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What Do You Want Ladies?

What do women really want from men?

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Wait For a guy who calls u

beautiful instead of hot.

Will stay awake juz to watch u

sleep.

Wait for the boy who kisses ur

forehed nt ur lips.

The one who holds ur hand nt ur

waist infront f his frenz.

The one who constantly reminds

u how lucky he is to have u &

the

one who turns to his mates and

says "Thats my princess"

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Religion,love,honesty,respect,beauty and so on bla bla

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^^

I can live wiv that, dont worry i wont dissapoint you,

I was looking @ ur pics again and i think ure God-sent!

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^^

so u also want my d1ck, (cool) dont tell me ure boxers scare u~

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They themselves dont know.

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@ Tranngirl, the poster said 'What Ladies Want' not 'Write a Book on What Ladies Want'

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Same as what Men want from woman - Mutual respect, commitment,

liking,and a sense of humour coupled with a responsible behaviour.

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@fakaay,

and dats far to much to ask.

u can't have it all dem ladies shud know that.

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What women want in bed, ahhhh, the mysteries of the keys to the female mind and her sexuality, are highly sought after by many, including we women! We women don’t even know this stuff! Is it technique, is it size, is it endurance, is it a cute little thing you all do with that towel trick we all pretend we’ve never seen, is there a drug that will unleash our inner slut, and if so, where do we get that pill…what is it that turns us females on! And half of us don’t know EITHER…so here we go…the magical mystery tour of female sexuality coming up…or how to get her to wear just high heels when she takes out the trash at YOUR house! And do it with GLEE! And maybe, just maybe, every week. But, guys, you have to be very very good first!

First and foremost gentlemen, it really isn’t a size issue, although you all almost wish it was, because then you’d understand it at least. And it isn’t endurance and it isn’t technique, although technique is pretty important, oh yes is it, my oh my oh my!…But the first stop on our magical mystery tour, is the female mind, that mysterious confusing place the keys reside in, the location of the holy grail, hidden deep with in every woman, is the first place we shall visit. And with this, begins the solutions to it all. You must enter her mind, and lead her to this new place, by the hand and gently. It isn’t a quick trip and it takes time and patience. You have to lead the way, as every self respecting Don Juan knows, you are the guide and the leader, and in this one thing, you have to lead, or you won’t ever get there gentlemen, with many women. And for those of you, who have women who don’t ever seem to want to, this is how you fix that. And guys, there isn’t a woman out there that hasn’t faked it at least once in a while, although I will probably get flamed for that statement, it is what they all tell me, however…

Here’s a side note to consider: Women don’t envy manlinesses, men just WISH they did, and like so many things in life, the theory is bass ackwards …Men envy Kitty-Cat’s, it’s Kitty-Cat ENVY in reality! And all men all want one (or more, fess up guys! Or more! Most of you would take two, cause they’re small, and maybe one to go to snack on later, it’s true, if you could, you’d all have harems and I, at least, know this!) of their very own…that LIKES them and WANTS them, even CRAVES them at times, ooh, yes, all boys want one of THOSE!…so once upon a time, someone decided to market the philosophy that women envy manlinesses and that they all want one, in the hopes it would convince women they did, and they then WOULD want a joystick (or more, lol) of THEIR very own, and all you men would have a wonderful life. And to men, life would be soooo simple and so perfect, if all women craved rooster like men crave Kitty-Cat, just think men? Of how wonderful life would be with this hungry insatiable slut waiting for you to give her more of your precious fluids and begging for your pleasure wand, but in reality, nothing would ever get done, because all we would all do is Bleep, Bleep Bleep, and that’s why it doesn’t happen that way! And yes I’m serious! No work would get done, no buses would run, there’d be no power, we’d all still live in caves and we’d die young and very happy, although a bit hungry and chilly from lack of food and heat. It is just yet another example of a typical male solution to the problem of females unpredictability and unfathomability and why there are two sexes, because without both, the world would be incomplete. If women only ran the world, we’d all shop full time and you men would do nothing by paint as we changed from pink to cream to I think that beige is too deep, to pale hints of yellow, not canary mind you, and not lemon, more a shade above cream. If men only ran the world, women would wear pig tails and garter belts and we wouldn’t need transportation, because we wouldn’t ever leave the house because all any of us would ever do is, Bleep Bleep Bleep, so inessence, there is balance in having some of both for all of us. And there is away to get it (well at least some) guys. It is not however a one step solution, nor is it easy to come by as many of you have figured out

by now.

Women think in great swooping circles, and for all of you who think I’m a man, this should end that question for you. I am a woman, and as such, I do think in curves and arcs and round abouts. All women do, and we hide things even on ourselves and we don’t know, we really don’t, even if we think we do, and yes we will argue, and we often do, and in some ways we do know, but we’ll never tell you what we do know, so we don’t always know what we think we do. Got it? See? I am female…! I can do that all night and day, round and round I go! Only a woman could! And yes we do get a bit confusing. But you men often confound us with your logic and reason too.

The reason we are so damned confusing is, in a nutshell, we even confuse ourselves, period. We don’t fake being confusing, we are so good at it we don’t even know how to unconfuse ourselves, or to stop being confusing to anyone, or that we are in fact confusing! We’ll tell you we aren’t confused, YOU are, and you know you are, you just can’t seem to get us to understand that you really are, because we are. Did I make that clear enough? And IF no one teaches us about our sexuality, it remains this great mystery to us all, with varying degrees of response or the lack there of, in any of us. We don’t know what it is, or how to deal with it, or even how to control it, and some of us did get lucky and have a sexual mentor or

mother who gave us direction, but most of us didn’t. So, to gain control of a woman’s sexuality, you must work with her mind, and for those of you who weren’t planning to go up that far, that’s what it takes to reach her sexual responses, so in some ways, it is about being figuratively large enough to reach her mind, if not with your physical attributes, your intellectual ones, and it is as simple as that. Metaphorically speaking, that is what the size thing is really about, you got to go up that far guys! And yes this is complex, because women’s minds aren’t simple places, let alone easy to delve into, and it is easy to get lost in the maze we all have in our little brain cavaties, as most of you have long since figured out! A woman’s mind can be beautiful but it can be filled with all sorts of crazy stuff too. To get through that, is to reach what represses her and in so doing, help set her free from that repression that keeps her from being the sexually aware creature all women can be.

Did I make that clear enough? Because yes I think in great swooping circles. And anyone who walks continuously in a circle gets lost. And they get dizzy and they make no progress at all, which is very typically female, we’ve done it so long, it feels very normal to us to spin round and round, and we women understand this in each other, so we really think it’s you guys who are sort of confused and don’t get it.

You have to teach us to go straight just as we show you how to bend some.

Not everyone does have the same level of passion with in them, some people have TONS of it, repressed or

not, others have very little. Many are in between somewhere, and libidos are part of the entire response

system network, But if she or HE isn’t aware of how much they have, or if those responses are repressed,

they have even less interest or willingness to engage in pleasurable sexual activities, because they aren’t

all that pleasurable. Most can be improved on however with some of these techniques and the knowledge of how

to generate and increase those responses from inside the person, via techniques and pre-intimacy and even

through romantic evenings and fun interactions that couples learn to use to get the blood bubbling and the

fires started with in them.

We’re the one’s who won’t stop and ask for directions, not you men! Men ask directions all the time, and the

only time we women won’t run off at the mouth is when it’s about what we wish you’d do in bed, so we don’t

give you those directions and then we blame you for getting lost! The problem is we don’t know either. No

one tells us. We either aren’t really sure what we do want, OR we’re sort of scared and nervous and caught

up in all the myths that we’re supposed to be naturally sexual and hot, and if we say, oh hey, I’m

not all that sexual and hot, we become less of a woman even in our own minds, we women brag to each other

even about how sexy we are, it is very much like men and their bravado with each other. We all want to be

sexually coveted, we all wish and believe we’re the studs! We project it to other women even that oh yeah,

we had hot sex last night, let me tell ya! And to then address it with words, is beyond many women. We can

talk, we can’t talk about that, cause THEN you’d KNOW! Which if you know, we do, and if we do, then we have

to think about it, and if we think about it, we’ll have to worry, and if we worry, you REALLY aren’t

going to get any, because we’ll want to go wash the floor so we get what’s worrying us off our mind! Got

that? Any of you still doubt I’m female? I can talk like this for fifty pages without taking a breath or

injecting punctuation, uh? I can too!

We worry about your inadequacy thing if we tell you that God if you’d only use your hand TOO, and we feel

INADEQUATE and shy, or we’re into this good girls will and bad girls don’t thing and we aren’t even sure if

we should respond, or if that then makes us bad. So, you fellas have to do it for us. And listen to our

little hints and metaphors and sort through it all to figure out what we’re saying, or no slut tonight guys!

Sorry, we don’t know how to let her out! We’re not even sure we want to let her out! So if you want her

to come out you have to do it. You want to be our master and our friend, our lover and our salvation,

well than take the damned wheel and drive! But for heavens sake find out where we need to go first. This

is not an easy thing to find without some pre planning and a pretty good idea of what you need to find and

do. Or we’d all have figured it out by now! DUH!

Women, have brought up the theory of pre-intimacy, that age old, ok, I’ll pre-intimacy ya baby , solution to it

all, and we do need pre-intimacy, we ALL do, and gentlemen if you don’t believe that you aren’t doing it right,

seriously. We women aren’t men, our sexuality is internalized, not externalized like a man’s is. And

the art of lovemaking isn’t about instant gratification it’s about delaying that gratification

and letting it build, its riding it like a rollercoaster, thru dips and hills and whooshing down

a drop while the screams are forced from our lungs, it’s talent, it’s technique, but it’s also and art

that goes far beyond having heavenly feeling as it’s only goal, it’s pleasure, pleasure, and sensations combined with

feelings and thoughts and deeds. It’s communication between two bodies on a primal level and it’s love and

uniting as one. And guys, if you try it you will like it, this whole pre-intimacy delaying thing is very VERY

fun for you too. There is nothing to hurry about, and for those that feel they must, take care of it

yourself then, if that’s all it means to you!

It is essential for a female, although there are times, when she DOESN”T need it, after she’s learned

how to be sexual, but NOT before. pre-intimacy is more than fifteen minutes, it can be more than an hour, it

can be more than four nights straight, gentlemen! And if you have a woman in your life, who says, all she

wants to do is cuddle, by golly you may be looking at six weeks of pre-intimacy to break through that block she

NEEDS you to get through, and no, you aren’t getting any during that time. Life can be harsh, but at the

end of that tunnel can be a lot of darned fun. And what the hell at least you’ll walk around looking

dazed for awhile, even if you’re lower lip does tremble a bit!

