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This is an ex of mine. After breaking up for 4 months, he told me he miss me blah blah blah, after considering going back to him I met with him and his fone rang twice and it was a lady, I don't know what she said but I cud make it up from what he was replying that he can't come out right now and he would see her tomorrow that maybe she wanted to see him. After that i decided not to go back to him even though I love him so much. But we kept in touch, tonight he came to see me,  called me & tell me his downstairs and  I went down, I didn't even finish 10min in his car his fone rang again and it was a lady again, from what he was saying i assumed she was asking where he was coz he was like I'm just checking something online(he was with me hey) and at the end of their conversation he was like "nice one baby thnx for calling". After i heard that i just repeated what he said last and then stormed out of his car and bang the door.

This is the guy I risk everything for including my career and now I don't know why he keeps on coming back if there are these ladies in his life, I mean the name I saw on fone screen when this one called is the same as the last one.

I don't even know why this is hurting so much coz i thought I was getting over him.

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davemart probably never read the OPs initial post.

I think the OP's man is in need of a bed mate. I suggest you follow Opokonwa's advice.

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@davemart

tanx for the advice . In every relationship i always have it in mind that it either works out or not i dnt force my self on guys.

ABout me introducing him as my fiancee no way i dnt do dat cos most guys are scared of commitment so i wont scare them by doing that, also he came to my village with his cousin and they were not my only frends that came from lagos to my fathers burial, i also introduced them (him n his cousin) as my frend not fiancee.

I am not desperate for marriage if there's anything i think of all the tym is my career

I also asked him if he heard anything about me in the village that i didnt tell him he said nothing and wen we started dating earlier i told him about my family ie the things i know he can hear outside and wont be happy about.

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listen, i joke all the time on this forum, but i am going to be very serious first time, pls leave this guy for good. no matter what u feel. i have seen this things many times, HE DOESNT LIKE YOU, HE JUST USING YOU, AND WILL DUMP YOU IN NO TIME, WHEN HE HAS SUCKED ENUF OUTTA YOU.

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You thought your man loved you but you never cared to know what your man thought about you.  You didn’t care to know if he loved you because you were romantic or good in bed; or because of your personality. And so on.

Secondly, his travel to your village might have revealed something about you that he never knew prior to the period of the travel. There are things you might have hidden from him that he was shocked to learn about in your village. It was obvious he interacted with some of your relations and if he is the drinking or smoking type; he must have visited a road side bar or restaurant where he learnt something disturbing about you or your family.

Thirdly, you might not have discussed marriage with him but you’d wish to marry him. Make no mistake; men have a special ability to detect a woman’s feeling. You might not have discussed marriage with him but what about your actions?

For instance, in your village the following might have ensued to make him believe you want him to marry you:

You introduced him in your village in a way that suggests he is your fiancé or would be fiancé.

Somebody addressed him in a way that suggests he is their in-law or would be in-law.

This must have infuriated him so much that he decided to breakup the relationship.

Don’t forget, men flee from women who are desperate for marriage.

Lastly, the car loan he requested was simply a man’s tactics of chasing away a woman especially when there is love-loss. His strategy is to make you run away by appearing selfish. For instance; he wants you to be his bedmate without emotional attachment.

He also wants you to help him collect a loan from your company.

All these are mind games. He already knew you’ll react the way you did. He wants you to see him as evil and wicked and then flee.

He wants you to flee. So what do you want?

To be successful in your love relationship it is vital that you understand men.

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that is the reason why he is calling

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C'mon sis. U r'nt blind, r u. itz obvious he wntz 2 gt richer wif ur help.

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Your question has been answered. Is now left for you to do the right thing

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The guy is not your man. Period.

He is only a distraction. Double Period.

Delete everything about him (phone numbers, YIM, memory, emotion, feeling, empathy, sympathy, acquaintance). Triple period.

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Move on sweetie - the guy seems to be a waste of space.

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Don't live your life for people who doesn't appreciate it. Move on!

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He wants 2 eat his cake and have it. Hw old is he? What did he c or hia in the village thats makin him act funny?Hw old are u? I just believe u are too matured 4 him. There is definatly no future 4 both or u, so y linger. U dont need that sort of joke in ur life. NB: why do i have strong feelings about u? Pls hala me at xtfranks005@yahoo.com. I'll like 2 b ur frend.

