He does not have to vet my chat log but it is there if he ever needs to. I live with no secrets from him. i am honest and open with him. And for that he tells me all the time he loves me so much. No matter the question I tell him no matter what his reaction will be.
I dont understand how chatting about weather, family, life activities, surroundings, learning a new language, peeping into someone elses culture can lead to me having sex with them. I could never dream of disrespecting my husband or my marriage in that way. I could never dream that I would be closer to some over the internet then my whole flesh and blood husband.
Maybe it is just me. I dont get all that attached to people over the internet. I dont share everything. poo they only know me by sistawoman, not even my real name. Very, very, very few know me by my nickname out of those that know me by my nickname only 4 know my real name.
Besides most people say something inappropriate or buzz me and get put on the ignore list.
Anyway no one can take anything that does not belong to them.
My husband has nothing to fear. I am not going anywhere. . . . . I love, love, love, love that man forever and ever and ever.
But I am not chatting at my husband back. He knows everyone I chat with. I save my chat logs and they can be reviewed by him at any time. He has never had any problems with people I have chatted with. If their intentions were different then that is on them.
I know how to tell someone they are being inappropriate or they have gone too far. I also know how to say no i will turn on my cam for you. I also know how to differentiate between love and lust. And all of these years chatting I have never thought about being emotionally connected to anyone like that.
I have met some really good and close friends via chatting. And I have built up some shaky friendships via chatting.
I guess that I am blessed that my husband does not really care about who and what is happening online cuz he knows he has me hook, line and sinker. As I would tell him “your charm is working overtime, you must give her a tip next time you go in to pick up more. LOL”
I never chat online with a male except on if he is a relative of our's (hubby and moi) or if it is work related (between co-workers and clients)
I just don't see any reason to chat with a male, if i need to chat, i will with my hubby. Chatting with a male that does not fit into the 2 categories above can open to door to unwanted nonsense. I am a married woman, not sure why the heck I would want to chat with any other man since all I do when I chat with my hubby is flirt
My Dear, i quite agree with ur point of view, cos am marry and have experience it b4.
I can tell you that I have been chatting online for several years and have never had sex, cyber or real, with anyman that I have chatted with.
I hate to tell you this but listen very carefully. If a person really truly loves you there is no way in hell they will ever cheat on you. Listen one more again. If a person is going to cheat on you it does not matter what you do or do not do they will still cheat because it is what it is.