THAT is fore play. And with time, and technique, you can cut it down to even fifteen minutes on the right

night, but not until her sexuality is unleashed. Bottom line, you have to find the slut within and then

unleash it to be able to have her loose at your house on command, and any well trained dominant on this site

knows this.

Now, I hate to overstate what would appear to be obvious, but guys, GIRLS aren’t boys. Now that sounds

pretty simple in theory, but it isn’t. You need to keep that in mind too…Women react differently then men

do, we need different things to feel good, and we like different things than you men do in bed. PERIOD. And

if you argue that or fight it, well, don’t even complain she isn’t in the mood. A lot of those things

are things you will enjoy too, but, you have to unleash that sexuality before you get any of those. It

is abit like having to unzip your pants, but in essence, our sexuality isn’t that easily accessible

for anyone, whether we wear panties or not. And I don’t care if she’s 18 or 80, that’s the answer. And

if you don’t like the answer, well, I’m sorry, I can’t change the facts and the reality of it, I can just try

to explain it. I didn’t plan this infrastructure and interactive platform, I just understand it better than

I once did. I can operate it now.

I have read sex books and how to books, and loveware and stories, I have looked for solutions causes, ideas

and formulas, and no one ever addresses the problem from the stand point that things and life isn’t

normal, for everyone and all, and that sexuality is very repressed in modern American women, and to

unleash it you must find away to undo that repression. The premise is that every woman should indeed have a

sexual on button, and does, it’s like the power of positive thinking or ostriches hiding their heads in

the sand, if we don’t talk about it and tell everyone it doesn’t exist, MAYBE it’ll go away, and won’t

exist! So we’ll just say every woman is indeed ready to leap forth into her sexuality with a small modicum

of touching, a glass of wine, a lingering kiss and smile, and that normal women like sex instantly and

take to it like a duck to water. And it ain’t so guys.

And if your spouse hands you this, she is trying to tell you something she can’t figure out how to say any

other way. She’s saying oh yeah, this is so right on, at last…help me, please and we can indeed do whatever

you want and this is what I need. And guys you may have to hand it to her to read. And then listen as she

shyly says, well, yeah there’s some good stuff in it, um, what’s on TV? Cause that’s how women deal with sex

when it’s in their face, they are afraid to discuss it! It confuses them, makes them blush, and they are

frightened to ever say, oh Hey, I’m frigid! So are you like ok with that? That would be a bit like men saying

Oh hey, I’m impotent, no big deal, wasn’t big enough anyway! OH yeah THAT’ll happen, you betcha! Well we

feel the same way, frigid women aren’t sexy! We aren’t cool, we’re what you all hate and fear and go yuck

about! So we, at least in our minds, refuse to accept the problem and without that, we can’t solve it.

As every man reading this yells NO! Well, she isn’t sure what to say then. Honey, I”ve been faking it for

the last four years isn’t real easy to spit out and it isn’t any easier for you men to handle! The reaction

to THAT statement will be a lot of recriminations and self doubt and storming about and anger! Sex is very

very difficult to discuss for people.

Faking it is lying and we do it, because if we don’t you won’t let up on us, and somewhere in there, we all

have to get some sleep. Sex is giving too, and we love the intimacy and the giving and it does give us

pleasure to do that for you and for ourselves. We like the touching and the sense of fun, we don’t really

mind that we don’t have an heavenly feeling and we don’t want to lose what we have already or upset you fellas. Hell

guys we even try to laugh at the towel trick thing you think is so cute! (That is so dumb fellas, it really

is pretty damned corny!)

We women and you men are besieged with these images we are supposed to compare ourselves to and live up to,

and if it were that easy, none of those images would have any value. We see slinky black dresses on

perfectly coiffed blondes with sultry lips languishing lazily on billboards, we see Madonna dressed in her

undies on stage, we see Brittney gyrating hips suggestively while the crowds go wild with desire, and

we listen to men, you smile when you see a tight young butt on a bicycle and claim you’d follow that across

America, you tell us you like see through and grin like fools when we put it on, but it doesn’t DO the

same thing for us, that it does FOR YOU. We do it to please you and hope somewhere in there, the magic will

just come down from the heavens and hit that button called hot, and warm us right the hell up and curl our

hair and our toes and cross our ever loving eyes and make us purr for hours after. Guys you make US cum

well enough and we will do anything for you! So there is a flip side to this coin about the stuff I write.

The man who makes us scream for hours in ecstasy we will do anything for you, and any woman who denies

that, hasn’t screamed for hours yet. OH and the kids? What kids? I sent them out to the neighbors, get your

butt in this bedroom DAD. NOW. Do that AGAIN. Think I’m kidding? HA! Try it and find out!

Men know what they find sexy. They find full pouty lips sexy, they find fiery temperaments sexy, they

find willowy and sweet sexy, they find lots of attitude sexy, they find innocent eyes looking up at

them with adoration and trust sexy, they find sultry sexy, they find smokey eyes sexy, they find a

confident strut sexy, a bold stare sexy, they find eye contact held a bit long sexy, they find Unclad women

and almost Unclad women and women in baseball caps and women in shirts and women in jeans sexy, and in

actuality, men find milk sexy. On the right day! Men can get in the mood over a $1.95 Burger! Women however

can’t. Men are far more readily visually stimulated into sexual arousal than women are. Women don’t even

know what arouses them at times, it’s often the thought of intimacy, of knowledge and sharing and

meeting of the minds and souls as well as bodies. As such, both have their strengths and reasons to exist.

We women are so repressed, we barely STILL see Unclad male bodies as attractive, and even in the media that

so invades our daily existence, men are rarely seen COMPLETELY Unclad, they are seen partially and rear

view Unclad, or? When we see full frontal male Unclothedness, it’s often in a spoof or comedy, and half the guys we

see, in magazines and ads, really aren’t that sexy to us. We like MEN, not shaved boys with fake tans, a

plastic smile and four pounds of hairspray? We love Mel Gibson, and Sean Connery and manly men, with hair

and craggy faces and passionate eyes and an intelligent playful toughness and a soft side they

often hide but show us so occasionally on the screen. We like the bravery and chivalry in one, we like how

gallant a man can be. We react to these things even more than the physical appearance.

We grew up with Clint Eastwood and John Wayne and men who were strong and kind, ethical and moral and

somewhat arrogant and stood tall above the others. They protected us, and secretly saw beneath our outer

coverings to the women we all are within. We like polish and insolence, we like tight jeans and curved

firm butts, we like bad boys in leather jackets with brooding sultry mouths, we like the soulfulness of the

rock star and the sensitivity of the artist in all of you, we like the contrasts men offer us, the tough and

the tender, the rough and the smooth, the wild and the tame, we like how men ARE as much as how they look. We

aren’t men. What we do is wish we had one who was all

man for us. We like the contrasts to our feminity and

we like the sense of masculinity that has all but gone

out of style. We like men who puff up at us and act

strong, we like that they give in to us, and love us

enough to change or agree, we love being your

princesses and your goddesses and we love being on

your pedestals, but we also need to be the LovePeddler and

the fantasy and the woman you crave carnally. We are

attracted to things that are male, but more with all

our senses, not just the visual. We are more sensually

attuned to males then they often are to us. And men

like things like how we look and smell, and it often

takes time before they can sense more than just visual

attraction as a stimulation for them.

Male bodies are a bit shocking to us, and we’re not

even sure why you all like women’s bodies! Our

repression runs very deep gentlemen. And you then show

us a picture of some perfect lithe teenage model and

say wow, this one’s nice and we run and hide in the

closet all but in tears, knowing we can’t compete! It

may get you hot, but all it does is upset us, that you

don’t and never will want us, because we don’t look

like her. And we don’t always realize that all you

were doing was hinting that you do have school girl

fantasies about cheerleaders and pompoms and you just

wish us to play that role for you at times.

You men love your manlinesses, even as you suspect we

don’t, and in some ways we really aren’t sure what to

do about those, we aren’t. You play with them and even

as little boys you’re fascinated, but they’re out

there for you to play with! Our pleasurable and sexual

parts are hidden away and when WE put our hands in our

panties, we get our hands slapped and severely scolded

and told that’s BAD and DIRTY! Yours were much more

convenient to play with for you and we were very

sensitive to not just the actions of being corrected,

but the attitude that to like those feelings or touch

those body parts was a bad thing. Besides, guys are

somewhat allowed to play with theirs, women are told

not to! So when we first see, the one eyed monster,

the snake, the tube steak, your little brain, willy,

peter, dick, your mighty rooster, your best friend, your

love muscle, your submarine, or your towel rack, we’re

not quite sure what to make of it. Often fellas the

first time we see one, is when one of you “whips it

out” so to speak. And we do stare in amazement, we do,

as in wow, so THAT’s what that is, huh…amazing!

To us it looks pretty damned big, whether our hands

are small or not, and you’re going to do what with it?

Put it where, and while you worry it isn’t big enough,

we are sort of going THAT IS not GOING TO FIT, OH MY

HEAVENS YOU ARE NOT! Don’t you pee with that thing?

That’s a little much to swallow, and you want us to do

what? Taste it? Kiss it and make it spit? Oh my! And

this is what love is? It comes as quite a shock to

most women guys, it really does. And we may swallow

hard a few times before we ever learn to swallow. And

then when you treat us, like ours is a bit strange and

nasty, and sort of eye it with a combination of

distaste and distrust, we really aren’t sure we even

want to do this stuff, do you blame us? So if you drop

your drawers and some woman sort of goes, want to play

Monopoly tonight, this is why? We aren’t used to

things sexual, or male sexuality and you have to allow

us to get used to them

Being a girl is a little tough! We’re supposed to be

nice and sweet and pure and innocent and clean and

pleasant, and unlike boys, we haven’t talked about

bumping uglies and doing the deed and getting down and

dirty and funky, we talk about shopping and how you

behave instead, but then you want us to get down and

raunchy with something we’re not sure we even like or

may never have seen before, and you name it all these

strange things like it is alive, and may do heavens

knows what too?

