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What Do You/your Partner Do When You're Angry?

here's ma question:to the ladies,how do you get when you're angry? Are you the kinda girl who throws knives? Do you break stuff(shatter plates,etc)? Do you yell? Do you throw tantrums and stomp your feet? Do you cry uncontrollably? Do you listen to rock music? What does your partner do when he's pissed off? As for the guys,the same question goes. As for me,when i'm pissed off,i work out,y'know,channel all that anger into productive outlets(which is why yours truly has such a bangin' bod-abs of steel,baby,lol). What about you?

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When she is angry, she yells and talks but I have this bad look that I wear when I know an argument is about to crop up and it means "BACK OFF". I don't believe in hitting women, I hate it in its entirety.

When I am angry, I just walk away. Might take a few days before I come to terms with anything and then I'll get over it. We just laugh over it, I talk to her and we just get back together again. When such things don't happen then your relationship is likely going to crash.

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When my girlfriend and i have a fight,we call pastor chris for counselling. . .he's on facebook-like loveworld360. . .hossana!

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I get so quite and get my mind on some interesting stuffs, and she knows me for that and just keep off and wait till she sees smiling again.

When she is agree, I apologize immediately, and she makes me feel like a sorry-kid.

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Dude, I see a lot of myself in this post.

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well i drink beer

cos im not generally in2 beer bt once angry i drink beer

and as 4 my girl shes the crase type,she pours her anger on me

till i flee!

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@topic

1. Its difficult to get me angry cus i have a reserved demeanour and i also have a very good sense of humour that helps me to rationalise most issues including assaults or insults or ridicule or temptations to be angry.

2. In unusual cases in which i am angry then:

- I wait to first and foremost try to absorb wat just happened.

- sometimes I give the person a creepy smile showing all my 32 teeth, to send a signal to the person that something unsual has been done or said.

- sometimes I pull back or pull away or keep my distance from the person in question, keep quiet for a while to think about and rationalise wat made me angry.

- then after rationalising the issue I even bring up the issue as a joke with the person concerned so that if possible the problem can be resolved amicably.

- sometimes after rationalisation, I can also take the step of forgiving the person without them even asking for forgiveness, and then actually go ahead to initiate

contact for required reconciliation.

- If the above mentioned options fail and and I am still angry, I completely keep the person at arms length.

3. I can become a savage beast wen I am in rage hence, the worst case scenario is that I simply do not know what i would do if my initial steps fail and i descend into a rage.

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I honestly will need to just walk away.It sets me free from all the anger.

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He asks questions about what led to the problem in such a calm manner that I am ashamed for angering him. I explain why I am mad and tell him exactly what is wrong. We both aologize and make love, , erm, I mean make up.

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Me - I ask for a few moments to gather my thoughts and evaluate why I am angry. I take that time to retreat to my room and write.

Then we talk

Him - he states what has upset him asks for a few moments to gather his thoughts then we come back together to talk it out.

Taking a time out gives each partner time to really evaluate the root cause of the problem and come up with helpful solutions for your partner so that it wont be a problem in the future. Also once the anger has gone you are more willing to compromise and find a solution.

We dont go to bed with it on our chests.

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ANGER = DANGER. NOT GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH NOT GOOD FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP

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whn am angry? i walk away and stay away to control my anger.

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I blow up big time and cool down later to listen!  Bat attitude but I am working on it. Once I let is all out though I never go back to it.

My guy just walks away and returns the next day to listen.  Bad guy he is and that is why I love him.

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keep quiet, stay aloof, walk away.

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I sleep when i'm angry too. I applaud those that have energy. . .i on the other hand don't have energy.

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I just listen to my fav songs on my Ipod. this helps to calm me down and take my mind off the issue. . .and then I doze off.

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@thoniaslim,seriously? How can you sleep with all that anger nd frustrated tension?

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I go in bed, force myself to sleep. I unconsciously wake up with a longlasting panacea.

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yeah i listen to rock when i'm over-the-top mad!!! But dat was when i was single, now if its at him gosh i talk and it comes with spite(i h8 it) den i just get massively coldddd ike dont' touch me don't talk 2 me don't. to calm down i just cryyyy

My baby he doesn't talk, just looks at me like ok, but if he does dat it means i've overdone it then i stop and we talk it out, make up imagine the rest ;-)

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@chaircover,lol. I had a gf like that once. When she was pissed,she'd start scrubbing;the bathroom,toilet,kitchen,or she'd just mop the whole house(seriously,how do y'all do that?). @iice,some ppl listn to rock when they're angry.

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as for ma girl,it all depends on how angry she is. If she's a li'l angry,she talks,not yells,but talks sha. Sometimes she punches me lightly on the shoulder-and ends up hurting herself,lol. But when she's really mad,she seethes. She gives me The Look,that stare that makes me squirm nd makes me feel like a jerk. She never cries(thank God!). I cant stand it,and neither can she. But all that's in the heat of the moment. After that initial anger,we talk it out. Pillow talk,mostly. We have a rule;we never go to sleep if one of us is angry at the other. So no argument nd it's associated wahala is carried over into the next day.

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When I am angry, I would do alot of work. The last time my bf made me seriously soooooo angry I painted the whole house!!! and aftr that I still have more energy for housework and after Im done, than I can talk to him with a polite tone and not in a harsh tone.

If my bf is angry, he would take a walk and when he cools down he would come back and we would talk.

Its better to cool down than talk instead of just talk when you are angry cause you are bound to say harsh things which you do not even mean it.

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