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What If Your Girlfriend Fails To Change Her Status On Facebook?

A guy said he wants to Dump her girl friend because she fails to change her relationship status on Facebook.

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advice him and tell us if you were in his shoes.

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My man just be wise and diss such a chick and abandon her for good.

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it means the messiah is still being awaited.it means u are john the baptist.very wise babe,she must be.

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It depends!!!! Status is no big deal;what matters is that she really loves you and she shows it. I and my Fiance are really in love;I mean, its obvious, he knows it and I know it. But, our facebook status is neutral;I mean, we both didn't post the relationship status. We both not bothered about that;cos we know that we really love each other. I dont really believe in facebook relationship status poo.

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The girls obviously has issues if she declines. Have you seen then movie "He's not that into you" well there's your answer, she is not really into you. she probably agreed to date you cause of the money you have spent on her, or maybe she was too tired of your hassle, so she reluctantly said yes, but would rather no one knew about two of you as an item. maybe her class is way above yours. These re clues

As for the OP, are you like, dumb? Why do you emphasize that she has to accept you as a facebook lover before your ego and heart can be settled that you have a gf? This means that you re not so much into her in a deep way, you re only out to prove to the world that you have snagged yourself a classy girl? If this is the reason for your dumb attitude, then you deserve every bit of what crap she throws at you. I cannot believe you re making a big deal out of this? does relationship have to be about facebook? My boyfriend is not on facebook and we have been together for a while, and I never bothered him about it, neither does he ask me what im doing on there, because we both know what we have. Even if he joins, my status will still be the same, neither single nor dating. Its empty. why should some vain people care about your love life.

HAVE you heard this quote before?

"Never tell your problems to anyone, 20% don't care and the other 80% are glad you have them"

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Its all about respect.If that girl saw trouble coming over a little issue like this,she should have respected the guy n changed her status because the guy might b suspecting her moves .If she cared the least about how the guy feels,then she shld.He is not asking her to do sth impossible or difficult.period!!!!!!!!!

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she is going to dump ur Bottom,if u don't dump her's,first and fast.

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IMHO

It is insecurity that causes a person to act out in this way.

This is the same type of person that must monitor you movements 24/7, question you about your opp. sex friends and throw a hissy fit if you happen to introduce them as your friend and not the love of your life. They are also the same people that insist on us holding hands whenever we are out in public for the entire time and almost require that i be tied to their hip.

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Forget about all these _ i have a plan for you. I date for 2weeks then make a change. Follow me and with this, you would rescue yourself from headache emanating from girls.

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is it because of facebok you want to dump the girl? that means u dont really like her and ur just interested in broadcasting to the world that you have a babe. If you love her, it doesnt really matter. besides facebook is a public forum and u dnt want to make ur private biz open to every tom d**k and harry. that is my take on the issue.

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LOL! If it was a girl that described her 'love' in the manner the poster did, it wouldn't be 'love' that people would be jumping at. The guy should cut his losses, she's not a sucker. Imagine if she accepted the request and all her friends started commenting on it, lol! If he's so 'proud' of her looks and the caliber of person she is, the guy wowo pass my own imagination!

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If she loves the guy and she is not hiding something, why wont she change the relationship status since she is in a relationship?

Its obvious she is hiding something. Dont blame me for how i reason but i think she thinks she is better than the boy.

Every body is not the same though but if my girlfriend refuses to change her status,

I will start looking elsewhere for a relationship before it becomes late for me.

The same goes to girls as well, If your boyfriend wont change his status,

then i suggest you start looking elsewhere for a relationship.

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I reckon is best u dont even put ur r/status. What's the point of changing ur status at the slightest issue u might ve wit ur partner.Its just a show of shame .One should learn to shield ones relationship from the so called friends,I think it does more good than harm.

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go check out blackplanet

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Whats with facebook relationship status, its crap o, have seen married status guys get divorved and complicated on facebook, plus dis guy must be a joker wanting to flaunt the fine girl on facebook and then diss her later, status on facebook is crap and we all know that, abeg flaunt her in better places than facebook, the girl is also very smart that she declined, cos sheknow there are lots of kids and dumb brains on facebook, and when did a relationship becomes something u have to flaunt on a website of million, facebook ko body book ni, infact i no get status for facebook whether am married or single or in a relationship i dont want anyone getting a clue on facebook so when d thing scatter no one would ask me questions or say "eeyah", or "congrats".