Guys show each other, they strut about Unclad, they take

showers in gym, they laugh about each others equipment

and packages, and in all, they’ve had a bit of time to

get used to having a joystick, so please gentlemen, give

us a few minutes to make friends with yours. We do

need to contemplate this thing you have hanging out

there, just like you once did, and being female means

we like to take time to consider it all, but once we

figure out it is a source of great enjoyment for US

TOO! We’ll like it as much as you do. I promise. joystick

envy may not be the result, but joystick love and

adoration may. Now if this is a bit shocking to you

men, and if it is hard for you to accept or if you are

frowning going, no this is 2003! Women have seen

manlinesses, women don’t think this stuff! And what’s all

this crap about they aren’t even sure they like our

bodies, this woman has no clue! Well, that’s why we

can’t tell you this stuff. Because how you react to it

isn’t comforting to us, and we just want some

understanding and comfort that’s all, and oh yea this

is so what we think!

And we want to appeal to you men! Women all have some

urge however subliminal to appeal to males, in some

way or another, we do want your attention on us. Even

subliminally, sexual attraction is so strong and so

powerful that, we still feel it for you, repressed or

not, whether we’ve gotten used to your maleness or

your bodies or your minds, we still want you, and we

want you to not only WANT us we want you to figure it

out for BOTH of us, because dumbie, you’re the damned

man! You lead we follow, this is like dancing and

that’s the rules, someone has to lead, and we aren’t

sure how to even! And in all those fairy tales, you

lead us to the promised land, and you are our

salvation and our pleasure guide, and after we submit

to you, we give you our souls and our hearts and our

bodies and our minds, so if you want all that, you

have to do some work first. And if the answer is I

just wanted to get laid, well, fine, we’ll just lay

here, and you do what ever it is that feels good to

you, like a bad Victorian novel, but you can’t have

our sexuality with out doing the work! It just doesn’t

happen and we can’t help it! And we’d really rather

you did know this, cause great sex is damned FUN!

We do want your attention and your interest, and we

want to be sexy! We want you to think WE are

attractive, and the ages old dance of the sexes is

about attraction and chemistry and sexual attuning,

and even if we don’t understand all of it, some has

gotten through to us very loudly and clearly. Men like

sex, sexy women have more fun. We all know you like

sexy and we all want to be sexy for you to enjoy and

like and we want to appeal to you, even if just so

you’ll open jars for us! So we put on our sexy

clothes, and we put on our make up and our high heels

and we strut our stuff, and try not to trip and we

wear those RIDICULOUSLY UNCOMFORTABLE garter belts

(thank the heavens for thigh highs! Amen!) we take off

our clothes, we put on short skirts, we do what ever

it is we think we’re supposed to do to be sexy and

please you guys. But it doesn’t work! We don’t feel

sexy, we don’t reach our own sexuality by putting on

clothes or make up, and when they say that sexy is a

thought and a sense of excitement, it really is, and

outfits are only skin deep sexy if we do feel even

that, and until we can reach inside ourselves to where

that sexuality lies dormant, it may turn you GUYS on

but it doesn’t do much for us. And in the end we are

at least as disappointed as anyone and we have no clue

how to fix it ourselves. We wanted the white horse

guys! We want to fly in the arms of the angel, we want

to feel bliss. We wanted to feel and enjoy and be? And

it didn’t happen, and we aren’t sure why, or what to

do and so we often just go to sleep, figuratively,

like Rip Van Winklemisses…and smile at you benignly

with out passion and only say Not tonight dear, ok?

I’m tired tonight, honey. Saturday night, ok? I have a

headache. Good night, smooch! Love ya dear, and turn

over like the dormant creatures we’ve become and go

right to sleep. We don’t even know what we’re missing

and subliminally that is a bit of what we say to you

at a time like that, you don’t know what you’re

missing either. Sleep time, and all us good little

peoples are sound asleep in here, you might as well

nod off too.

So if you want to know why you aren’t getting any,

listen up and pay attention, cause you can fix this,

and we so WISH you would! But we’ll never ever tell

you that. We’ll tell you your dick is too small before

we’ll ever admit we don’t enjoy it like we think we

should. And hell yes we blame you, for one, you also

blame yourselves, you do, any man out there will

immediately say, well I’m a good lover! My woman loves

what I do in bed, for another the books and songs do,

from I want a man with a slow touch to That don’t

impress me much, that won’t keep me warm at night,

everything tells you hints of what we need, it does,

and you guys do try to figure it out, I know you

do…but you don’t understand the size and depth of the

problem and it is not simple to deal with, or there

wouldn’t be a problem! Gentlemen if you want us to be

sexual and open to you, then show us the way, and for

a third reason, we’re conditioned to believe you are

supposed to handle this for us, from romantic movies

to fairy tales, the man is in charge, he rides a white

horse, he carries her off in his arms to make her his

own, we grew up on that stuff fellas, we want the full

meal deal, we do, and you can skip the white horse, if

you make us scream for twenty minutes in pleasure, in

fact if you make US cum well enough, we’ll do ANYTHING

you WANT! and it does say men are supposed to know

this stuff, so we agree, and in reality we aren’t sure

whose at fault and we are really hoping it is you,

because if it isn’t, it’s us. We don’t know how to

solve this by ourselves, and we don’t want to be a

FRIGID woman or asexual or sexually dysfunctional or

have no libido or any of that, any more than a guy

wants to think his dick isn’t big enough. And without

your help we can’t get there fellas, so…pay attention.

We don’t know how to! You have to figure it out and

show us, and here is how, if you really want to know.

Take a deep breath, be strong, and here goes, we

aren’t past the worst of this yet, if you wish to be

enlightened, you may find the door to the realm of her

sexuality and passions. Just like Raoul showed me

where it was, and he was so right, as he always is!

Well, maybe not QUITE always. But mostly. More often

than I am anyway. Even he admits he isn’t perfect, ALL

the time…and I”ll tell you he is most of the time.

It is somewhat simple. Inside us all is a little girl.

And that little girl does not become a woman until the

man she chooses to be her prince, kisses her awake.

Yes it is romantic, and it’s a bit oversimplified but

it’s also the truth. To many of us, as we’ve learned

to look at sex clinically and objectively we’ve

forgotten the absolute magic of it, and we’ve

discounted that magic and we’ve lost respect for it,

and so therefore it has eluded many of us, because we

don’t even know that without that magic, there is

nothing special about sexuality, it is just a

biological function. And females do not have to heavenly feeling

to have sex or to enjoy it. They do have to have the

magic to feel that sense of pleasure, and that is the

truth fellas. Women guard the magic in the world, we

have that thing called intuition and with it we can

see into a man’s soul. We need that magic to make his

life joyful, it is as simple as that. And yes I will

get more specific, before you all start dousing people

with fairy dust.

We women learned from stories and reading, fairy tales

and church, we learned from other women who knew as

little as we did, women don’t know enough to teach

each other about sexuality, we whisper and

misinterpret and we aren’t sure, so a lot of what we

hear isn’t very accurate. We can talk about SEX, we

can discuss our bodies, we spend hours talking about

monthly cycles and our hormones, but when it comes to

things like heavenly feelings or pleasure, or fantasies, we

don’t talk much, to anyone at all. Not to each other,

not even to ourselves and DEFINITELY not to you men.

We’ll smile and agree on that subject, oh boy howdy,

we aren’t gonna fess up to nuthin’ honey! Who ever

believes women can’t keep a secret, is foolish. We

have kept the secret of our own sexuality so

completely, and so long and so well, we have lost

track of it ourselves, and have no clue it’s inside us

all. And men don’t know, unless they are told any more

than we women do. And because of this, the key to the

realm was hidden and lost, and we aren’t even sure

where it is, or how to use it. And all men secretly

long to have a holy grail to seek and find, well

here’s the grail guys! And even Indiana Jones had

sense enough to realize it is a gift in itself, more

precious than diamond and gold, and simple in

construction. And to sup from the cup of sensual

pleasure is the salvation we all seek and our reward

on earth that makes us believe we are in heaven, amen.

Only men will try to figure it out, and only because

at the light of that tunnel is sex. Lots of very hot,

Intimate, exciting sex. And men will do ANYTHING for

that. And perhaps nature did have a good plan after

all, for men seek and hunt and think and we women wait

and nurture and share, and together we become more

than either is alone and better than either can ever

be by themselves. It is the holy grail a male seeks

and his instincts will send him on the quest for

sexual fulfillment and Intimate stimulation far more

intently than we timid females would ever try to

achieve it, we just sort of shrug it off and get a

Romance-Machine IF we even do that! So you men are therefore

the ones who will happily do the work needed to in

fact find the on button for the woman in their lives,

for the benefits they will receive, for the joy it

will bring, like the gift it is to us all. Gentlemen,

if you do this correctly, you will benefit from it, as

will we. You will earn the undying gratitude of the

woman you do this for. You will enjoy her and she you.

And the faking of heavenly feelings will indeed become a dying

art.

Women need to be understood and loved and they need to

feel safe and relaxed before they can unleash their

own sexual beings. This does not mean they have to BE

in love, it does mean they have to feel cherished and

special. To get her to be the slut she can be, you

have to remember, she wants to be a monogamous slut,

one man’s slut, not just a common slut. You must prove

to her she is a lady you both care about and respect

and she has to trust you to allow her to be not only

who she is, but can be and that you not only want

this, but need it and will love her even more for it.

You have to teach her it is ok to be passionate and

sexual with you. You not only have to teach her to

respect and love your body but her own.

Once, the prescribed theories were, no sex prior to

marriage, no sex outside of marriage, and no casual

sex period, and when we did away with those traditions

in the spirit of moral freedoms or to some it’s

defined as moral decay, and lost those customs, we

lost something very important. In that were safety

limits, boundaries we could trust and lean on, and

knowledge that we weren’t going to end up cast away or

misused for just loving you as men. And no, I’m not

even espousing that people return to a very rigid

tradition and repressed societal interference with our

own pleasures, I am not. If marriage was all it took

to solve the problems between men and women, you men

would drag us to the damned alters in droves! But in

between the old way and the new, should be a solution,

that sexuality can exist without morality restricting

it into oblivion through narrow minded prejudices and

archaic notions about moral purity meaning the

banishment and denial of sexuality and pleasure.

What I am saying is that there was some sense to those

traditions, that they were in fact once, based on good

theories for human beings, that they gave us good

structure and balance and that knowing the rules and

knowing people play by them brings safety and sanity

to a powerful set of feelings. The magic and respect

that human sexual exchanges deserve have been

forgotten, ignored and way laid for a very long time,

and we pay the price by having meaningless sex, and

sexually dysfunctional people everywhere, who really

aren’t sure what it’s about, is it pornographic,

immoral, or just intensely unusual to have passionate

sex with a few creative elements? Or is THAT the norm

rather than the prescribed theory that we’ll all get

fat at 40 and quit doing that silly stuff, cause we

love each other too much to need it anymore? Sex

should not be ruled by Middle America, and it should

not be dictated to us by churches, who really compete

with sex for Sunday morning attendance. And to that I

will add, never learn about sex from someone who

doesn’t at least like it! Is this such a difficult

thing to understand? You don’t ask your minister how

to fix your car either! Unless he’s also a mechanic,

that is!

