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What If Your Boyfriend's Spoken English Is Really Poor?

Hello ladies can you go out with a guy with poor spoken english? This guy is okay financially, he is good looking, and with a nice atitude. but the greates flaw is that he speaks his english really badly and considering that fact that the chick he is dating is quite creme.

Should she leave him or what 'cus she has tried her best to correct or caution him but mbah the home boy still dey trow missles.

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it's true that language proficiency isn't a sign of a faithful husband, still it is important in a relationship. especially if it means a lot to one partner.

we might not be english, but english is our official national language. for many of us, it's also our first (and sometimes, only) language.

it's not just about impressing others, you need to be able to communicate comfortably with whoever you're dating.

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Well my dude is from French Cameroon and he came to America about 5 years ago lol, he speaks good English but his accent is so thick, I think it's cute. Sometimes I piss him off just to hear it. FOR EXAMPLE: when i accuse him of something random, he'd say what sounds like "I am innosunt, so wut de f.ck yuh talka bout?" LOL. then I'd burst out laughing and he'd laugh because he'd then realize I just wanted to laugh and that would be the end of the "argument".

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Its so unfortunate and shameful the way and manner our ladies are becoming fake. God! I hate that with passion. Why on earth would you consider an African, who happens not to flow well in another tribe's language inferior? Wonders shall never happen. Anyway, the disease most of our ladies suffer from is MENTAL COLONISATION. What a disgrace to your root. Why not question God why you were brought into this world by a Yourba, Igbo, Hausa, Ijaw, Ghanian, etc. Most of you Ladies cant even make a straight simple sentence in their Tribal Language, yet you are not ashamed of your self for been a failure to your root, people that made you to exist.

Is English Language what will make your husband to be faithfull to you for the rest of your two lives together? Will English make him a loving husband, who adores you more than his own mother that gave him breath through God? None of you will understand all these until you get married, then you will know what it takes for two individual to live together and live happily ever after or live in regrets for the rest of their lives because of useless decisions they made in their lives just so to impress others. You live your live for others, just to impress them , you lose the most precious thing God has design for you to have, a loving partner, which we all desire.

I might not know how to speak english fluently today, but tomorrow, I could be the President of the country, representing the whole country in the International Arena. I dont blame guys that use some ladies and drop them like rags because they deserve to learn through the hard way.

Ikenna.

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Nawa ooooo,

That one serious ooooo

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@kay,hey sorry påpì,it happens naw,you never jam people wey the kill english?i don see them tire.

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Poster is it as bad as this?he came to your house to check on you and you weren't around and he calls you later and says,i go to your house to check at you and they tell me you didn't around i mean you didn't dey,where have you go i mean where did you be?2,you went to see him and you said baby how was your day 2day,what did you do for fun?and he goes mummy my day is just dey there o,i didn't did anythings o,infact this prace is making me boring,lets went out.if its not this bad then you can cope,afterall na u gree to date am.Cheers.

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Does it matter? English IS the official language.

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Nigerians, with English as a common language.

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^^ lol ur right

but then again people always complain at people that dont spk any language properly

its not appealing to converse with someone who keeps shootin bullets

no matter the language!

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Are we Nigerians or English?

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lolz

my english aint perfect. . . see! b

but its not very attractive to hear too many eebuns is it??

anyways its not an irreversible problem

tell him to start reading novels and english books

they are very very good at improving spoken english

correct him politely and jokingly whenever you can

avoid too much english speaking arnd frends and fam!

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M spoken english and written is bad bt my husband took his time to tutored me.So if you love him,help him.

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If a girl's quite polished, but her boyfriend, whom she professes to love has poor spoken / written English, then she should educate him. If she loves him that much, and he loves her.

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I have a friend who is well educated, speaks well and holds a top position in a huge conglomerate, her husband on the other hand,though a grduate from a very wealthy home can shell for africa, e can fit to ta iban anyhow, but u knw, they are one of the happiest couples I've ever seen, he treats her like a princess and she loves him die! We used to make fun of her in uni, when they were still dating, now people envy their marriage! At the end of the day, it makes me wonder, does not being able to speak english matter afterall?

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I've met guys in the UK who dropped out of high schools in Naija, and who cannot accurately construct sentences in English. A number of them married British gals, mostly to regularise their illegal entry into the UK. How they communicate only God knows. Just a thought sha!

