What do u feel about a woman being a full time house wife?
Do u think it makes sense?
If the husband is the one that pays money into the wifes account or she has access to his credit card or stuff, she wont have to beg for 10 naira, but if the guy has to be begged each tym, den no point being a house wife. I talking like donald trump rich, i cant go looking for a job with that kinda guy if i dnt want to, my time will b spent shopping n chopping money ( my good luck na). Still education matters, if he gets bossy or we break up, certificate dey, n job go follow. if he doesnt mess up, better.
i mean its cool to think u can quit ur job when u r burned out and your husband can still sustain the family comfortably. If anything happens, u can still get a job. i'd love to have a job, but will love it more that i can at any time quit and rest at home. Sometimes a woman just dnt feel like going to work in d morning.
It works for some, and yea if I was married to a rich man wjo paud me to be solely there for my family, yea why not with money for me if he chose to divorce me yea, butr in reality land, no, I need to know if all falls on my shoulders I can support my family, as it stands I work and have man in lufe but he cointributes nothing so I have no choice but to be breadwinner, wife and mother, what is his role? I wonder, i just love him but could sure kick his Bottom!
Oh yes, it is very true that several couples cannot depend on one person's salary and not all couples have a good alternative financial plan if death occurs. It is also true that the nigerian extended family system can be very helpful in situations like this but there are exceptions and does not always play out well in the future.
For a couple to take the home maker route, there has to be good financial planning, jobskill acquisiton strategies and so is necessarily not a silly idea.
In all situations there are always the what-ifs? I guess its a matter of opportunity cost i.e what values are deemed most important by couples and extended family. And if extended family is really family, i suppose they would come around when the chips go down.
Yes, there are always risks, life itself is a risk.
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Not everyone can afford to just rely on one person for income. Dont know why it's always the "mother/wife" that has to give up something. In the midst of leaving her job with the excuse of raising children and the husband dies or loses the job, what happens? What if she can't get that old job back? What happens then? The children starve? what?
Not saying that those who decide not to work are evil, that is their business. I think it's a silly idea but na their own but for people to EXPECT women to do this? Um No. Doesnt work that way and i don't know why people keep claiming that those with parents who work are raised by strangers, don't know what kind of family set up you people might have but some of us have good extended family members if the need for help arises
These has only being Nigerian thing to be a house wife, but think of it this way. apart from divorce if the man dies and he happened to be an industrialist or a company owner what will you do to take over the business?
If he's a salary earned man what will you do in case of death? live on his pension?
Nope, women can study whatever they like and enjoy doingbe it biohemistry, architecture, engineering, whatever. I have friends who had full time jobs when they were single, resigned when they started having kids and picked up jobs after some years of parenting. So if a system is flexible, they can always resume at something related to what they enjoy doing.
Ah an is studying business administration bull**** now? As long as managing a business is a needed skill, it certainly does not sound like a useless study path.
Being a house wife is good sometimes. Of course one can never go without education, but if im married n my husband is rich,why bother working,as far as he gives me money without my asking everytime or i have a credit card i can get money from. Some guys can make the ladies totally financial independent n still b a house wife. perfect world for me. When the wife gets bored, she can get a job cos she's educated so being a housewife is good provided ur educated.
If my husband dies on me or leaves me for another then am back to square one shey?
There's no need to consciously put yourself in a position where the man can take advantage of you wheneva he wants to.
Wives should be submissive as the Bilbe says but independence does a lot for the self-esteem.