Sex is special and as such, should be treated with

respect and our sexuality should be treated with

dignity and reverence for the beauty and joy it truly

is and should be. It should be revered as being the

magic it is. It’s the glue that binds two wildly

different sexes together into one, and makes them

better together than apart. It is more important than

the chores or work or any distraction, and what it is

is communication of souls and spirits and hearts, it’s

primal and basic and animalistic, but it’s also a gift

we were given in our creation. It is communing with

each others bodies, and it is supposed to be very

exciting and very pleasurable. It should definitely

rank ABOVE watching television, EVEN football,

gentlemen!

And whether your beliefs include marital vows or

religious benedictions prior to this union of two

people isn’t the point. The point is, it should be

meaningful and special and between two people who at

least like and respect each other! Sex is more than

just a biological function, and the tradition that men

will and still do say whatever they have to get it

FROM women, is part of why women are taught to repress

their own sexuality, so they don’t fall for every line

from every guy who hands them one!

Sex deserves respect, and understanding and education

and effort, and a lot of us put more effort into

learning about which car we wish to buy prior to

purchasing it! And every male who uses and discards

women like they’re condoms, and treats them with

disrespect and a virtual receptacle for their own self

involved pleasure and convenience and believes they

have no value and are unworthy of respect contributes

to this problem over all. If you treat women like they

are silly for liking sex, giving affection or

trusting what you say, well, you can hardly blame them

for not wanting to be that sort of person. And when

one does it to a few, we all hear and we all see how

he treats and humiliates her for giving him SEX. And

oh yeah we notice! And gentlemen women have long

memories and we take notes. SO, it has to be reversed,

for women, before they can instantly hit an on switch,

as much as we wish we could? We can’t hit that easily

or quickly ourselves. And no, we’ll never admit that?

That’s part of the problem, because we also believe

sex is totally natural and comes to us naturally, and

if we aren’t sexual and passionate, we either have a

lower libido, or there is something innately wrong

with us, for not being “normal” so we swear we’re fine

with it, and we all but convince ourselves we are! And

this is a very widespread problem and a lot of women

‘fake” heavenly feelings rather than EVER admit they don’t have

one! And that is so common, I don’t know a woman that

hasn’t faked at least some. We even mischievously work

harder at being good at faking those, then we do, at

learning how not to need to! And that is feminine

logic definitively if I’ve ever known it! Makes sense

to us guys! And no, most of us haven’t even a clue

why!

Women need to be told and shown it is ok, to be a

sexual creature. Too many years of disrespect for

sexual women, too many men who dis the “easy” girl at

school, too many people saying, oh don’t get a

reputation! Have taken their toll.

Society has labeled sexually active women as tramps,

losers, whores, sluts, bitches, fallen angels, will

die in abject poverty from disease and pestilence, are

cheap trashy and live in trailer courts, and in

essence, who in the hell would want to be one of those

willingly! Society shakes it heads sadly when women

fall from grace, and sighs, what man will want her

now, she likes sex! And gentlemen you are as guilty of

these misconceptions and double standards as anyone

and partially why we’re so confused. Do you want sex

or not, is sort of what we end up wondering.

Men don’t MARRY sexual women, because they want a good

mother for their kids! They marry the woman who isn’t

sexual, who is prim and proper and soft spoken and

then ten years later sort of wonder why she stopped

putting out. She’s a nice girl is why, you chose the

most repressed one you could find is why, so you could

raise nice repressed daughters of your own. Guys, if

you want a lady in the living room, and LovePeddler in the

bedroom, you may need to teach the one to be both. And

although you all seem to think it’s easy to teach that

chilled and virtuous woman to be fiery and passionate,

in fact, some people never do embrace passion

willingly and won’t learn to be sexual. It is easier

to teach one manners and how to dress properly, by the

way. Part of that is most of them will gladly make

that change for you. And some of the ones who appear

so sweet and pure, in fact, may never be able to be

sexual at all, and may not even like men very much.

Our society does this to women, and we all do our part

to make those rigid restrictions a very real problem.

Women aren’t allowed to talk dirty, it’s very

unladylike to swear or to talk about sex, or like sex,

is it really any wonder women repress their own

sexuality? And part of this whole women’s movement has

been about sexual freedom from repression, we want to

like sex and have it in our lives. Other cultures like

it, and value it and even teach it to people without

worrying they’ll misuse sexuality or abuse it. It’s

ours that is very adamant that sexuality is a disease

and an evil, and as such, I guess I wonder who made

those rules and decisions for all of us, and why, if

this is evil, were we all born to be able to have this

pleasure.

Whether its Puritannism, Victorian, or whereever it

all started, somewhere along the line, people didn’t

want women to be sexual, perhaps they were afraid we’d

be TOO sexual and they would run off and screw our

tiny little brains out! And no man wants to share a

woman he cares about! And before the age of birth

control and antibiotics it was a way to insure your

child was indeed your own and that you didn’t get

incurable disease, which STD’s once were. Male

possessiveness is as primal as anything we deal with.

Men guard their Kitty-cats, because if they don’t, some

other man will steal her away, and men like having

their own Kitty-Cat! She makes his life BETTER, she greets

him at the entrance to cave with a cool drink, she

puts curtains on his windows, she tans his hides into

new clothes for him, she keeps him warm at night and

she brightens his life with a smile, she makes him

laugh as she figures things out, and she amazes him by

what and how she learns. And in that, selfish and

somewhat overbearing protective rationalization, that

women were in fact possessions, women were put to

sleep, very much like Snow White was, so that when her

Prince arrived, he could awaken her with a kiss and

she would only want him ever more, having been guarded

well and still chaste and pure, the spring from which

only he gets to drink, sweet and gentle, clean and

good.

The tale of the seven short guys and the Monogamous

slut, was so cleaned up to get that G rating, some of

us missed that they do a lot more than kiss, after he

carries her off to his castle. And if the tale were

remade in an X rated version, he darn near drags her

to that castle impatient to ravish her completely and

mark her as his own for eternity, branding her as his,

plunging into her ravenous mind and eager body until

she’s nothing but responses and nerve endings. Lucky

girl! So is there an airline that flies to this land,

because I would book a trip. Really I would.

There are two approaches to reaching a female’s sexual

release triggers, to find her repressed sexuality, and

unleash it. One is through tenderness and patience,

gentleness and knowledgeable touching. It’s

encouragement for her to be sexual, it’s teasing and

teasing and more teasing and oh even more teasing,

it’s making her beg for it and then saying, not

tonight honey, let’s just cuddle. Men, she is showing

you what she needs the only way she knows how. TEASE

the living daylights out of her, until your eyes cross

and your testicles turn NAVY BLUE, she needs your self

denial more than you can ever imagine to get through

this, and it is worth it for you both, it really is.

And oh start up again tomorrow, do not let her have

it! Do not. And when you come home to this soft

glowing pleasing sweet enticing begging woman, who all

but leaps upon you for more, when the glow reaches her

skin, her eyes, and her hair, tease her a few hours

more and tenderly take her, and yes, it may take

several weeks. At least three or four nights. Well you

guys did ask, and this is the answer. This is what

women want desperately and have no clue how to tell

you because, you’ll get the same look on your face and

frown you have from reading this now. It’s that dumb

way you all go HUH, no way?! That makes it hard to

tell you these things. Seriously. Patience and belief

are important.

Once there was a courtship ritual, that was very much

standardized through out time. It involved getting to

know each other, it was often chaperoned by others, so

that no sex could take place! It was once called

dating in this country, although we’ve all but done

away with it, sadly. It’s a dance, it swerves, it’s

rhymical, it advances it retreats, it’s step here,

step there, follow now turn, dip and spin, and in it

men lead. And that is the key to unlocking women’s

sexual responsiveness and passion. Those old courtship

rituals, weren’t about bringing her flowers, they were

about learning her mind, showing her you care, earning

her trust and teasing her into awakening,

figuratively, literally and metaphorically. There are

reasons those customs evolved, because older wiser

people knew that women could not just jump into the

rack and be happy happy joy joy with it all.

And the recipe for sexual pre-intimacy and the ability to

awaken a woman’s sexuality is in the above. It is a

dance, it does go on for some time, it does involve

things like learning to trust and building that trust

and it is about proving to her who you are and why she

does want to love you.

And she will adore you forever, and for a time, you

will need to tease her like this ongoingly, but it

won’t be long before she begins to develop the early

stages of that disease you men all wish she’d get of

I-wanna-rooster-now. It wont. Sex is a journey, and it

starts slow for women. After awhile, they start to go

faster, and they’ll keep up. After more time, they’ll

all but drag you along, and eventually, if all else

fails, she’ll carry you if she has to, but you have to

do the first part! Or it doesn’t happen!

She can’t help it gentlemen, and very very expensive

sexual dysfunction clinics do this, and teach this

“delaying” technique to bring out a woman or a man’s

mental blocks or repressions preventing their

enjoyment and active participation in sexual

pleasures. You can do this yourselves at home. In some

ways this works like building pressure behind the

figurative dam, that any repression literally hides

behind and that pressure, through arousal and physical

excitement, builds to the point where it has to be

released, where it breaks free and all but explodes

very much like a dam that’s burst. And the older she

is, and the longer that repressive dam has built up,

the more it will take, and part of her will not be

able to help you do this, the part that built that dam

to begin with. The part of her, that through teaching

of parents and societal influences, believes pleasure

is wrong, that sex really isn’t important nor should

it matter. It can be overcome, but it isn’t something

fifteen minutes of pre-intimacy or touching the right spot

is going to accomplish. You have to enter her body

through her mind, and help her unlock the door to her

sexual responses gently, with compassion and with

understanding and the belief that oh yes you can, and

oh yes she wants you too. She just may not be able to

admit that. With knowledge, skill, understanding and

trust, lots of erogenous zone play, and teasing

delaying the gratification to the point she can’t

control her own mind, a little manual stimulation and

she will go off like a rocket into space, and once

she’s learned how and what it’s like, she’ll get right

with the program, honest. I am one. I know. And with

more experimentation you can expand on this and build

a truly pleasurable intimate life long adventure with

your woman.

