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What Goes Around Comes Around: Really?

Hey people. . .

I have realized that people sometimes come to me to ask for advice concerning relationships and other life issues as well. Not that I'm an expert on those type of things. I have made my own fair share of mistakes. But in my uni, I have seen and heard about a lot of things. Guys beating their girlfriends, cheating on them, and all sorts of other things. . . and even though my Uni is in the UK, there are so many Nigerians here that nothing can be kept a secret.

So one day I thought of all my friends who are/ have been in bad relationships, and it seemed so sad to me that these guys are just playing the field. Some of them were really good girls who were just not experienced enough and the boy involved just messed them up entirely. Some others just dont want to let go of the guy even though he has treated them badly.

All I can do is think of the saying, " What goes up must come down/ what goes around must come around". But does this really happen? People do a lot of wicked things to others and walk away scot- free. And they get ready for their next target. Why must the wicked ones get away with  the things they do? And does karma really happen or is it just a myth?

And can anyone give instances if they have heard of such a thing happening?

I ask this because when these girls come to tell me, I actually do feel their pain. I give them the advice I think they need but I know it won't change anything. So PLEASE, answers and no insults,  I realize that no one really knows the answer to this question but any thoughts would be appreciated.

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me put words in ur mouth? ur mouth is big enough for anything to be put into, but for me to put words in it is a waste of mine previous words

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So where or when did I say so, then?

And besides, stop trying to derail the topic. My question is written clearly in my post so stop trying to put words in my mouth and pick arguments that dont exist.

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Luvbooks,

Saying I'm a nice clown doesn't quite qualify as saying something nice you know?

Fortunately it's christmas day already for you and almost christmas day for me as well so Karma and Nemesis are taking the day off.

And by the way, I do have the answers that you search for o seeker of wisdom but hey, it's the season to be jolly so I'll spill the beans later on.

Off to count down the hours to christmas.

Merry christmas!

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karma doesn't always catch up. Some people go scot-free. People tend to be fanatics hence rely mostly on 'fate' than on common sense. Not saying fate doesn't interfere but to rely solely on, he/she's gonna get what's coming to her/him. . .yeessh. Help your bloody self.

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Nemesis will alwayz catch up

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Its not what goes around comes around kan akn.

Itz being careful with the person you fccuk with. That person may later on influence your life. One way another.

Karma ko koinkoin ni

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Ok Luvbooks, here goes,

From days of long ago, from uncharted regions of the universe comes a legend, the legend of;

Ok, it's time for another break.

I'll get back to sharing this invaluable shard of knowlege after I get outta bed.

By the way, why'd you switch your profile pic from "heaven" to what heaven should look like?

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most times it comes too late

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What goes around comes around,karma do come to pass not only in romance but in all spheres of life.

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Hey Luvbooks,

I know the "exact" answers to your questions but I'll let you in on it when you come back online.

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@ Mama- Gee ;

Read it, think about it for five minutes. If it still doesn't come to you, then go to bed and sleep on it. And if you've done that and the next morning you STILL don't understand, then feel free to write yourself off as an .

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And take this, There are many things that goes up that will never come down.

I believe in many things but ''Karma'' isn't one of them. . . .To me, its just another BS from the dictionary.

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Karma is real

I had a boss that sexual harassed me and I was let go from the job with a nice settlement.

But it took two years for Karma to catch him.  He was fired from his job, his wife and children left him and he had to move back to NY with his parents.  I did not go digging for the information but it landed in my lap.

I dont mess with Karma.  When people do me dirty I know it is going to catch up to them.  I let go and let Karma deal with it.  Because I believe that if I seek revenge on them that i move their bad Karma from them to me and I dont want anymore bad Karma.

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@ Candylips ; Soup as in? Why do you say that?

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This is why I always pray never to raise my hand to beat my gurl `cos once u`ve done it, sorry you will continue to do it.

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@ Rocnaija;

I do get your point, and I'm not trying to speak for all of them, but the cases which interest me the most are those who had never been in any previous relationships but ended up being treated badly . I just put it down to ignorance because they had been too sheltered by their families. But that's not an excuse for the ways those boys made fools out of them.

As for those who got beaten up, I honestly cant say because I dont know all of their relationship history. The sad part is that one of my friends who got currently beaten up by her boyfriend is the one who had the perfect relationship. It wasn't a matter of pretence, they just seemed like a perfect couple, because they spent almost all their waking hours together. The only time you ever see her is in class. And even till now, the boy is still begging. But she's scared because this isn't the first time.

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Hmmm, so just out of curiosity, do you think it's also fair to say maybe your friends in question had also done a few bad things in their past and them meeting 'the-boyfriend-that-beat-them' is also just karma?

There are so many ways to spin it if you look at the bigger picture, wouldn't you say?

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why do u think dats my signature?i believe it does happen even if it takes a very long time.

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