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What Do U Do When The Wrong One Loves You Right?

Sometimes in life things don't always happen the way we plan. When it comes to love, we always dream of a Hollywood ending or a Cinderella ending. It's not always like that, for instance, you fall in love with a guy who you are ready to do anything and go anywhere for and you just believe he is the one.

Then comes this other guy who loves you right and is ready to do anything for you but you just don't feel the same way. What do you do when the wrong one loves you right and the one you love is scared of committment

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@op get get no want ,want want no get.whats luv?

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girl why are you trying to console your self, and since you said you know what to do and you are ok why did you open the tread, hmm some people sometimes hmm always looking for what to say and what people will say, why don't you go about jumping from one guy to another to fined the one that loves you, am sure is still your attitude towards him that made him to feel reluctant about the relationship, hmm be careful.

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we way cool, wish you the best and keep the house posted.

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am not a babe itgurilie, am a guy,

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babe you are right, it has to be reciprocal, but from the look of things your guy isnt reciprocating as much as he ought to right now, and you are

creating excuses for him, cos you love him.

I'd rather be loved first then fall in love as time goes. Life is so blissful when you have someone truly loving you, most especially if you are a lady.

Men are by nature polygamists, so when you settle down with a guy you love much more than he does, you give him a go ahead for promiscuity.

But if the reverse were the case, then you'll experience bliss all the way through.

Have a talk about your future with this guy you love, then get a cue of his feelings for you.

Dont forget to pray too.

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lets be frank, in a real sense, you are not being selfish when you stay with the one who shows you much affection, you are just protecting your

interest. Cos the one you claim to be in love with right now, didnt just develop overnight. love takes time. I suggest examine this 'wrong' guy motive, if possible stay off the bed with him and watch things.

It would be disastrous if this 'right' guy comes up with a little excuse, say 'no money' and tells you he needs some 'space' to fix things.

I'd rather be loved than to love.

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I think Celine Dion in one of her songs said,''i can't stop,i can't hide,i can't resist it wen d wrong 1 luvs u right''. I totally agree wt her, if d wrong 1 luvs me right i'll go wt d flow n b4 u knw it he wld av become d right 1

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this is a simply case of

'ladies love the guys that aint in love with them, but aint into the ones that love them'

i think it has nofin to do with compactibility, but just that when u ladies feel someone is in love wit u, u get bored and start looking for 'new challenges' ie guys u aint really sure of their love.

and b4 u haul stones at me, am not a woman-hater

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Not sure why we so much like to complicate matters of the heart. Just wait for the one who loves you the right way and you know you can love them the right way in return

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This is what the option of choice has caused us.

Because we can now choose between people whom we love, we live more in a world of fantasy. Who loves and who does not love? How do you say you love someone or you don't? Is love not the natural affection that grows amongst friends because you allow it? Is friendship not meant to be mutual and symbiotic?

Although I may sound off topic, but for those in the OP's situation, my advise is stick to the person who believes he is in love with you because he has chosen to and you have also in return chosen to love him back. Choose the person who aligns to your dream / future because that will always see you through since you share same dreams. Love grows over time once we give it the chance to.

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You said it already. That's just plain selfish. And trust me, not every1 is t[i]hat[/i] selfish!

Preoccupation for mid summer. Wow. Am I a hobby or something. . . ?

When you upload your pic, then I'll reciprocate, then we'll compare notes on ugliness

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MrBrownJay does the email on your profile still function?

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@Poster

Its good you've been able to love your current partner now but if you're not sure about how he feels or if you know he doesn't feel the same way, I'd advise you to step back and think it through properly. Its not worth it being in sth wen you're sure you're not getting back wat you deserve.

I can partly relate to your situation, but in this case, it was me who didn't love the girl as much as she did me. I tried for some months to see if the relationship could work and for her she was loving me more everyday, but I didn't feel anything for her and one day I told her I had to break it off cos I had tried and it just wasn't working for me. She cried, got angry and said some nasty things for breaking her heart n all. I did it cos i know she was a good person and deserved better. I couldn't give her wat she deserved and I believe I did the right thing by telling her the honest truth. I know she hates me now, but I'm very positive she would thank me for doing what I did in the future.

So madam you need to be very sure about this before taking any major decision,

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this is a tough question. I cant really reply to it but I guess it depends

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Thought u were reading,

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otoks has said it right, d guy is going to efrebor her soon. cos she just keeps deceiving herself that this discussion has made her love him more, babe when a guy loves you, i mean truly loves you, he will show it in every way, am a guy and many guys will agree with me on this.