This will be continued in the next chapter-and I am

not a trained or degreed professional of any sort in

the arts and sciences of humanity, nor do I profess to

be such. Some of my instructions may be somewhat

flawed or incomplete, nor espoused as popular belief.

I read a lot, I learned and then Raoul showed me the

way, like it was simple! So good luck to all of you

who have read this far with interest, and the next

chapter will go into more on this subject

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What women want in bed, ahhhh, the mysteries of the keys to the female mind and her sexuality, are highly

sought after by many, including we women! We women don’t even know this stuff! Is it technique, is it

size, is it endurance, is it a cute little thing you all do with that towel trick we all pretend we’ve

never seen, is there a drug that will unleash our inner slut, and if so, where do we get that pill…what

is it that turns us females on! And half of us don’t know EITHER…so here we go…the magical mystery tour of

female sexuality coming up…or how to get her to wear just high heels when she takes out the trash at YOUR

house! And do it with GLEE! And maybe, just maybe, every week. But, guys, you have to be very very good

first!

First and foremost gentlemen, it really isn’t a size issue, although you all almost wish it was, because

then you’d understand it at least. And it isn’t endurance and it isn’t technique, although technique

is pretty important, oh yes is it, my oh my oh my!…But the first stop on our magical mystery tour, is the

female mind, that mysterious confusing place the keys reside in, the location of the holy grail, hidden deep

with in every woman, is the first place we shall visit. And with this, begins the solutions to it all.

You must enter her mind, and lead her to this new place, by the hand and gently. It isn’t a quick trip

and it takes time and patience. You have to lead the way, as every self respecting Don Juan knows, you are

the guide and the leader, and in this one thing, you have to lead, or you won’t ever get there gentlemen,

with many women. And for those of you, who have women who don’t ever seem to want to, this is how you fix

that. And guys, there isn’t a woman out there that hasn’t faked it at least once in a while, although I

will probably get flamed for that statement, it is what they all tell me, however…

Here’s a side note to consider: Women don’t envy manlinesses, men just WISH they did, and like so many

things in life, the theory is bass ackwards…Men envy Kitty-Cat’s, it’s Kitty-Cat ENVY in reality! And all men all

want one (or more, fess up guys! Or more! Most of you would take two, cause they’re small, and maybe one to

go to snack on later, it’s true, if you could, you’d all have harems and I, at least, know this!) of their

very own…that LIKES them and WANTS them, even CRAVES them at times, ooh, yes, all boys want one of

THOSE!…so once upon a time, someone decided to market the philosophy that women envy manlinesses and that they

all want one, in the hopes it would convince women they did, and they then WOULD want a joystick (or

more, lol) of THEIR very own, and all you men would have a wonderful life. And to men, life would be soooo

simple and so perfect, if all women craved rooster like men crave Kitty-Cat, just think men? Of how wonderful life

would be with this hungry insatiable slut waiting for you to give her more of your precious fluids and

begging for your pleasure wand, but in reality, nothing would ever get done, because all we would all

do is Bleep, Bleep Bleep, and that’s why it doesn’t happen that way! And yes I’m serious! No work would

get done, no buses would run, there’d be no power, we’d all still live in caves and we’d die young and

very happy, although a bit hungry and chilly from lack of food and heat. It is just yet another example of a

typical male solution to the problem of females unpredictability and unfathomability and why there are

two sexes, because without both, the world would be incomplete. If women only ran the world, we’d all shop

full time and you men would do nothing by paint as we changed from pink to cream to I think that beige is

too deep, to pale hints of yellow, not canary mind you, and not lemon, more a shade above cream. If men

only ran the world, women would wear pig tails and garter belts and we wouldn’t need transportation,

because we wouldn’t ever leave the house because all any of us would ever do is, Bleep Bleep Bleep, so

inessence, there is balance in having some of both for all of us. And there is away to get it (well at least

some) guys. It is not however a one step solution, nor is it easy to come by as many of you have figured out

by now.

Women think in great swooping circles, and for all of you who think I’m a man, this should end that question

for you. I am a woman, and as such, I do think in curves and arcs and round abouts. All women do, and we

hide things even on ourselves and we don’t know, we really don’t, even if we think we do, and yes we will

argue, and we often do, and in some ways we do know, but we’ll never tell you what we do know, so we don’t

always know what we think we do. Got it? See? I am female…! I can do that all night and day, round and

round I go! Only a woman could! And yes we do get a bit confusing. But you men often confound us with your

logic and reason too.

The reason we are so damned confusing is, in a nutshell, we even confuse ourselves, period. We don’t

fake being confusing, we are so good at it we don’t even know how to unconfuse ourselves, or to stop being

confusing to anyone, or that we are in fact confusing! We’ll tell you we aren’t confused, YOU are, and you

know you are, you just can’t seem to get us to understand that you really are, because we are. Did I

make that clear enough? And IF no one teaches us about our sexuality, it remains this great mystery to us

all, with varying degrees of response or the lack there of, in any of us. We don’t know what it is, or

how to deal with it, or even how to control it, and some of us did get lucky and have a sexual mentor or

mother who gave us direction, but most of us didn’t. So, to gain control of a woman’s sexuality, you must

work with her mind, and for those of you who weren’t planning to go up that far, that’s what it takes to

reach her sexual responses, so in some ways, it is about being figuratively large enough to reach her

mind, if not with your physical attributes, your intellectual ones, and it is as simple as that.

Metaphorically speaking, that is what the size thing is really about, you got to go up that far guys! And

yes this is complex, because women’s minds aren’t simple places, let alone easy to delve into, and it is

easy to get lost in the maze we all have in our little brain cavaties, as most of you have long since figured

out! A woman’s mind can be beautiful but it can be filled with all sorts of crazy stuff too. To get

through that, is to reach what represses her and in so doing, help set her free from that repression that

keeps her from being the sexually aware creature all women can be.

Did I make that clear enough? Because yes I think in great swooping circles. And anyone who walks

continuously in a circle gets lost. And they get dizzy and they make no progress at all, which is very

typically female, we’ve done it so long, it feels very normal to us to spin round and round, and we women

understand this in each other, so we really think it’s you guys who are sort of confused and don’t get it.

You have to teach us to go straight just as we show you how to bend some.

Not everyone does have the same level of passion with in them, some people have TONS of it, repressed or

not, others have very little. Many are in between somewhere, and libidos are part of the entire response

system network, But if she or HE isn’t aware of how much they have, or if those responses are repressed,

they have even less interest or willingness to engage in pleasurable sexual activities, because they aren’t

all that pleasurable. Most can be improved on however with some of these techniques and the knowledge of how

to generate and increase those responses from inside the person, via techniques and pre-intimacy and even

through romantic evenings and fun interactions that couples learn to use to get the blood bubbling and the

fires started with in them.

We’re the one’s who won’t stop and ask for directions, not you men! Men ask directions all the time, and the

only time we women won’t run off at the mouth is when it’s about what we wish you’d do in bed, so we don’t

give you those directions and then we blame you for getting lost! The problem is we don’t know either. No

one tells us. We either aren’t really sure what we do want, OR we’re sort of scared and nervous and caught

up in all the myths that we’re supposed to be naturally sexual and hot, and if we say, oh hey, I’m

not all that sexual and hot, we become less of a woman even in our own minds, we women brag to each other

even about how sexy we are, it is very much like men and their bravado with each other. We all want to be

sexually coveted, we all wish and believe we’re the studs! We project it to other women even that oh yeah,

we had hot sex last night, let me tell ya! And to then address it with words, is beyond many women. We can

talk, we can’t talk about that, cause THEN you’d KNOW! Which if you know, we do, and if we do, then we have

to think about it, and if we think about it, we’ll have to worry, and if we worry, you REALLY aren’t

going to get any, because we’ll want to go wash the floor so we get what’s worrying us off our mind! Got

that? Any of you still doubt I’m female? I can talk like this for fifty pages without taking a breath or

injecting punctuation, uh? I can too!

We worry about your inadequacy thing if we tell you that God if you’d only use your hand TOO, and we feel

INADEQUATE and shy, or we’re into this good girls will and bad girls don’t thing and we aren’t even sure if

we should respond, or if that then makes us bad. So, you fellas have to do it for us. And listen to our

little hints and metaphors and sort through it all to figure out what we’re saying, or no slut tonight guys!

Sorry, we don’t know how to let her out! We’re not even sure we want to let her out! So if you want her

to come out you have to do it. You want to be our master and our friend, our lover and our salvation,

well than take the damned wheel and drive! But for heavens sake find out where we need to go first. This

is not an easy thing to find without some pre planning and a pretty good idea of what you need to find and

do. Or we’d all have figured it out by now! DUH!

Women, have brought up the theory of pre-intimacy, that age old, ok, I’ll pre-intimacy ya baby , solution to it

all, and we do need pre-intimacy, we ALL do, and gentlemen if you don’t believe that you aren’t doing it right,

seriously. We women aren’t men, our sexuality is internalized, not externalized like a man’s is. And

the art of lovemaking isn’t about instant gratification it’s about delaying that gratification

and letting it build, its riding it like a rollercoaster, thru dips and hills and whooshing down

a drop while the screams are forced from our lungs, it’s talent, it’s technique, but it’s also and art

that goes far beyond having heavenly feeling as it’s only goal, it’s pleasure, pleasure, and sensations combined with

feelings and thoughts and deeds. It’s communication between two bodies on a primal level and it’s love and

uniting as one. And guys, if you try it you will like it, this whole pre-intimacy delaying thing is very VERY

fun for you too. There is nothing to hurry about, and for those that feel they must, take care of it

yourself then, if that’s all it means to you!

It is essential for a female, although there are times, when she DOESN”T need it, after she’s learned

how to be sexual, but NOT before. pre-intimacy is more than fifteen minutes, it can be more than an hour, it

can be more than four nights straight, gentlemen! And if you have a woman in your life, who says, all she

wants to do is cuddle, by golly you may be looking at six weeks of pre-intimacy to break through that block she

NEEDS you to get through, and no, you aren’t getting any during that time. Life can be harsh, but at the

end of that tunnel can be a lot of darned fun. And what the hell at least you’ll walk around looking

dazed for awhile, even if you’re lower lip does tremble a bit!

THAT is fore play. And with time, and technique, you can cut it down to even fifteen minutes on the right

night, but not until her sexuality is unleashed. Bottom line, you have to find the slut within and then

unleash it to be able to have her loose at your house on command, and any well trained dominant on this site

knows this.

