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What Do I Do? I Need Help Fast, Cos Am Loosing It.

OK i really need help here

I have been dating my girl for more than three years now, and i love her so much.

But the problem is am very very sexually active, but she doesn't like sex.and in the

three years of d relationship i don't think we've had it up to 15 times Grin. sure

and right now am loosing control more like am getting pissed off. and to worsen the matter

am tall and very handsome, am not bragging but some girls are bold enough to even woo me

for themselves(am a musician and also easy going),even when they know that i have a girl.

The worst part is even when i choose to cheat i will be very very uncomfortable doing it,

and most time i feel a lot of regret.i have tried talking to her about the issue but at the end of the day

nothing changes, she likes to be cuddled and treated like a queen. i don't have a problem with that

and i must say that am confident that she is not cheating. she is really a good girl but she lacks sexual expression.

what do i do? i need help fast, cos am loosing it. Oops.

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@ michelin

hahaha

@topic

the main issue is that she normally feels guilty afterwards. therefore she trys not to indulge.

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@ poster

Lose it make person for hear word. Haba, na only you get joystick?

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Take a retreat and reassess your self. purge your self of sexual indulgence

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@ topic ,

you are definitely doing everything wrong, i know a lot of religious girls who do not wish to have sex but when they are with the right people they keep on asking why they cant resist these guys.

you definitely have not succeeded in making her surrender her sexual life to you, when you do the only option she has not to have sex is to stay away from seeing you, because am confident you dont plan from day break, that TODAY , you must have sex, but when in the mood and a condusive environment, HOW MAN GO DO NA?

i suspect you are rushing things a bit and that can kill the mood, on certain occasions there are girls you need to spend as much as 4hours with to put them in the right mood. men are more mechanical you know.

i wish you luck.

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Any woman that doesnt enjoy quality sex is either not into u or not normal.

Work the rest out

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The problem might be how she seels about premarital sex. My fear for you is that trying to coerce her into "not feeling guilty" about premarital sex now might actually work against your post marital sexual life. It's really a dicey situation there.

Why don't you work with her so that you guys can wait till she's ready. There's nothing like making love to a woman that is ready. it's pure heaven on earth.

She might also have a deeper respect for you if you respect her wishes.

You can let me know (from this thread) if you want me to expantiate on anything I've said.

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Speaking from personal experience:

i did not like having sex with my exhusband at all. he was doing his job as a husband in and out of the bedroom. I am a very highly sexual person but was not so with him. I knew i had to have sex every three days so i counted down the days between acts of sex. I pretended to enjoy it and found ways to make it over quickly.

I would look at what you are doing or not doing that is turning this woman off to you. If he ever would have asked me, come to think of it he did, i lied. I was not who i am today. Today if he was to ask i would tell him it was 3 inches on the hard and you were not a man outside of the bedroom.

Just cuz other women want you does not mean that she does. We need our men to be men both in the bedroom and out of it.

JMO

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its either your looks are misleading you, no b fine boy woman go chop. you must know hw to touch her on the right spot, at the right time, in the right place, in the right way,

but if you have done everything, and you think its the born again thing, then make her denounce christ, i bet this will allow the devil sow seed of fornication in her and by the time u know it, you are running and complaining she is becoming a prostitute

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don't really think that there is much you can do, sorry dear

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