Stop consoling yourself that he'll change and love you more. He wont gal.

For me its better to be adored and loved by someone i dont really 'love' becos i'll have more peace of mind, than to keep making efforts to love someone who doesnt reciprocate. Talk about being selfish, but we humans are natural egoists.

A word they say is enuf for the wise. Examine this other guys motive, and try loving him over time. You will have peace, and wont post anoda topic here again for advice.

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@deep soul

where are you?the port harcout thing aint looking good, though you seem like a preoccupation for mid summer.twud hav been nice to hav a drink sometime though.

wait!!! sorry ,got to check ur face out first.hope u aint solange knowles like some ugly chicks shamed of they ugly faces

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I advice you follow ur heart and your instincts, the other guy pestering you is just a disttraction from ur focus, he can not be inlove or want to marry someone he hardly knows only from hear say, that is bullsh*t.

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^^lol. . .I detest that word - efrebor.

But IT Girl has said she isn't fornicating so I guess advising her to use condoms would be out of place. . .?

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The one ITgirlie loves is going to efrebor her and afterward i hope you all be around for the pity party.

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Then, love them wrongly

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Why Cant Nigerians change "traveling cultures". WHy cant we learn to sit our Bottom down in our country and build a great nation just like other countries. Traveling happens to be destiny here. GJ is crazy to have gone travellng as if he has no mobile phone or fax machine or email to say "Thank You for holding Yaradua hostage" to the Arab nation. Your granchildren will come and live in A country without electricity Jonathan, and you will never forget that you had the opportunity but spent it traveling.

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Am a changed man, Girl u've thought me to be real good, could u imagine that i took the courage to call the girl and inform her my plans and seek for forgiveness and she accepted that and said that am a nice person that i should not 4get calling her.

ITGURElie, U change my mind, Love u girl! Bravaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

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2morrow is gone and never will come back, am about settling down soon and she saw me on last Xmas with a car, cus i came back from abroad suffering and they thought that am a well established person. They need the money will i need the things as i told u earlier. We struggle hard to earns the cash , Men's have different thought when they are dealing with women!

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lightning dont strike twice @ the same spot. either you love more or they love you more.  life's full of hard choices, you never rest until u kpeme. right one left one wrong one. its all about u.

do you want to give or do you want to take. what makes you feel good.they're both the same. the one that loves right and the one you love right.

But i think the one you love right is better. dem gon' break your hear sister. the one that loves you right, if they ever stop loving you and you never loved them in the first place. ITS HELL BABY. ITS HELL. thats cat and mouse in a cage. I mean, there's a reason why you chose that blue shirt you just like over the red shirt other people like.

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It's unfair of you to treat her that way don't you have a sister

Anyway, the second guy knows I'm in love with someone and there's no way I'm gonna leave my guy

He's the one who calls, I don't feel anything for him, he just believes he's the one I won't be fooled cos right now, I know what I want and I've gotten it.Be good

Yes I have, but she loves money while i like her thing vice versa

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@newest,wot does dat mean?

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@mamagee,dat i say is a fact!

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You get married to the "wrong" one that loves you most cause you wouldn't notice anything wrong about him.

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@omega25red,i realy do agree wiv wot u said cos i feel dats jst the best tin 2 do wen one is in a situation like dis u av no other option dan 2 let go d both.it realy doesn't mak any sense dating som1 who luvs u n u dnt luv him in reton or vice-versa.i'v bin in dat shoe(d guy luvd me),i jst had 2 let him go cos i had no atom of luv 4 him,it wasn't ez though.

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@jerry247

yea u r right, I'm trusting God for his direction.

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This scenario seems to happen all the time and it really does get one a bit disturbed. Take a long look at that wrong person and see if an understanding can be reached on some vital points. It does not matter how much or how right the person loves you. If that perception is poor then you just have to shake your head, say a prayer and move on.

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@ Poster, you should leave the one you love and love the wrong one that loves you right. With time, you will get to love him or her. I am talking from experience.

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Don't get confused what makes one wrong and another right? is it the feelings or the ability to compliment one and meet ones needs? we are all humans and there is need to be loved at all times irrespective of whether we feel like or not. Now question yourself do you always feel the same way everytime? there are many reasons why one feels one way sometimes and another way some other times that we cant fully understand. It may be physiological, biochemical (as a result of hormones), stress related etc, will it be fair on you then if your partner "feels" in love with you today and does all those nice things and tomorrow due to some unknown reason "feels" he/she is not in love and does nasty things. Think about it. relationships based on feelings alone cannot last the test of time and will only be endured. You have to know yourself and look out for qualities which compliment you in a man some of which will come naturally and some which you can only get through effective communication and understanding. THE RIGHT ONE IS THE ONE YOU SEES YOU AS HUMAN, AND IS READY TO STAND IN THAT GAP TO MEET YOUR NEEDS KNOWING FULLY WELL THAT YOU ARE READY TO DO SAME. A word is enough for the wise.