Now, I hate to overstate what would appear to be obvious, but guys, GIRLS aren’t boys. Now that sounds

pretty simple in theory, but it isn’t. You need to keep that in mind too…Women react differently then men

do, we need different things to feel good, and we like different things than you men do in bed. PERIOD. And

if you argue that or fight it, well, don’t even complain she isn’t in the mood. A lot of those things

are things you will enjoy too, but, you have to unleash that sexuality before you get any of those. It

is abit like having to unzip your pants, but in essence, our sexuality isn’t that easily accessible

for anyone, whether we wear panties or not. And I don’t care if she’s 18 or 80, that’s the answer. And

if you don’t like the answer, well, I’m sorry, I can’t change the facts and the reality of it, I can just try

to explain it. I didn’t plan this infrastructure and interactive platform, I just understand it better than

I once did. I can operate it now.

I have read sex books and how to books, and loveware and stories, I have looked for solutions causes, ideas

and formulas, and no one ever addresses the problem from the stand point that things and life isn’t

normal, for everyone and all, and that sexuality is very repressed in modern American women, and to

unleash it you must find away to undo that repression. The premise is that every woman should indeed have a

sexual on button, and does, it’s like the power of positive thinking or ostriches hiding their heads in

the sand, if we don’t talk about it and tell everyone it doesn’t exist, MAYBE it’ll go away, and won’t

exist! So we’ll just say every woman is indeed ready to leap forth into her sexuality with a small modicum

of touching, a glass of wine, a lingering kiss and smile, and that normal women like sex instantly and

take to it like a duck to water. And it ain’t so guys.

And if your spouse hands you this, she is trying to tell you something she can’t figure out how to say any

other way. She’s saying oh yeah, this is so right on, at last…help me, please and we can indeed do whatever

you want and this is what I need. And guys you may have to hand it to her to read. And then listen as she

shyly says, well, yeah there’s some good stuff in it, um, what’s on TV? Cause that’s how women deal with sex

when it’s in their face, they are afraid to discuss it! It confuses them, makes them blush, and they are

frightened to ever say, oh Hey, I’m frigid! So are you like ok with that? That would be a bit like men saying

Oh hey, I’m impotent, no big deal, wasn’t big enough anyway! OH yeah THAT’ll happen, you betcha! Well we

feel the same way, frigid women aren’t sexy! We aren’t cool, we’re what you all hate and fear and go yuck

about! So we, at least in our minds, refuse to accept the problem and without that, we can’t solve it.

As every man reading this yells NO! Well, she isn’t sure what to say then. Honey, I”ve been faking it for

the last four years isn’t real easy to spit out and it isn’t any easier for you men to handle! The reaction

to THAT statement will be a lot of recriminations and self doubt and storming about and anger! Sex is very

very difficult to discuss for people.

Faking it is lying and we do it, because if we don’t you won’t let up on us, and somewhere in there, we all

have to get some sleep. Sex is giving too, and we love the intimacy and the giving and it does give us

pleasure to do that for you and for ourselves. We like the touching and the sense of fun, we don’t really

mind that we don’t have an heavenly feeling and we don’t want to lose what we have already or upset you fellas. Hell

guys we even try to laugh at the towel trick thing you think is so cute! (That is so dumb fellas, it really

is pretty damned corny!)

We women and you men are besieged with these images we are supposed to compare ourselves to and live up to,

and if it were that easy, none of those images would have any value. We see slinky black dresses on

perfectly coiffed blondes with sultry lips languishing lazily on billboards, we see Madonna dressed in her

undies on stage, we see Brittney gyrating hips suggestively while the crowds go wild with desire, and

we listen to men, you smile when you see a tight young butt on a bicycle and claim you’d follow that across

America, you tell us you like see through and grin like fools when we put it on, but it doesn’t DO the

same thing for us, that it does FOR YOU. We do it to please you and hope somewhere in there, the magic will

just come down from the heavens and hit that button called hot, and warm us right the hell up and curl our

hair and our toes and cross our ever loving eyes and make us purr for hours after. Guys you make US cum

well enough and we will do anything for you! So there is a flip side to this coin about the stuff I write.

The man who makes us scream for hours in ecstasy we will do anything for you, and any woman who denies

that, hasn’t screamed for hours yet. OH and the kids? What kids? I sent them out to the neighbors, get your

butt in this bedroom DAD. NOW. Do that AGAIN. Think I’m kidding? HA! Try it and find out!

Men know what they find sexy. They find full pouty lips sexy, they find fiery temperaments sexy, they

find willowy and sweet sexy, they find lots of attitude sexy, they find innocent eyes looking up at

them with adoration and trust sexy, they find sultry sexy, they find smokey eyes sexy, they find a

confident strut sexy, a bold stare sexy, they find eye contact held a bit long sexy, they find Unclad women

and almost Unclad women and women in baseball caps and women in shirts and women in jeans sexy, and in

actuality, men find milk sexy. On the right day! Men can get in the mood over a $1.95 Burger! Women however

can’t. Men are far more readily visually stimulated into sexual arousal than women are. Women don’t even

know what arouses them at times, it’s often the thought of intimacy, of knowledge and sharing and

meeting of the minds and souls as well as bodies. As such, both have their strengths and reasons to exist.

We women are so repressed, we barely STILL see Unclad male bodies as attractive, and even in the media that

so invades our daily existence, men are rarely seen COMPLETELY Unclad, they are seen partially and rear

view Unclad, or? When we see full frontal male Unclothedness, it’s often in a spoof or comedy, and half the guys we

see, in magazines and ads, really aren’t that sexy to us. We like MEN, not shaved boys with fake tans, a

plastic smile and four pounds of hairspray? We love Mel Gibson, and Sean Connery and manly men, with hair

and craggy faces and passionate eyes and an intelligent playful toughness and a soft side they

often hide but show us so occasionally on the screen. We like the bravery and chivalry in one, we like how

gallant a man can be. We react to these things even more than the physical appearance.

We grew up with Clint Eastwood and John Wayne and men who were strong and kind, ethical and moral and

somewhat arrogant and stood tall above the others. They protected us, and secretly saw beneath our outer

coverings to the women we all are within. We like polish and insolence, we like tight jeans and curved

firm butts, we like bad boys in leather jackets with brooding sultry mouths, we like the soulfulness of the

rock star and the sensitivity of the artist in all of you, we like the contrasts men offer us, the tough and

the tender, the rough and the smooth, the wild and the tame, we like how men ARE as much as how they look. We

aren’t men. What we do is wish we had one who was all

man for us. We like the contrasts to our feminity and

we like the sense of masculinity that has all but gone

out of style. We like men who puff up at us and act

strong, we like that they give in to us, and love us

enough to change or agree, we love being your

princesses and your goddesses and we love being on

your pedestals, but we also need to be the LovePeddler and

the fantasy and the woman you crave carnally. We are

attracted to things that are male, but more with all

our senses, not just the visual. We are more sensually

attuned to males then they often are to us. And men

like things like how we look and smell, and it often

takes time before they can sense more than just visual

attraction as a stimulation for them.

Male bodies are a bit shocking to us, and we’re not

even sure why you all like women’s bodies! Our

repression runs very deep gentlemen. And you then show

us a picture of some perfect lithe teenage model and

say wow, this one’s nice and we run and hide in the

closet all but in tears, knowing we can’t compete! It

may get you hot, but all it does is upset us, that you

don’t and never will want us, because we don’t look

like her. And we don’t always realize that all you

were doing was hinting that you do have school girl

fantasies about cheerleaders and pompoms and you just

wish us to play that role for you at times.

You men love your manlinesses, even as you suspect we

don’t, and in some ways we really aren’t sure what to

do about those, we aren’t. You play with them and even

as little boys you’re fascinated, but they’re out

there for you to play with! Our pleasurable and sexual

parts are hidden away and when WE put our hands in our

panties, we get our hands slapped and severely scolded

and told that’s BAD and DIRTY! Yours were much more

convenient to play with for you and we were very

sensitive to not just the actions of being corrected,

but the attitude that to like those feelings or touch

those body parts was a bad thing. Besides, guys are

somewhat allowed to play with theirs, women are told

not to! So when we first see, the one eyed monster,

the snake, the tube steak, your little brain, willy,

peter, dick, your mighty rooster, your best friend, your

love muscle, your submarine, or your towel rack, we’re

not quite sure what to make of it. Often fellas the

first time we see one, is when one of you “whips it

out” so to speak. And we do stare in amazement, we do,

as in wow, so THAT’s what that is, huh…amazing!

To us it looks pretty damned big, whether our hands

are small or not, and you’re going to do what with it?

Put it where, and while you worry it isn’t big enough,

we are sort of going THAT IS not GOING TO FIT, OH MY

HEAVENS YOU ARE NOT! Don’t you pee with that thing?

That’s a little much to swallow, and you want us to do

what? Taste it? Kiss it and make it spit? Oh my! And

this is what love is? It comes as quite a shock to

most women guys, it really does. And we may swallow

hard a few times before we ever learn to swallow. And

then when you treat us, like ours is a bit strange and

nasty, and sort of eye it with a combination of

distaste and distrust, we really aren’t sure we even

want to do this stuff, do you blame us? So if you drop

your drawers and some woman sort of goes, want to play

Monopoly tonight, this is why? We aren’t used to

things sexual, or male sexuality and you have to allow

us to get used to them

Being a girl is a little tough! We’re supposed to be

nice and sweet and pure and innocent and clean and

pleasant, and unlike boys, we haven’t talked about

bumping uglies and doing the deed and getting down and

dirty and funky, we talk about shopping and how you

behave instead, but then you want us to get down and

raunchy with something we’re not sure we even like or

may never have seen before, and you name it all these

strange things like it is alive, and may do heavens

knows what too?

Guys show each other, they strut about Unclad, they take

showers in gym, they laugh about each others equipment

and packages, and in all, they’ve had a bit of time to

get used to having a joystick, so please gentlemen, give

us a few minutes to make friends with yours. We do

need to contemplate this thing you have hanging out

there, just like you once did, and being female means

we like to take time to consider it all, but once we

figure out it is a source of great enjoyment for US

TOO! We’ll like it as much as you do. I promise. joystick

envy may not be the result, but joystick love and

adoration may. Now if this is a bit shocking to you

men, and if it is hard for you to accept or if you are

frowning going, no this is 2003! Women have seen

manlinesses, women don’t think this stuff! And what’s all

this crap about they aren’t even sure they like our

bodies, this woman has no clue! Well, that’s why we

can’t tell you this stuff. Because how you react to it

isn’t comforting to us, and we just want some

understanding and comfort that’s all, and oh yea this

is so what we think!

