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What Do U Do About This Type Of Girl?

U meet a girl somewhere in a conference and u become friends. along the line u build a relationship with her and she agrees. duing this few weeks, u're friendship graduates to the kissing and necking stage, and deep inside u u know u want to have something special with this girl. u get to know her as days pass by and u see that having a relationship with her is a possibility.

Later on u observe the girl withdraing into herself, hardly acknowledges ur texts and calls, nd the only time she calls u is when she has a little problem or the other nd she needs ur help. U know she has been going through some stress at work and at some failed attempts to get another job. being the gentleman u are, u try to ignore her behaviour and support her in these her trying periods, but still she behaves the same, if not worse. Things both of u were into together, things that both of u hoped the best for, she suddenly cut u off from, and when u ask, she ignores u. it finally gets to a stage she totally cuts u off from anything concerning herself.

To now annoy u further, she tells u that u offended her, but when u ask her what u did, she says u should know, and if u don't, she'll not bother telling u. u cut her off for a few days, and when next she sees u, she tells u that u have changed these past few months, she doesn't know what ur problem is, and she doesn't like what u are doing to her. that finally breaks the camel's back, and u decide not to call her again. but for the past few days, she's been calling u, saying she needs u. Ur friends that have met her say she has an attitude and air about her, nd that u should do away with her.

What do u do? Do u accept their advice? or do u still try to stick around and make it work?

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pls may be she is tring u. but the fat is dat u should let her be 4 now and don't tak her as every thing(stop every contact and wen she keep on callin u den u can consider her. i no is not easy becus it has happen 2 me and dat was wat i did and she came begin me. and now we bot luv each other. just be careful with her if she is not having a serious in luv wit anoder guy.

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My advice? Move on brother. There are loads of stressfree chicks out there, why bother with this one

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What Do U Do About This Type Of Girl?

I will let her be,Her Confusion Syndrome might be Highly Infectious.

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This episode happened in Nigeria but the guy has left the country. i asked him about hw far with the babe in question, nd he told me he finally had it with her attitude nd decided to dump her sorry Bottom. according to him, he called the girl one morning nd told her he was in her neighbourhood nd wanted to odrop in and say hi. the girl was like she had not bathed nd that he should not come. he then said if she doesn't want him to come in, he'll just wait in the car till she is done. she then told him that ehn, people had been telling his brother(whom she was staying with) that a guy was always coming to see her, that she doesn't like her brother's anger, blah blah, this, that, one tin one tin. guess my guy just got upset right there nd told the babe ok, see ya later then. he never called her afterwards nd he never called her again.

he told me that he later sent the girl a text when he was about travelling, telling her to be a good girl nd wishing her the best that life can give. i guess that summarises it all. i think he did the right thing sha.

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why dont u stik around 4 a while and also show her some money and ice cream. i'm very shure she will treat u well after d money and icecream cuz dats the babes' God.

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back mann where exactly in the world r u?

i have a reason for asking

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Maybe it was what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. She probably wasn't thinking of taking it beyond the area where you met her.

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Yes ooo Penny, I heard that as well. My bf always tells me that in Naija, if a man is not rich, he is considered worthless to most lNaija ladies eyes. He said most Naija girls are very materialistic but hey! What do we know, I say Malaysian girls are very VERY materialistic!

I somehow do not really like to hear iwhat my bf tells me because they are many Naija ladies which I've met whom are like mothers to me. They are so full with motherly affections (which include those whom are in their teens). . . I dont know how to describe but I like it.

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They give the impression that they are watching you but at the same time they are chopping your money.But money is a finite commodity. When you consider the opportunity cost of this relationship a wise naija guy will usually insist on an early committal (preferably at first date!) Many relationships thrive very well thereafter (irrespective of what you heard) because the d@#$ will always answer when called on not minding if it got in at first date or not.Otherwise our man moves on.

The mugu will stay back and become the farm for babe.In the interest of the babe he had better remain a mugu because the moment he becomes wise then there is serious trouble.

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sorry, i meant "some girls". i don change am.

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Guy, stop generalizing. Every girl on earth is different in their own way. Like I said, tell her what are you not comfortable with and see what is her actions and reactions.

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But looking at the situation, don't u feel the guy seems to be being taken for a ride? Atimes, some girls can be funny. A guy might think he's trying to win the girl's affection, meanwhile the girl herself is laughing behind his back at his "naivety and stupidity", feeling that she should just continue to use the poor dude to solve any problem she feels he can solve for her. don't u think the girl should know that she's behaving out of context, should she not know she's hurting his feelings? or is the girl just plain Dumb and Immature?

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Guy, I am in the same shoes with u, my gurl just resumed school in owerri as a jambite, and ever since she left, she has been acting anyhow, I am adhering to her negative behaviour, which is the key to still stick on to the one u love, thats if u love her. So jst keep playing along, she'll get back to her senses.

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What I can say is that we are all humans and none of us were born perfect. She could have behave as such without even realizing it and you shouldnt even want to break up with her without consolling her. Have you spoken to her about how you feel when she behaves as such before emerging yourself to a breakup?

Im advising you based on what ive experienced. I have done many bad things in the past towards my bf and I actually did not realize it untill he told me what Ive done which upsets him.

I realize it and I appreciate him telling me cause then I would know in the future on what does he like and what does he not like and I change. I will also tell him the same and he would try to change.

It has made our relationship stronger and wiser.

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But don't u think the time is rather too short for her to begin acting that way? For heaven's sake, they just met hardly 3 months ago!!!

and by the way, love is something that is gradually built over time, not something that comes just like that. if she behaves like this early in the relationship, what assurance can u give the guy to still accept the girl when she keeps giving him this treatment?

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tink she deserves a second chance, that is not enough reason to let her go ok?

she's a woman and before u can undastnd a woman, u need to tolerate them alot

i still belive more of this are yet to come but u need to be a man, do not let her go except u neva loved her from the start

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The girl is obviously one of the immature types. Stick around and play the game if it is worth your while otherwise take broom sweep am comot quick.

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You are talking in parables.Please explain yourself better.You got me confused

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SUMMARY: U meet a girl somewhere, and u interact enough to start a relationship with her. Along the line she startts changing and trating u like SH@T!! But when u decide to want to end things and free urself of all the stress, she changes yet again and wants to be ur friend again.

Shey make i summarize the summary again?

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