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[/color][color=#990000] I see your problem and yea tht is kinda frustrating if the guy has poor english, I met this guy and he talks mostly spanish and does talk english and its pretty good, were both young and like he gets embarrased tlking to teachers cuz he says they make him feel silly like "do you understand?" and like me and him go to music school together and fell in love, when I first met him he's like your the only person where I can tlk english and like I hve no problems talking 2 cuz im very comfortable with you, and like looking @ the sittuation the girls in, it wouldn't work out if you aren't able to communicate with him

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I understand that you are the guy in question! but keep ya head up and don't let any village girl run you down because of language(foreign).

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Addendum:

Honestly, a girl that complains about my poor english is gone for good, however beautiful she might be. At this stage I have reached now, I have no admiration for any of these english apologists. Get real people and adore the real thing. If i wanna get low with a hausa yanriya, i'd try to toast her in Hausa. If its Igbo, I wont even speak. I'll let me EURO talk for me. And if its a Yoruba girl, ma gbe lenu jo pupo pelu ede tashere mi. Ma jeki o mo wipe: "omo o ti wa ju! Ti o ko ba ba mi lo, ma comit nitori e ati beebee lo, ".

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why should i even toast a girl in english? These unna self wey carry another people language and culture above unna own, na you pipulu dey spoil our mother Afrika. There's a Yoruba saying that goes: "Odo kii san ki o gbagbe orisu re, "! And any river that does forget it source would surely dry up. Forget the boy's spoken english and look at the character! If its good, go get him before someone else does. Remember, Obasanjo census claims there are more men than women in Nigeria. Dont be too snobbish and selective.

In this oyinbo country wey i dey so jeje, if i no fit talk dem Girama, yet i fit nakk, I go get dem phlenti phlenti. As long as mething is strong, who needs spoken language?

BTW: I am very fluent in spoken and written Yoruba (n Ilaje dialect ofcourse), German and English. I can also say some dirty words in Hausa, Igbo, Chinese, Russian, Kiswahili etc.

Abo oro l'a nwi fun omoluabi, ti o ba de inu re a di odindi. Epini ti mo ni l'eyi!

Fun gbobgo awon Kenimani:

E ma ma yeee, eyin keni ma ma ni o, e je' nlo 'gba ara mi o, ebe mo be o.

Hun ara Ilaje, ahan olobele oma 'malokun ati dede oma Naija:

Mo ki dede oma Ilaje ati dede one yi mi fe ire 'pe: Odon yi a tu dede wa n'ara o. Ede Ilaje mo fo rin o. Le o yemi, le o bami, an le o dede one.

Pls: I am looking for some1 to teach me Hausa and Igbo. I am no more the youngest, therefore you have to be bery bery easygoing and patient persons.

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Ladies put it this way

wealthy man but poor english

english master but poor man

ladies vote and see how many of you in the house will choose poverty.

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how did the guy toast u sef sure it went lyk this (good mornings my names is MUFU what is your names

"i don dey" sorry i af bin seeing you 4 everywhere so i wan hail you

he realises he cant continue wit the eng so he says

em, how ur papa nw,

hope say everything dey ayt

i go like seeu for my house

u go fit come,

a, ya, i feel 4 the guy and he is sucessfull, the only person i blame is his english teacher in pry sch omo the guy no try at all

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@poster,

I think u shld be ashamed of urself coming out to tell us, cant u for God sake help him out? it isn`t a disease, its just a flaw dat cld be amended while blowing IT out of proportion?as if its something out of this world,imagin urself getting married to a chinese man without english background or BABA ADEDIBU OF IBADAN POLITICS,wunt u cope if u love him?u are very selfish cos uv also mention in ur post that the guy get moni well well na him make u no want to leave the guy sha u be thief,dont u see it b4 kick starting the relationship in the 1st place why the clamouring now?make u take ur time ooooooo.GOLD DIGGER.

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@poster,

I think u shld be ashamed of yourself coming out to tell us, can't u for God sake help him out? it isn`t a disease, its just a flaw that cld be amended while blowing IT out of proportion?as if its something out of this world,imagin yourself getting married to a chinese man without english background OR baba Adedibu of Ibadan,wunt u cope if u love him?u are very selfish because uv also mention in your post that the guy get moni well well na him make u no want to leave the guy sha u be thief,don't u see it before kick starting the relationship in the 1st place why the clamouring now?make u take your time ooooooo.GOLD DIGGER.