And we want to appeal to you men! Women all have some

urge however subliminal to appeal to males, in some

way or another, we do want your attention on us. Even

subliminally, sexual attraction is so strong and so

powerful that, we still feel it for you, repressed or

not, whether we’ve gotten used to your maleness or

your bodies or your minds, we still want you, and we

want you to not only WANT us we want you to figure it

out for BOTH of us, because dumbie, you’re the damned

man! You lead we follow, this is like dancing and

that’s the rules, someone has to lead, and we aren’t

sure how to even! And in all those fairy tales, you

lead us to the promised land, and you are our

salvation and our pleasure guide, and after we submit

to you, we give you our souls and our hearts and our

bodies and our minds, so if you want all that, you

have to do some work first. And if the answer is I

just wanted to get laid, well, fine, we’ll just lay

here, and you do what ever it is that feels good to

you, like a bad Victorian novel, but you can’t have

our sexuality with out doing the work! It just doesn’t

happen and we can’t help it! And we’d really rather

you did know this, cause great sex is damned FUN!

We do want your attention and your interest, and we

want to be sexy! We want you to think WE are

attractive, and the ages old dance of the sexes is

about attraction and chemistry and sexual attuning,

and even if we don’t understand all of it, some has

gotten through to us very loudly and clearly. Men like

sex, sexy women have more fun. We all know you like

sexy and we all want to be sexy for you to enjoy and

like and we want to appeal to you, even if just so

you’ll open jars for us! So we put on our sexy

clothes, and we put on our make up and our high heels

and we strut our stuff, and try not to trip and we

wear those RIDICULOUSLY UNCOMFORTABLE garter belts

(thank the heavens for thigh highs! Amen!) we take off

our clothes, we put on short skirts, we do what ever

it is we think we’re supposed to do to be sexy and

please you guys. But it doesn’t work! We don’t feel

sexy, we don’t reach our own sexuality by putting on

clothes or make up, and when they say that sexy is a

thought and a sense of excitement, it really is, and

outfits are only skin deep sexy if we do feel even

that, and until we can reach inside ourselves to where

that sexuality lies dormant, it may turn you GUYS on

but it doesn’t do much for us. And in the end we are

at least as disappointed as anyone and we have no clue

how to fix it ourselves. We wanted the white horse

guys! We want to fly in the arms of the angel, we want

to feel bliss. We wanted to feel and enjoy and be? And

it didn’t happen, and we aren’t sure why, or what to

do and so we often just go to sleep, figuratively,

like Rip Van Winklemisses…and smile at you benignly

with out passion and only say Not tonight dear, ok?

I’m tired tonight, honey. Saturday night, ok? I have a

headache. Good night, smooch! Love ya dear, and turn

over like the dormant creatures we’ve become and go

right to sleep. We don’t even know what we’re missing

and subliminally that is a bit of what we say to you

at a time like that, you don’t know what you’re

missing either. Sleep time, and all us good little

peoples are sound asleep in here, you might as well

nod off too.

So if you want to know why you aren’t getting any,

listen up and pay attention, cause you can fix this,

and we so WISH you would! But we’ll never ever tell

you that. We’ll tell you your dick is too small before

we’ll ever admit we don’t enjoy it like we think we

should. And hell yes we blame you, for one, you also

blame yourselves, you do, any man out there will

immediately say, well I’m a good lover! My woman loves

what I do in bed, for another the books and songs do,

from I want a man with a slow touch to That don’t

impress me much, that won’t keep me warm at night,

everything tells you hints of what we need, it does,

and you guys do try to figure it out, I know you

do…but you don’t understand the size and depth of the

problem and it is not simple to deal with, or there

wouldn’t be a problem! Gentlemen if you want us to be

sexual and open to you, then show us the way, and for

a third reason, we’re conditioned to believe you are

supposed to handle this for us, from romantic movies

to fairy tales, the man is in charge, he rides a white

horse, he carries her off in his arms to make her his

own, we grew up on that stuff fellas, we want the full

meal deal, we do, and you can skip the white horse, if

you make us scream for twenty minutes in pleasure, in

fact if you make US cum well enough, we’ll do ANYTHING

you WANT! and it does say men are supposed to know

this stuff, so we agree, and in reality we aren’t sure

whose at fault and we are really hoping it is you,

because if it isn’t, it’s us. We don’t know how to

solve this by ourselves, and we don’t want to be a

FRIGID woman or asexual or sexually dysfunctional or

have no libido or any of that, any more than a guy

wants to think his dick isn’t big enough. And without

your help we can’t get there fellas, so…pay attention.

We don’t know how to! You have to figure it out and

show us, and here is how, if you really want to know.

Take a deep breath, be strong, and here goes, we

aren’t past the worst of this yet, if you wish to be

enlightened, you may find the door to the realm of her

sexuality and passions. Just like Raoul showed me

where it was, and he was so right, as he always is!

Well, maybe not QUITE always. But mostly. More often

than I am anyway. Even he admits he isn’t perfect, ALL

the time…and I”ll tell you he is most of the time.

It is somewhat simple. Inside us all is a little girl.

And that little girl does not become a woman until the

man she chooses to be her prince, kisses her awake.

Yes it is romantic, and it’s a bit oversimplified but

it’s also the truth. To many of us, as we’ve learned

to look at sex clinically and objectively we’ve

forgotten the absolute magic of it, and we’ve

discounted that magic and we’ve lost respect for it,

and so therefore it has eluded many of us, because we

don’t even know that without that magic, there is

nothing special about sexuality, it is just a

biological function. And females do not have to heavenly feeling

to have sex or to enjoy it. They do have to have the

magic to feel that sense of pleasure, and that is the

truth fellas. Women guard the magic in the world, we

have that thing called intuition and with it we can

see into a man’s soul. We need that magic to make his

life joyful, it is as simple as that. And yes I will

get more specific, before you all start dousing people

with fairy dust.

We women learned from stories and reading, fairy tales

and church, we learned from other women who knew as

little as we did, women don’t know enough to teach

each other about sexuality, we whisper and

misinterpret and we aren’t sure, so a lot of what we

hear isn’t very accurate. We can talk about SEX, we

can discuss our bodies, we spend hours talking about

monthly cycles and our hormones, but when it comes to

things like heavenly feelings or pleasure, or fantasies, we

don’t talk much, to anyone at all. Not to each other,

not even to ourselves and DEFINITELY not to you men.

We’ll smile and agree on that subject, oh boy howdy,

we aren’t gonna fess up to nuthin’ honey! Who ever

believes women can’t keep a secret, is foolish. We

have kept the secret of our own sexuality so

completely, and so long and so well, we have lost

track of it ourselves, and have no clue it’s inside us

all. And men don’t know, unless they are told any more

than we women do. And because of this, the key to the

realm was hidden and lost, and we aren’t even sure

where it is, or how to use it. And all men secretly

long to have a holy grail to seek and find, well

here’s the grail guys! And even Indiana Jones had

sense enough to realize it is a gift in itself, more

precious than diamond and gold, and simple in

construction. And to sup from the cup of sensual

pleasure is the salvation we all seek and our reward

on earth that makes us believe we are in heaven, amen.

Only men will try to figure it out, and only because

at the light of that tunnel is sex. Lots of very hot,

Intimate, exciting sex. And men will do ANYTHING for

that. And perhaps nature did have a good plan after

all, for men seek and hunt and think and we women wait

and nurture and share, and together we become more

than either is alone and better than either can ever

be by themselves. It is the holy grail a male seeks

and his instincts will send him on the quest for

sexual fulfillment and Intimate stimulation far more

intently than we timid females would ever try to

achieve it, we just sort of shrug it off and get a

Romance-Machine IF we even do that! So you men are therefore

the ones who will happily do the work needed to in

fact find the on button for the woman in their lives,

for the benefits they will receive, for the joy it

will bring, like the gift it is to us all. Gentlemen,

if you do this correctly, you will benefit from it, as

will we. You will earn the undying gratitude of the

woman you do this for. You will enjoy her and she you.

And the faking of heavenly feelings will indeed become a dying

art.

Women need to be understood and loved and they need to

feel safe and relaxed before they can unleash their

own sexual beings. This does not mean they have to BE

in love, it does mean they have to feel cherished and

special. To get her to be the slut she can be, you

have to remember, she wants to be a monogamous slut,

one man’s slut, not just a common slut. You must prove

to her she is a lady you both care about and respect

and she has to trust you to allow her to be not only

who she is, but can be and that you not only want

this, but need it and will love her even more for it.

You have to teach her it is ok to be passionate and

sexual with you. You not only have to teach her to

respect and love your body but her own.

Once, the prescribed theories were, no sex prior to

marriage, no sex outside of marriage, and no casual

sex period, and when we did away with those traditions

in the spirit of moral freedoms or to some it’s

defined as moral decay, and lost those customs, we

lost something very important. In that were safety

limits, boundaries we could trust and lean on, and

knowledge that we weren’t going to end up cast away or

misused for just loving you as men. And no, I’m not

even espousing that people return to a very rigid

tradition and repressed societal interference with our

own pleasures, I am not. If marriage was all it took

to solve the problems between men and women, you men

would drag us to the damned alters in droves! But in

between the old way and the new, should be a solution,

that sexuality can exist without morality restricting

it into oblivion through narrow minded prejudices and

archaic notions about moral purity meaning the

banishment and denial of sexuality and pleasure.

What I am saying is that there was some sense to those

traditions, that they were in fact once, based on good

theories for human beings, that they gave us good

structure and balance and that knowing the rules and

knowing people play by them brings safety and sanity

to a powerful set of feelings. The magic and respect

that human sexual exchanges deserve have been

forgotten, ignored and way laid for a very long time,

and we pay the price by having meaningless sex, and

sexually dysfunctional people everywhere, who really

aren’t sure what it’s about, is it pornographic,

immoral, or just intensely unusual to have passionate

sex with a few creative elements? Or is THAT the norm

rather than the prescribed theory that we’ll all get

fat at 40 and quit doing that silly stuff, cause we

love each other too much to need it anymore? Sex

should not be ruled by Middle America, and it should

not be dictated to us by churches, who really compete

with sex for Sunday morning attendance. And to that I

will add, never learn about sex from someone who

doesn’t at least like it! Is this such a difficult

thing to understand? You don’t ask your minister how

to fix your car either! Unless he’s also a mechanic,

that is!