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Im sure you would agree that ur conclusions are subjective.

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say to hell with her and dump her fine Bottom then dood.

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He really sounds like he's in love yeah?

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@Starstruck and Ibikaye - LOL, u guys are so funny. With what evidence did you both conclude that he's not in love with her? b'cos he's tired of taking her poo?

As i made clear, its a free world. She can keep her relationship private all she wants, but he does not have to buy into that; especially as he doesnt want to keep his private

There is no need to justify the girls behaviour, only an understanding that they do want different things - and since no one is beholden to the other, then the party who feels aggrieved should walk away. How difficult can this be to comprehend?

Its not really surprising you both have to introduce the "emotional card" to justify ur sinuous arguments when all else fails to make sense.

And if privacy means so much to you, why be on Facebook in the first place?

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Of course she doesnt have to change it; but he doesnt have to accept it either - and this is not a "trivial" issue in any way.

The so called "trivial issues" in relationships are always a window into what the future portends. If he had any backbone, he wuld dump her Bottom.

There are many women for whom transparency is not an issue, so why be with this one.

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Some people like to keep their private lives, private. Plus, as we've seen, he's not in love with her anyway.

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There are 2 questions here -

(1) Why is he so concerned abt the status, if it is really that irrelevant to the relationship?

(2) Why does she not change her status, if it is really does not mean anything?

They are both VERY valid questions, so why do most of the women here ignore question 2, and focus totally on question1?

It all depends on how serious the relationship is. There is a responsibility from both parties to provide reassurance to each other in a relationship. If the guy says its a big deal, then it is a big deal. I'm sure most women would not have the same views if the tables were turned.

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It's her facebook and she doesn't want to change it and that is good because the dude already wants a break up for an issue as little as this. Who knows what he'll do when real issues come up?

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whether she change status or not, that wont change anything, a lady that will leave , go still leave, besides status dnt change anything on Fb, i see pple go from single to in a relationship and back again, in one day on fb. depending on what find.

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To all the hecklers out there - They guy has a valid point. He is obviously willing to display his relationship status on FB, and has every right to wonder why his girl is either hiding hers, or just the wrong status

There are obviously trust issues in this relationship and the facebook issue is merely a symptom of it.

It may mean nothing, but if you care abt someone, then its not a lot to change ur status to reassure them.

Unless she has something to hide, or is trying to give the wrong impression.

I say give her an ultimatum - change the status, or it over. I've always said - when it comes to issues of trust, fidelity and morality, a zero tolerance approach is the way to go.

It wont necessarily stop people who really wanna cheat, but it'll stop them taking u along for the ride.

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she no wan comot for market, u never know when better customer go come price.

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There's nothing more to add.

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He's wasted not spent a lot of time, effort (and money!)(he had to include the money part too) into dating this girl over the last few months.

Like Ibk said, he wants her to be a trophy to him. He's more concerned about everyone seeing his "achievement" and "what [he's] capable of, that [he] can get pretty girls, intelligent, and high caliber girls." He is even more concerned his friends knowing and giving him props for it and is already considering "dumping' her.

I hope they break up because he's not in it for her.

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She should be left with her choice joh

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@poster, the guy obviously has issues! why does he think he needs to prove himself & to who for crying out loud!!!!

So everyone can see my achievement and what I'm capable of, that I can get pretty girls, intelligent, and high caliber girls., now that is the thought of a 6yr old!!! i definitely can relate to your girlfriend not changing her relationship status!!!

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if she put everyone she ever dated on her profile, and deleted when they breakup,

how many guys do u think u wud be counting before now?

facebook is just over emphasised. groom the relationship before announcing.

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I don't see the point of them being together, it's obvious the relationship isn't genuine.

I don't know the reason for her declining the relationship status so I cant really say much on that, apparently she wants to keep stuff like that private, it could possibly be because she has other guys she is close to relationship wise on facebook i.e cheating, maybe the status will limit her flirting and she doesn't want that, or, the girl may even have a reasonable reason for wanting to keep it private, I don't know.

The guy needs to ask her why exactly she wants to keep the status thing private, otherwise he will keep making assumptions and may come to a wrong conclusion thus spoiling the relationship, but then again, like I said, his relationship with her seems so fake.

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It really does not matter what her FB, Yahoo, AOL, BP, MS or anything else says.

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