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What Do U Think About Dis Story? She Is Really Confused

i have a friend she is been dating this guy for 2 years now and and d guy actually proposed around march this year. before then its been wonderful almost a perfect relationship, but since they both decide 2 get married its been one issue or the other, it got to d level they decided to fix a date in july becos she was pregnant, but it didnt hold, dis guy started bleeping up, his drinkin became excessive, she found out he was also cheatin didnt pay her attention anymore despite been pregnant, he wouldnt pick her calls would only reply her with a text message dat would say he is busy and would call her later or see her but he wouldnt, and dis was d same person who had already done some traditional rites, everybody knew about it and d two families were in support except few from d guys side, becos of d shame dat was coming to d girl, my friend's family decided to pay d guy an unexpested visit since all this while he is been dodging, but d meeting didnt go well it ended up with physical fights and argument. as a result of all d emotional stress my friend loosed d pregnancy, as a result her family made her swear never to have anything to do with d guy if he came begging, which he did.

now the annoying part to me is dat dis guy has come begging with excuses dat he cant explain wat came over him and dat he still loves my friend and still wants to proceed with d wedding, he confessed all d things he did as in cheating on her nd d rest and my friend is buying d poo.

narialanders correct me if am wrong i told my friend not too give him another chance, because they ve actually being seeing each other now for almost 3 weeks knowing dat d two families are enemies now. how will it work out i know her family is quite inflentual and could mean doing has they ve threathend, but my friend doesnt care she tells me she still loves him very much but she is still confused becos she is also afraid d whole scenerio might happen again and also in trusting him.

i am concerned about dis my friend becos she is actually an intelligent, beautiful and caring lady and dont want her wasting her time with d guy. even though i know d guy to be ok too. but he has bleeped up really bad and i know her family would never accept him.

wats ur intake on this? should she really give him another chance despite all odds

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thank u posakosa, olanajim nd d others.i appreaciate ur advices

i think she is being blinded by love cos as at yesternite she has made up her mind 2 continue with d guy and just as u all ve said it was her own decision, and all i can do is just be there for her and continue to pray for her becos its beginning to look as if i dont want her 2 get married becos i am married.

the guy has also been callin me tellin me he is being sincere dat he has changed and dat he takes all d blame nd pls i should help them pray. that he is ready to go to any lenght to make things right.

but how she is goin to persuade her family i dont know, but i ve begged her not to disappear with d guy. i told her may d will of God be done in her life dats my prayer and she shouldnt be in a rush.

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it is a tough issue. The guy may be under demonic possession, or he may actually have acted his true nature. How come he became a demon when his babe got pregnant? And why is reasn that drove him to drinking? What is he girls' role in the while affair?

truly most men change once they get what they want. The lady should do soul searching and then make her choice. he choice will make her! It is not new and it will remain same for people making decision. She may know soemthing we dont know. And she may just be blinded by love. How she reunite the family is another matter. I hope she has the magic formula for that. or else, she would just complicate everything for herself

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I don't know why she will go back even after she had a miscarriage. I mean that could have been the severed tie she needed to GET OUT!! Now, she's going back? Oh well thats her life. Just stay out of it, so that whatever decision she makes it will be HERS and hers alone. She wont be able to blame others for her decision.

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F that. I say she should leave him alone, she deserves better than him.

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Oh! Well. She'll learn in due time that actions spoken should be adhered to.

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please and please, pressurize that babe not to go back, the guy is not the only one in her world, she might have been too blind to see the others, but God does not want the shame to be unbearable for her that was why the pregnancy got mis carried. she will be the greatest fool on earth to make the same mistake twice.

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I won't support the idea of her going back that guy. Because for him to act carelessly and make her loose her pregnancy shows that he can do things worse than that if she decides to give him another chance.

I believe that she might still be in love with him; but she has to get realistic here. She shouldn't allow her emotions to take over her common sense or else she might live a life of regret.

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HAVE YOU GOT ANOTHER HUBBY 4 UR FRIEND? IF yes good luck, BUT IF NO, LET HER FOLLOW HER HEART even if it is taking to the embassy of HEARTBREAK,so let her be, b'cos-- oko won lode. YOU SURE HAVE DONE YOUR BEST AS A FRIEND INDEED.

let me sign out jare!!!!!!!!!

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well its always difficult to advice anyone in such issues.

they are old enough, let them follow their heart.

but this time the guy should go and beg the parents and step the marriage rites up.

no crime is unforgiven.

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Here is my piece

Leave them alone to sorts things by themselves. I believe they are adults. There are so many wrong people who for in love with each other for no reason and are happy for it despite all the pain it brings to them and people around them

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d reason why am involved is becos she has actually been there 4 me when i was in my own crisis, we ve been friends 4 a very long time over 10 yrs, and i know she still listens 2 me, moreover i nd my husband are d only one who knows they re seeing each other again and her mum ask specificaly asked me to be there 4 her.

dats why am askin narialanders just incase am ill advising her, becos i ve actually spoken to d guy myself and he seems really sober ,repentant, and i know my friend is really in love, if he is really lieing wat does he stand to gain now.  my hussy thinks its spiritual nd sorts.

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i said d same thing, but actually d guy didnt know she loosed it untill he insisted he saw her, am also confused myself becos i ve actually seen d guy several times and if not am very close to my friend i wouldnt ve believed it myself. and talkin to her is been in vain she has even refused to pick my call for like 3 days now

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