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My ex boyfriend sent me a card on valentine's day. I wasn't expecting anything since we're not together anymore. I didn't want to be rude so i sent him a text saying "thanks". . .Now the whole situation bothers me. I broke up with him 3 weeks ago coz he was misbehaving. I have to be honest to myself, i still love him. I've dated a few guys before him but he's the first one i fell for. . . I feel like i should talk to him but i have no clue what to say, i'm not even sure if i want him back.

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@Kokoye

FYI i'm in my 20's.

@Tatase, Woye77, Duniverse

It's a well know fact, stated by many that i can have too much pride sometimes. But you have to understand his behaviors led me to end things. So i think if he's remorseful he should be more proactive and show me that he still cares, Why can he swallow his pride and say he messed up ? I'm just tired of compromising. . .Lately i've put my feelings aside to analyze the whole situation and i realize that we don't communicate at all. It's always been me talking so if he really cares why doesn't he come out of his comfort zone for once. . .Anyways i should stop whining and let it be, if God wants it to happen, it will.

One more thing, he sent me a text saying he really meant what he wrote in the card. My reply was: " Meanwhile your actions show otherwise". Still now he hasn't say anything

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I think if you're still so conflicted about the relationship, you should call him. Not necessarily to reconcile or anything, but just to discuss things. For the sake of closure, or for the sake of seeing if there's anything salvageable from your relationship. It might not make anything better but at least in the future, you'll be able to say you gave it a last effort.

Just start the convo casually like, "How are you? How've you been? I was surprised to get a vals card from you. . ." and take it from there. Maybe it will lead to you guys discussing your issues, but at the very least you might discover from him why exactly he sent you the card.

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good. Now we are getting somewhere.

Now how is he supposed to have the confidence to do all these things when you have broken up with him?

Again, he has shown he still wants you by sending the card

You then need to encourage and motivate him to do the things you want.

So how do you want to go about this? definately not thru Nairaland

You want him to open his mouth . . .why dont you teach him by opening yours?

goodluck if you truly want him.

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Girl if u still love or like him i think u should let him know.

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@kokoye

You're right i'm not sure if i want him back. You want to know what i want ? Here we go:

I want him to truly apologize for ignoring me

I want him to tell me clearly what he thinks and stop assuming that i already know

And most importantly I want him to realize that i'm different from his ex girlfriends.

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^^^^

Mark the bolded words. what do you really want?

he already sent you a card on valentine's day so he placed the ball in your court. Since you broke up with him, you should make the next move if you truly want him.

. . .but of course, you are still not sure if you want him. That's why the smart guy played safe by sending you a card, even though you broke up with him.

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well he obviously still wants you

thats why he sent the card

but it does sound a bit like one of those 'games men play'

if ur unfamiliar i cannot be bothered to explain! sawy

neways wait for him to call u, ask him what he wants and then see if ur ok with it

but dont forget there is a reason why u broke up

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