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Me think your friend is only interested in a bed mate. And the effrontery to ask you to facilitate a car loan for him cuts him out as not only being insensitive but should also be accorded recognition as a 5-star gold digger. As girls often do,you may still have a sneaking feeling for him but be fair to self and FLEE!

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Moreover, i think, if he's a player then you know this b4 you guyz start dating so get past it.

A playa would definitely settle down somtim or the other. if u cant bear it then quit but if u like as your mind is telling u right now then work for it. b open with him bout his playa status. if he want you enuff he only wants to be sure u are stil availabl b4 he comes back to you.

Make the rules, go out with guyz too 4 him to knowhat he is missing.

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Bro u have a very good point there. If the dude just want sex, he could have gotten it from the other girls calling her, but bro the poster's sex might be sweeter than the others yanno. But if its ur loving and all that existed in the relationship is what the dude is missing that he cnt get from other gurls, I feel he truly wants u back, and I also think the rest of the girls calling him are the ones he has been or trying to hook up with while u guys broke up. Really they dnt mean shyt to him right now, but u are!!! Advise is, let go of all those thoughts of him calling other girls baby, and try to reconstruct what has been demolished.

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All this advice. i tire ooohhh.

If a man keeps coming back it means jst 1 thing. He culdnt fiond what u guyz had b4 with any1 else.

4get those telling u dat all he want is **x. if he is a player as u said then its not hard for him 2 com across gals 2 lay.

and bliv me playaz dnt think any gal is worth coming back 2 xcept she's got somtin xtra which they couldnt get any where els. if he keeps coming back it means he like u enuf to wana b with you and if u realize u did have what makes him comin back then girl, u can make the RULES.

Dnt throw what u guys have away just like that. u keep runnin out to c him, so u lov him still. work on him.

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Confusion leads to frustration dear. Do you know u might be unconsciously frustrated? I am telling u. Go and check ur PB.

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Go find a new guy. That guy is not serious with you again. Okay?

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Poster, u dnt know what u want. You are a little bit frustrated. Get your mind right, and im sure you'll know whats best for you to do.

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4get abt hm. Hes a player.

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i think this babe like him and she looking for a reason to hate him. so you guys should give her one.

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@poster, maybe u're insecure, y not check urself first? I have a friend hu ends his calls wit i love u to almost anybody! It always made me laugh especially if d caller isn't so close to him, i've warned him but its already a habit, MAYBE ur EX is like dat, callin a gal BABY doesn't really mean anything, i call my younger Sister baby too, n u say he has a lotta girls around him its normal for some guys, Eg ME! Maybe u've neva trusted him cos of this, I'm not defendin him but from ur explanation u still love him but u didn't give a chance,

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MEN, I give up on them.Lol!!!

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Find yourself another guy!

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sometimes, women just get themselves into difficult situation. It very simple to break. you said both of you broke for 4months and now he is back. What was the coz of the breakup if i may ask?

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@ Poster, don't bring your past into your future. He doesn't want you back and from the looks of things doesn't respect you at all. Please stop trying to figure out his twisted mind and just move forward with your life. Embrace the pain cause it will fade with time. If he ever calls you again, tell him thanks for calling but you'll pass on the get together, even if he's downstairs. Shut that door for good!

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@ roblance

what happened to your other id?

guess it ran into a ditch?

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topic dismmised no more comment she knows wat to do, but she herself still loves him well thread owner better dnt go mad with dat guy oo, if u like yur health

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Methinks d guy's still coming back cos he thinks U're still susceptible 2 his charms, n if U guys ren't ving sex at d moment u soon will if U're not careful.If u dn't wanna sign back in2 heartbreak hotel I suggest U tell d guy off n delete him COMPLETELY,word.

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u're not sleeping with him, sure . . . But he's using u for something u urself might not know: It could be money, emotional support or as a side kick  . . .

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why shuld u go and eat yur vomit, well u did eat yur vomit so u got wat u deserved , its nt ideal to eat yur vomit now , even a dog wunt dare do such, gurl wise up

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From my own point of view, i think he is just using u for sex. I tell you what yeah, the guy is got different gurls. I do not know him but from what you said he definately has different gurls. You said this guy is ur ex right? ok fine, trust me this guy only need sex and after a short period he will find excuse to break it up again. Be wise sha.

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