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What Can You Not Forgive Your Spouse?

The topic says it all. I don't think there's something I really can't forgive my spouse, though may not forget in a haste. Does not forgetting mean dat one hasn't really forgiven?

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INFIDELITY - I can't overcome the betrayal of trust. Also makes me feel like our commitment was vain. Even if I maybe forgive you, I won't be able to forget and that alone will cripple our relationship because I will hound you about it.

No need to apologize either. I won't wait for an apology.

Most apologies are done to relieve a bogged down conscience or out of compulsion and not necessarily out of sincerity. Even if you tender a heartfelt apology, I would be too disgusted by your presence to continue to live with you or be around you. Moreover, I won't be able to forgive myself if I forgive you and it happens again. Fooled once shame on me, fooled twice the joke's on me.

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Once is even too much for me, my house belongs to my Mom and if my spouse should ever try it, she'll have to GO. If she can disrespect my mom in my house only God know what else she can do.

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Awesome topic.  I can't wait to add more.

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I can never forgive my spouse if she disrespect my mom in my house.

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If you kill except in self defense or accidentally I can never forgive you enough to take you back

if you, my spouse, intentionally cause me physical harm i can't forgive you. you will make me paranoid everytime i am around you.  I cannot trust you.

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Nothing? You guys must be kidding or you must be gods or something.

Anything that leaves me direly vulnerable and betrayed.

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Would you forgive him if you caught him in the act on your matrimonial bed with some slut?

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I tink i can 4gve him abt anytin xcept him murderin me.

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"To err is human, to forgive divine". There's nothing I cannot forgive him but some things I would never forget.

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There is nothing that I can't forgive, but that is, if it's done once; If it goes on as a habit or done repeatedly, I'm quite sure my spirit will not accept it.

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I can never 4give my spouse 4 promiscuity or infidelity eventhough i forgive her my mind wil neva 4get it forever, so d best is let her go.

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@Kevinj: which one 'be decite'? Nawa o!

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Sleeping with my best friend or friends, or dropping STDs on me.

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Word! But infidelity go hard for me o after all d good things I've done 4 her?!

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I cant get over infidelity and abuse. I dont have a spouse, but if I did, I would never be able to get over infidelity and abuse. I think that it takes alot to abuse a person. You dont ever abuse a person you love/respect. There is this sort of respect (i find it difficult to explain but its very similar to what you have for a parent; you love them so much, you become almost fearful of the person) that you have for a partner that prevents you from harming them even when you have the opportunity to, and when they have done you wrong.

So, to me, everything is forgivable. I would always forgive because to forgive, is to release yourself from the burden that the pain holds. But I cant get over it. The relationship would have to be over.

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