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What'd You Do? Walk Away Or Stay? Men, Air Your Opinions!

If you were dating a girl and she by chance was a virgin, you both have plans of getting married in the near future. You have never had doubts that she's a perfect woman. One night, some hoodlums lurking around find their way into your house, Molested your fiancee right in your face. If you were the guy in this situation, what would you do? Walk away or continue the relationship and subsequently get married to her?

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I think the insult might come into play where there's no respect for each other. I do know there are rough times in relationships but are they all insulting? I still think it'd be easier on the man than a woman in such conditions.

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Even if there was no infections or permanent dysfunction of any sort. . .  It would be a reference point. A point of malicious attacks when there's a disagreement or quarel as there will always be in a relationship. Imagine u as the guy in question, having to react when she says something like "It seems that gay session u had yrs ago has made u incapable of seeing reason". I still think, even if the woman stays, it will affect the relationship and eventually cause it to crash. Because most women as we know them, speak first then reason later.

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So in your terms, what would you call it?

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It could be d same as whitlexi had said, terminal infection or sum disease, also emotionally, a thing of d mind but I believe it happens more in women like d man leaving her if she was Molested than d other way round. Honestly I can't imagine myself saying a man was Molested n even if it was so, still find it hard 2 call it molest lol

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Honestly speaking 4 myself, if it was me, after thorough check up, he' alrite, I would stay. It would almost b d same thing as having sex with other people b4 we decided 2 commit nd all nd I love him so much, I would.

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OK! Let me ask you, if the man was the one Molested, no terminal infections whatsoever, no permanent BehindBased dysfunction, do you think any woman would stay? What will you do? In my opinion, some women will stay some won't.

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Do you by chance know why some women won't stay?

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@the seeker- trust me on this, I agree with him nd his case but some of us were talking what if that was not d case here, no terminal infection nd all that

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I like him very much because he's attempting to create a defense line for his cause. He'd make a good criminal attorney. He's a front liner.

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Lol @ whitlexi with his terminal infection nd all, of cause there would b compromise, but in dis case, such wasn't mentioned, only dat she was disvirgined nd Molested by others not him

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I am not sure any woman would want to endure the drama when it comes to possible terminal infection. She will compromise.

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Let's twist the question a bit. . . So this dude is really nice and seems to be the perfect one for u when suddenly, just before your marriage, some homosexual armed robbers broke in and gave it to him real rough from his behind - leaving him with a possible terminal infection and a permanent BehindBased dysfunction which meant that he could no longer control how or when he made doodoo.

Would u, as a loving prospective wife, still go ahead with the marriage, or will u thank God the marriage has not yet happened?

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Seeing as it happened just before marriage, i reiterate: I no marry abeg!

That has absolutely nothing to do with her virginity, or the fact that she got Molested. People get Molested everyday - its no biggie. Some dont even remember they were Molested when they wake up the next day after a drunken night - There was actually a court case in those lines recently.

Nobody is saying molest is a good thing, but personally, i dont see any big deal in it - some women actually like it rough.

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ignorant is the problem.  my end dey cool, no wahala yet.

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It's a permanent stigma in her life. Which is hard to deal with. Still baffles me why some men condescend To Molest. I wish this unfortunate habit halts but I'm not sure that will happen. I am fine, the week is burning out like calorie. How's it up @your end?

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you can imagine! molest is not an easy thing to have to deal it. and am really fed up with blaming the victim thing. molest is a personal violation and the victims needs all the help and support they can get not some whining Bottom baby called his bf. gosh, this kinda tells the girl the kinda punk Bottom bf she has . anyways am fine and you?

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Some men. . .r just dumb!!

Seeing someone else uncock her bottle,would hurt, but thats NOT the end of the world&NO reason to backout of marrying her. . after all, most LADIES getting married today, ALREADY have had their "congos" shined. . .so, it's nuffin new

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It has been a rampant modus operandi on NL that everyone monitors your response and slay you if it doesn't go in line with theirs. In the actual sense, I believe people have their reasons for their respective opinions. Why would you consider opting out? Just maybe I might understand my friend's decision a little bit more.

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Seeing as it happened just before marriage, it must be a warning. . .  She might seem perfect but she's definitely bad news.

I no marry abeg.

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so oga cos some misfortune came calling, u up and run?

soo much for love!

@me,

i go marry am with soo much joy, and if the brideprice nah 2 naira i go opt for 4naiara.

thats how much i wud value her, to make her know her worth to me was not in her virginity.

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I am starting to feel there is more to it. However, I remember how he constantly praised her. Now I'm wondering what happened to all those accolades.

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Ur friend must have something else in mind, mayb I don't understand 'cos I'm not him but still that should not b enuf reason 2 opt out. Its not fair on d girl.

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He may not have intended it to be mean but it did come through as being mean. This happened to a friend of mine, I have tried to make him see things from a different perspective yet, he is bent of opting out of the relationship. The babe's refusal to continue the relationship is also not helping matters. She actually wants the relationship to continue but the guy's lousy reactions to her is putting her off.

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@ post- I don't think Jaybee was trying 2b mean but d question itself was tricky nd more like duh of cause y would I want 2 leave because she was Molested in my presence?

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I understand where your coming from. But the status here is they are still not married. I was talking to the guy and he said he can't possibly get over the scenario. He said each time he sees her, he remembers the night and how it happened. I have ceaselessly tried talking him out of that opinion but he wouldn't bulge. Whether or not I was already married, I'd stay because it was never any of her intentions to be Molested.

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some questions sef na wa, its hard to say wat one wld do in such a situation, i get a sneaky feeling this dude is more concerned the hoodlums tore the rubber not him, u know that feeling u get when u get a brand new laptop n u get to peel off the plasticy film covering , hmmm yum yum

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Lol @ post. U should also ask urself wat if u both were married nd for years, this happens, would u leave? Of cause I would stay, y would I want to leave?

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