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you cant just help but kick them out, really, it's a waste of time

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Simple, make the wrong one who loves u right the right one and make the wrong one who loves u wrong the gonner. In other words, open your eyes and kick Bottom. lol!

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please go for the one who loves you and never manage to cope with who does not love you.love they say grow with time,you may later fall for the person who you did not love at the initial stage but if you are unable to,as it av bin said by some people expreience.just bow out of the relationship as they did,but give it a long time and let him or her know your feelings.

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U re right girl cos am currently in the same situation, But ansure to Pray over this and u will definately find the answer u are looking for; am wishing you good luck in ur persuit.

@lallafati its true and this time am so close to my God and i feel it.I belive God also kws what is Good for us and he will definately direct our heart desires to us as far as U seek for it in prayers.

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Beauty woman, is another man's slave.

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I will just say face your current relationship and ignore the other guy. You already said you don't see him the way he sees you or a long term relationship with him. In life we always wonder what could hv been. What makes you think if you date the second guy, one yr into the relationship he will still treat you right. Now he is still trying to get you and convince you. That's when we men are at our best.

You can just do like an average guy. Except it is totally bad, why bother moving on to another woman when you know you will hv to go thru the same sh*t all over with the next one.

Work out whatever issues you have with your current guy. If you move on to the next 'mr right' and you have issues again ( esp with ur compatibility issues) wetin go happen?

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Plz, just take your time to know what who want for yourself, do not start what u can not finish, I strongly believe there is a perfect partner for everyone on earth, it only depends on how u go about it. Relationship is the time for u to talk about issues and individual differences. Follow your heart and don't let anyone waste your time and be sincere to yourself when choosing the right partner. LOVE ANSWERETH ALL THINGS, always put that at the back of ur mind.

For me , I want to love and be loved in return, with the right person with so much sincerity and faithfulness. When u are in love, you will discover so much peace in your heart  cos love is a good thing to experience.

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I'm in almost the same situation except I'm not dating anybody right now. The "wrong" person in this case has exactly some of the main qualities I would be looking for in a life partner. But cultural differences and other practical things prevent me from me giving this a chance. It seems that some of your dilemma has been resolved but nonetheless whenever you feel confused esp abt emotions I think you should take actual "physical" and "emotional" time off the whole situation, including thinking about it too much. Things often become clearer when we are able to distance ourselves and look at it from somewhat of distanced perspective. Good luck!

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So how do u know 2nd guy loves u cos he calls?

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So you have someone that loves you but you are chasing a dream. Thats why is not good to be the nice loving and caring guy.

True talk because girls never likes the guys that shows too much love rather they prefer the guys that acts like they dont feel anything for the gurl

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That is exactly what i am going through now, i know he is scared of committment , but if it becomes tight you can move on. One thing i have learnt is that even with a hundred years, you can never know a man.

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Can't run, can't hide, can't resist it when the wrong one loves you right. . . If u don't love him let him go cos if u stay u'll always wonder if there's a right one for you out there. . . Besides you got to know what you want cos from what I'm seeing I think you re confused. . . Outline what u want in a guy, the quality and stuff. . . Give urself a break. . . See why we discourage double dating? Always make u think double. Life is not always a fairy tale like celine dion song. . .

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@ITGurl Is that how things are done? He's never been on a date with you, his idea of you is totally based on what someone else told him. Now he's popped the Question to marry you. ONly a gullible "over 30" "i must marry now" syndrome person will fall for that crap. Maybe he wants to take the advantage of your marriage desperation or clicking body clock.(maybe the person dat gave him ur number also told him u wish to marry soon). And alas, you're falling for it by even flirting with the idea in the first place. He stays in touch, calls you and does everything a man in love would do. you too pick his calls and smile and spend time with him on the phone,

My 2 cents

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@poster,d big decision lies with you.Like you said in one of your posts,"ladies have great instinct",follow watever your heart tells you.Am sure this same guy also luvs you very well earlier in your relationship,its a normal thing in luv cycle just be consistent with your luv he will come back to the first luv that is if the luv existed in the first place.But like i said the big decision lies with you.

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