What do you have to say about marriage? The famous Nollywood actress Opeyemi Aiyeola has expressed her opinion about relationship. Find out what she thinks now!
Debate about marriage keeps on going on social media all around the world. Being impressed by people’s comments, Opeyemi Aiyeola decided to express her opinion about what the key to happy relationship is.
Nollywood actress thinks that it’s not about sexual contact and romantic feelings. She says that true love has nothing to do with the appearance – people love each other for their personalities, not looks.
In her opinion, “I mean two opposite sex who have decided to become comforting like minds...”
It means that people who are comfortable with each other and who feel like they’re soul mates have a chance to build a healthy and strong relationship.
All people are looking for someone they will really enjoy being around. However, there is more to it – we want our partner to stay with us forever, to build happiness together.
Marriage is a little bit different, according to the words of the Nigerian star. But the point stays the same – sex has almost nothing to do with it.
Opeyemi Aiyeola thinks that romantic feelings are only important when people just meet each other. But it all goes away as the time passes.
The real love, according to her, is the feeling that stays with you forever, till death. You will know it’s real if you want to spend all your life with that person.
She doesn’t deny that it won’t always be easy because everyone has problems from time to time.
But it only gives you a chance to know your partner better and to find out what compromise both of you should make to improve the relationship. You have to be realistic about your expectations.
Both of the partners have to work on the relationship. It’s important to be patient, loving and caring even if the situation is rather bad.
If your partner has problems you need to support him and he has to do the same thing back. You have to reassure that person that you will always be with them no matter what.
Some people tend to think that money plays an important role in a happy marriage but it’s not true – attention is what matters the most.
Opeyemi Aiyeola says she is praying for every person to find their true love that will stay with them forever.
Key to the happy relationship – Advice of Psychologists
Trust is the most important thing!
Trust is the number one factor in building up a good quality relationship. Nothing is possible without mutual trust. If you are not sure in your partner, you can’t be happy with them.
If you want to check how well your relationship is working, ask yourself some questions. First of all, do you consider your loved one reliable? Is he willing to help you in every situation? Does he support you?
It’s not that easy to answer as there are difficulties in the life of every person. Sometimes we behave not in the way we actually intend. Different people will have different answers to these questions.
Some of them want to check on their partners while others trust no matter what. Which type are you?
What if you and your partner are completely different?
Who are you? What are your hobbies and how do you see life? Ask yourself these questions and then do the same thing to your partner.
You need to do it to understand if you can actually live with your loved one. At first the romance takes control over you but as you start living with another person, different things start to matter.
If you are very quiet and he is very bad-tempered it might make your life unbearable. Analyze your purposes in life and see if they are different.
Another thing you should do is to think of your behavior when you’re together. Is it always going to be like that?
You need to be honest with yourself because if you choose the wrong person who you have nothing in common with, you will regret your choice and it won’t be that easy to turn back.
How do you feel after the communication with your loved one?
According to the studies done in the field of relationship, the reason for most of the divorces is the disrespect for each other.
When one of the partners or both of them express the negative emotions by criticising each other, they experience a lot of emotional pain.
Most of the time the offensive things we say are just a way to release our anger, it’s not what we actually mean. However, during the fight the other person’s perception is absolutely different.
They might feel like that’s exactly what we think of them. The good relationship implies respect for each other.
If you are having a couple fight, you simply need to explain what displeases you and what you might want to fix. It’s absolutely not necessary to yell at each other and insult your partner.
The psychologists strictly recommend to solve everything in a calm way.
If you are not sure, think of the way you communicate with your partner. How do you feel afterwards? Is he totally supportive or does he tend to make fun of you all the time?
Does he really listen to you and takes your opinion into consideration? It’s very important to be honest with yourself because it might actually turn out that he isn’t the one you should build a family with.
However, don’t give up that fast – first, try to fix the problems.
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