I'm sort of getting fed-up and edgy about telling my babe the same thing all the time. I left naija early this year for my master's and b4 i left, i had proposed and given her my ring. we even brought our parents to meet informally. i've been here for a couple of months and i call her almost everyday.
Recently, she keeps on bringing up the issue on when will we get married, and i keep on telling her that she shld relax, that as a man one shld be able to provide well for his wife b4 the kids start coming along, and that giving the situation of things, we cannot get married until wen i finish skool and get a good job. besides, i'll have to work for a few months to have some money in order to be able to get my own place, furnish it a bit, and even for the wedding itself(even if my parents are going to give us money for the wedding, at least as a man i shld also have some money as well for the whole thing).
This has been what i've been telling her anytime she brings the subject up. As i am now, i won't be finishing skool until much later next year, and hopefully if i get a job wen i go back home, we shld be able to get married by the first half of 2011. But she called me earlier today, telling me she was so moody, that we had planned that by 2010 we'll be married, etc, etc. i told her that plans definitely change, that she herself knows that is no longer possible considering the state of affairs now, and that i don't want to bring her into my house in order for her to suffer, that she shld chill out on this wedding thing. besides i had told her from day 1 that i was going to go for my masters at some point, and that would she be willing to wait? at least i've assurred her that she's the one i want to marry, her parents have given us their blessings, and they are all willing to wait till i get back from my studies. i almost started yelling at her today cos i don't know what else to tell her. i had even told her that i'll be coming home during the summer break next year, and we can then do a more proper introduction. this thing is really getting on my nerves cos i'm really fed up of telling her the same thing over and over again.