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What Have You Done To Hurt Your Ex?

So many people do whatever they can to hurt their EX after a bitter break up. Are you one of those? Have you considered such a thing before? Have you tried casting him/her on the internet, posting naughty pictures of your ex? gossiping with his/her name among mutual friends and folks?

What exactly have you done before to hurt him/her? Did you feel fine after you did those things or were you depressed the more?

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tuk her Unclad picture while she's sleeping fortunately she's was not sleeping deep so i got busted,

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IT MEANS YOU SOUND (TYPE) LIKE A FEMALE on the Igbo/Ibo thread.

GEDDIT NOW?!

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I love that girl die and I must marry her. What I did was not that bad like that because my EX didn't know about it.

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ROFL

can you imagine the woman arriving with a truck load of fish

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i wanted to cry incitement plus aiding and assisting in crime.

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I dont wnat you marrying one of my sisters anymore, Aloy.

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Did absolutely nothing, just walked away and didn't look back.

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hanging u the fone on him and nt picking his calls

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@ Ruby, i think u should just scroll over my last comment. and u will have ur answer. this is a redundant question. i didnt help her at all. i just hurt him(n possibly his rep), and embarrassed her. because i dont think the chik cancelled any engagement. ppl just gossip badly about her after for sticking with him, she is still there i belive. so are his side chiks.

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DeepZone is crazy!!!!

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@ Ruby

And this isnt garbage? What does Romance have to do with hurting an ex-WHICH IS THE TOPIC? duh. and there has to be some excuse for her behaviour. if that wasnt the root, then whats your excuse? Being right by questioning is one thing- being rude or negative to people is another.[quote][/quote]

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If you weren't helping the girl, then how did you busybody your self into the engagement by telling her about her Fiance and the other women?

Or did you just make it your business by ruining the engagement?

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if indeed her ex is South African, the xenophobic comment shouldnt be surprising

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Nope.

So how does related to the ex? I'm sorry if I'm being too difficult, it's not my intention.

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Stephen do you think everyone who posts on NL is Nigerian?

I believe I read somewhere that Laurnetta is SA or lives in SA thus the whole xenophobia stuff

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If that is true, how come you fetch the prostitutes for Hannibal? Don't you know they are experts in using bottles on a man's medulla oblongata?

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Ah erm, nothing like plastic bottles?

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So the ex is Nigerian and somehow they were in some bar in South Africa where I am assuming no one could see them and she hit him with a glass bottle on his head? And he was so drunk he's blamed it on xenophobia. I can't put the story together can someone help me out?

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Why would he blame it on xenophobia?

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@ topic

I recently broke a bottle on his head when he was dead drunk. He didn't know it was me and he seems to be blaming it on xenophobia. Great feeling!

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thanks josh aka jjyou.

I try not to take things to heart.

Most of the time it's all fun.

Nothing here gets to me at all.

Thanks for your concern and prayers

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@ sister nwando. you and this your forensic mind. you are definately something else.  you don't by any chance work for the  FBI?.  na God in all His strenght and wisdom go help my brother and his children for that house. you remind me of my grany. you couldnt do anything she cannot calculate or figure out. God deliberately made sure she never saw any classroom it would have been trouble. 

my lovely auntie is cleverer than most people here give her credit for.  she easily carry this her aggressive and combating audience along for days and never cave in even under the relentless assault she comes under most of time. it takes great strenght for a young lady that she is.  i do hold her in my prayers that she will be able to do something good with the strenght and zeall she has been given.  she is an activist for a cause. i pray she finds the cause  soon and stop being distracted by these group of bois hounding her.

everyone has a mission on earth. it is clear she has one.  she need to learn how to chill and ignore most of these distractions.  you don't have to win every argument.

funmi my dear auntie chill and start reading and praying for guidance there is more to your life than this.

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For many, it's easier said than done. Heck, some people don't even realize it when they're jealous so that definitely won't work for them.

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@ deepzone

meaning wat? if there are 3 men in ur house,2 are useless

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LMAOO!! Guess what's featured on the Yahoo page? "Dating 101: Four Ways to Turn Jealousy Into an Asset" http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/relationships/24091/dating-101-four-ways-to-turn-jealousy-into-an-asset/

What are the chances?

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There's a thread around here titled "silly things you've done for love" and many people confessed all sorts of actions they've taken for love or after a breakup so to claim that "NLers are hiding" cos they dont wanna repeat themselves on this thread is dumb.

How about you just do a quick search on that thread instead.

Its one thing to hurt an ex and it's another to just hurt the new person while pretending its th ex you were gunning for when that's obviously NOT true. if she was trying to do good for the girl, she would have told her the situation since and not when her "attitude" annoyed her. Simple

alagolo, who is BluePears egbami

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i'm sure they'd come 2 realise when they move on coz 4 a girl showin off anoda girls bosoms is really some wierd poo, ruby, u havent experienced any of dat have u?

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I think it's simply pathetic to break up with someone and then try to get revenge.

For what? I know revenge is an act stimulated by anger and rejection, but later on, I hope the avenger realize that he/she was making herself look silly.

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@post

Silence hurts the most

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Exact;y

Proof that she meant to hurt the girl

If she wanted to get back at the dude, she would have told the fiance about his behavior since and NOT when she was "acting cocky with attitude"

That's the point

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Because she realized that her knowledge of their trifling behavior would not hurt them but only her. Even though she pretends to have told the cocky fiance to get back at the boy she told to hurt the girl. If she can't have him then no one else should

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And I guess the friendship runs so deep that the girl's friends won't tell her hey your man is all over me. Don't get me wrong, I'm not defending the man in fact, he's a douchebag but please don't make excuses for the women who slept with their friend's man (ex).

I don't get it either!!

Well, she still calls them her friends even though they broke the first rule of friendship.

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Maybe you need to borrow Yemi's bug eyes, Funmi

How come she was willing to keep quiet over her "friends" sleeping with her ex, but couldnt keep quiet to the fiance cos she was being "cocky"?

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There is nothing there to hurt. Karma is a b.

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osisi what I dont understand is why is it Barbi was bothered by the girl being "cocky" about her finace yet wasnt bothered that she has dishonest trifling friends

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@ deepzone

i think dats the poin i was tryin 2 make

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wen person dey vex on top babe wey e be say person no fit show am say hin still dey game hin 4 . . . . . . .ok dis is hard comprehende?

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I HAVE NOTICED THAT WHEN PEOPLE WANT TO CONFUSE US, THEY START USING AMERICAN ENGLISH.

MY GUY, TRANSFORM YOUR POST SO THAT I GO FIT UNDERSTAND AM. OK?

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@ karmic kini

its not dat simple, coz when u're hurtin in a completely no one's noticin kinda way and u 're thinkin about it wat do u stand 2 lose , the barbi's girlfriend aint gonna lose her bf all ova again and i aint plannin on gettin back with my gf well i can aswell get back at her but well at the time it was pretty reasonable and it helped relieve most of the pain so maybe barbi felt relieve satisfaction alongside the malicious jelousy

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YOU WANT MAKE I TELL YOU BEFORE YOU GO KNOW?

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You posted gf's bosoms outta spite like an immature brat. why wouldnt you agree?

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am i the only one who thinks naijabarbi did wats best??

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They were not good friends. It's that silly face book that is the major cause of all the sex networking among friends. Guys use that tool for a weird purpose different from what women use it for.

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It's even worse that jealousy engulfs her and she goes out to hurt the girls he's with because they're are being to cocky yet her own friends have had sex with him. This world freaking amazes me.

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BIRDS OF THE SAME FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER.

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