with the girl doing as she was told - dating someone she didnt even know anything of, simply cos mummy and daddy said so. . .  She's obviously still dependent on them and at 19 will remain so for a long while.

Girls who cannot utter a complete sentence without mentioning something about their daddies or mummies are still kids and need to be left alone

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