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The best thing would be to teach him, even talk with him and u for an english teacher, there is no problem without a solution

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let me come down to our level,

me no fit blow gramma for girl front because I wan make she friend me, my Igbo language is OK if she no like am make she go friend her papa.

in as much as I possessed the basic characteristics that a girl need in a man, I give no poo about English, it's only for official use.

Besides, how many poor PH.d holders get a girl of their choice?

fellows, if a girl bounce you for poor English another one will accept you for your wealth,

Bleep English, Bleep who think it's a priority.

speak that your Hausa,Yoruba, Ibo, Binni, anyone.

you can be merciful to speak broken English.

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To me, this is not even a case. u have d right 2 do what u want. But think of it this way, would you prefer those guys that could paint the whole world red with grammer but love only exsists in thier lips? He can always learn if you are redy to teach him. [img]http://Maybe you only like his money[/img][img][/img].

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Only us nigerians blow things out of proportions, some countries don't even speak english at all.

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If the guy is not stubborn and he admits his english is poor. U can teach him.

Cos it can be very embarrassing

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Abeg wen he was "Spinning" o what were u thinkin or are u a gold-digger who is after the money and other things. See it not all about the he cares,and loves mi thing but his total "come out". OMG how embarassed u will feel in public!!!!!!

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there was nothing wronging in a man spoked poor grammar,it is not english that a man spoked that mattered but a man abilities to tooked very good of his wife,childrens and familieses. i advising you that you should not allow english to comes among you and your boyfriend,if he loved you try and be loved him back.

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How come u're complaining about his english now, do u just notice?

Abi he employed someone come talk to u when he dey woo u?

why did u agreed to the relationship in the first place when u know u cannot cope

Or tell us, wether u just fine one yahoo yahoo boy wei dey use grammar deceive u.

ANOFIA--------return the guy money wei u chop oo

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As you described the guy couple with the fact that you yourself learned the language, if you derive interest or likeness in him i will advise you be his teacher as nothing is impossible if you want to help irrespective of his rigidity.

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According to SIr Shina Peters, "Grammar no be Money" and again, Grammer no be our Language.

I understand how it is for the Babe expecially if she speaks well, but then this is not a big case, Buy lots of books and novels for him and he'll sure change. ALternatively, the babe can be the spokesperson whenever they are with other people.

Afterall no be say the Guy na Thief, murderer or Otokoto sef,

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One more reason why it's better to marry someone from your tribe - you won't have to speak English to each other.

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I agree wit u odiaseo

Or an alternative is to speak his local language whenever u're wit him. afterall oyinbo english no be our language

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I suggest you buy him "English without tears for Xmas".

It can be a very embarrassing situation for you when he speaks in public. Let him know your feelings and concerns in a way that won't hurt his ego. I don't think correcting him each time he makes a mistake would help for long, he'll soon start getting offended. Prove to him that you love him and he'll do whatever it takes to show that he loves you.

Here are 3 ways to keep the love aflame - http://www.peleodiase.com/blog/love-in-marriage

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grammar no be money.

the french ,german and other nationalities would rather speak their language than speak english.

help him correct his mistakes.he'll appreciate you more for it.

just try and do it in a subtle way.

cheers

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I'll rather not go out with u in the first place than deal with it. I'm sorry good diction is part of the things that attracts me. That would be a large clause to overlook.

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Word.

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If your ashamed of him and can't teach him, then leave him for someone else who's ready to help him through his faults.

But remember we might not know what we have till we loose it.

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Teach him the art of non verbal communication.or better yet,make him appreciate sign language!

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English no be our language o. hw many pple fit speak english for here. oya mk una talk true o

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I wouldn't date such a guy!

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@ poster,

Forgive me for being rude, but your English is just as horrible so be very careful pointing fingers.

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is pigeon english not ok?

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NDUMART -what am saying is that i wouldnt even start a relationship with him in the first place.

I dont wanna be with someone that i wont be able to take out in public.

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@adeboo,

You won't go out with him just to hide his little imperfections. Its better than having people make jest of him cos that might make u want to call it quits.

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