Sex is special and as such, should be treated with

respect and our sexuality should be treated with

dignity and reverence for the beauty and joy it truly

is and should be. It should be revered as being the

magic it is. It’s the glue that binds two wildly

different sexes together into one, and makes them

better together than apart. It is more important than

the chores or work or any distraction, and what it is

is communication of souls and spirits and hearts, it’s

primal and basic and animalistic, but it’s also a gift

we were given in our creation. It is communing with

each others bodies, and it is supposed to be very

exciting and very pleasurable. It should definitely

rank ABOVE watching television, EVEN football,

gentlemen!

And whether your beliefs include marital vows or

religious benedictions prior to this union of two

people isn’t the point. The point is, it should be

meaningful and special and between two people who at

least like and respect each other! Sex is more than

just a biological function, and the tradition that men

will and still do say whatever they have to get it

FROM women, is part of why women are taught to repress

their own sexuality, so they don’t fall for every line

from every guy who hands them one!

Sex deserves respect, and understanding and education

and effort, and a lot of us put more effort into

learning about which car we wish to buy prior to

purchasing it! And every male who uses and discards

women like they’re condoms, and treats them with

disrespect and a virtual receptacle for their own self

involved pleasure and convenience and believes they

have no value and are unworthy of respect contributes

to this problem over all. If you treat women like they

are silly for liking sex, giving affection or

trusting what you say, well, you can hardly blame them

for not wanting to be that sort of person. And when

one does it to a few, we all hear and we all see how

he treats and humiliates her for giving him SEX. And

oh yeah we notice! And gentlemen women have long

memories and we take notes. SO, it has to be reversed,

for women, before they can instantly hit an on switch,

as much as we wish we could? We can’t hit that easily

or quickly ourselves. And no, we’ll never admit that?

That’s part of the problem, because we also believe

sex is totally natural and comes to us naturally, and

if we aren’t sexual and passionate, we either have a

lower libido, or there is something innately wrong

with us, for not being “normal” so we swear we’re fine

with it, and we all but convince ourselves we are! And

this is a very widespread problem and a lot of women

‘fake” heavenly feelings rather than EVER admit they don’t have

one! And that is so common, I don’t know a woman that

hasn’t faked at least some. We even mischievously work

harder at being good at faking those, then we do, at

learning how not to need to! And that is feminine

logic definitively if I’ve ever known it! Makes sense

to us guys! And no, most of us haven’t even a clue

why!

Women need to be told and shown it is ok, to be a

sexual creature. Too many years of disrespect for

sexual women, too many men who dis the “easy” girl at

school, too many people saying, oh don’t get a

reputation! Have taken their toll.

Society has labeled sexually active women as tramps,

losers, whores, sluts, bitches, fallen angels, will

die in abject poverty from disease and pestilence, are

cheap trashy and live in trailer courts, and in

essence, who in the hell would want to be one of those

willingly! Society shakes it heads sadly when women

fall from grace, and sighs, what man will want her

now, she likes sex! And gentlemen you are as guilty of

these misconceptions and double standards as anyone

and partially why we’re so confused. Do you want sex

or not, is sort of what we end up wondering.

Men don’t MARRY sexual women, because they want a good

mother for their kids! They marry the woman who isn’t

sexual, who is prim and proper and soft spoken and

then ten years later sort of wonder why she stopped

putting out. She’s a nice girl is why, you chose the

most repressed one you could find is why, so you could

raise nice repressed daughters of your own. Guys, if

you want a lady in the living room, and LovePeddler in the

bedroom, you may need to teach the one to be both. And

although you all seem to think it’s easy to teach that

chilled and virtuous woman to be fiery and passionate,

in fact, some people never do embrace passion

willingly and won’t learn to be sexual. It is easier

to teach one manners and how to dress properly, by the

way. Part of that is most of them will gladly make

that change for you. And some of the ones who appear

so sweet and pure, in fact, may never be able to be

sexual at all, and may not even like men very much.

Our society does this to women, and we all do our part

to make those rigid restrictions a very real problem.

Women aren’t allowed to talk dirty, it’s very

unladylike to swear or to talk about sex, or like sex,

is it really any wonder women repress their own

sexuality? And part of this whole women’s movement has

been about sexual freedom from repression, we want to

like sex and have it in our lives. Other cultures like

it, and value it and even teach it to people without

worrying they’ll misuse sexuality or abuse it. It’s

ours that is very adamant that sexuality is a disease

and an evil, and as such, I guess I wonder who made

those rules and decisions for all of us, and why, if

this is evil, were we all born to be able to have this

pleasure.

Whether its Puritannism, Victorian, or whereever it

all started, somewhere along the line, people didn’t

want women to be sexual, perhaps they were afraid we’d

be TOO sexual and they would run off and screw our

tiny little brains out! And no man wants to share a

woman he cares about! And before the age of birth

control and antibiotics it was a way to insure your

child was indeed your own and that you didn’t get

incurable disease, which STD’s once were. Male

possessiveness is as primal as anything we deal with.

Men guard their Kitty-cats, because if they don’t, some

other man will steal her away, and men like having

their own Kitty-Cat! She makes his life BETTER, she greets

him at the entrance to cave with a cool drink, she

puts curtains on his windows, she tans his hides into

new clothes for him, she keeps him warm at night and

she brightens his life with a smile, she makes him

laugh as she figures things out, and she amazes him by

what and how she learns. And in that, selfish and

somewhat overbearing protective rationalization, that

women were in fact possessions, women were put to

sleep, very much like Snow White was, so that when her

Prince arrived, he could awaken her with a kiss and

she would only want him ever more, having been guarded

well and still chaste and pure, the spring from which

only he gets to drink, sweet and gentle, clean and

good.

The tale of the seven short guys and the Monogamous

slut, was so cleaned up to get that G rating, some of

us missed that they do a lot more than kiss, after he

carries her off to his castle. And if the tale were

remade in an X rated version, he darn near drags her

to that castle impatient to ravish her completely and

mark her as his own for eternity, branding her as his,

plunging into her ravenous mind and eager body until

she’s nothing but responses and nerve endings. Lucky

girl! So is there an airline that flies to this land,

because I would book a trip. Really I would.

There are two approaches to reaching a female’s sexual

release triggers, to find her repressed sexuality, and

unleash it. One is through tenderness and patience,

gentleness and knowledgeable touching. It’s

encouragement for her to be sexual, it’s teasing and

teasing and more teasing and oh even more teasing,

it’s making her beg for it and then saying, not

tonight honey, let’s just cuddle. Men, she is showing

you what she needs the only way she knows how. TEASE

the living daylights out of her, until your eyes cross

and your testicles turn NAVY BLUE, she needs your self

denial more than you can ever imagine to get through

this, and it is worth it for you both, it really is.

And oh start up again tomorrow, do not let her have

it! Do not. And when you come home to this soft

glowing pleasing sweet enticing begging woman, who all

but leaps upon you for more, when the glow reaches her

skin, her eyes, and her hair, tease her a few hours

more and tenderly take her, and yes, it may take

several weeks. At least three or four nights. Well you

guys did ask, and this is the answer. This is what

women want desperately and have no clue how to tell

you because, you’ll get the same look on your face and

frown you have from reading this now. It’s that dumb

way you all go HUH, no way?! That makes it hard to

tell you these things. Seriously. Patience and belief

are important.

Once there was a courtship ritual, that was very much

standardized through out time. It involved getting to

know each other, it was often chaperoned by others, so

that no sex could take place! It was once called

dating in this country, although we’ve all but done

away with it, sadly. It’s a dance, it swerves, it’s

rhymical, it advances it retreats, it’s step here,

step there, follow now turn, dip and spin, and in it

men lead. And that is the key to unlocking women’s

sexual responsiveness and passion. Those old courtship

rituals, weren’t about bringing her flowers, they were

about learning her mind, showing her you care, earning

her trust and teasing her into awakening,

figuratively, literally and metaphorically. There are

reasons those customs evolved, because older wiser

people knew that women could not just jump into the

rack and be happy happy joy joy with it all.

And the recipe for sexual pre-intimacy and the ability to

awaken a woman’s sexuality is in the above. It is a

dance, it does go on for some time, it does involve

things like learning to trust and building that trust

and it is about proving to her who you are and why she

does want to love you.

And she will adore you forever, and for a time, you

will need to tease her like this ongoingly, but it

won’t be long before she begins to develop the early

stages of that disease you men all wish she’d get of

I-wanna-rooster-now. It wont. Sex is a journey, and it

starts slow for women. After awhile, they start to go

faster, and they’ll keep up. After more time, they’ll

all but drag you along, and eventually, if all else

fails, she’ll carry you if she has to, but you have to

do the first part! Or it doesn’t happen!

She can’t help it gentlemen, and very very expensive

sexual dysfunction clinics do this, and teach this

“delaying” technique to bring out a woman or a man’s

mental blocks or repressions preventing their

enjoyment and active participation in sexual

pleasures. You can do this yourselves at home. In some

ways this works like building pressure behind the

figurative dam, that any repression literally hides

behind and that pressure, through arousal and physical

excitement, builds to the point where it has to be

released, where it breaks free and all but explodes

very much like a dam that’s burst. And the older she

is, and the longer that repressive dam has built up,

the more it will take, and part of her will not be

able to help you do this, the part that built that dam

to begin with. The part of her, that through teaching

of parents and societal influences, believes pleasure

is wrong, that sex really isn’t important nor should

it matter. It can be overcome, but it isn’t something

fifteen minutes of pre-intimacy or touching the right spot

is going to accomplish. You have to enter her body

through her mind, and help her unlock the door to her

sexual responses gently, with compassion and with

understanding and the belief that oh yes you can, and

oh yes she wants you too. She just may not be able to

admit that. With knowledge, skill, understanding and

trust, lots of erogenous zone play, and teasing

delaying the gratification to the point she can’t

control her own mind, a little manual stimulation and

she will go off like a rocket into space, and once

she’s learned how and what it’s like, she’ll get right

with the program, honest. I am one. I know. And with

more experimentation you can expand on this and build

a truly pleasurable intimate life long adventure with

your woman.

This will be continued in the next chapter-and I am

not a trained or degreed professional of any sort in

the arts and sciences of humanity, nor do I profess to

be such. Some of my instructions may be somewhat

flawed or incomplete, nor espoused as popular belief.

I read a lot, I learned and then Raoul showed me the

way, like it was simple! So good luck to all of you

who have read this far with interest, and the next

chapter will go into more on this subject.

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they want everything they can not eb satisfied

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dint ur mother teach u boi!

they want it all, ur time, money, house,

ur job, ur position, ur entitlement, everything.

they even want your life.

lol

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