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What Is D Difference Between Giving Respect To Ur Man Nd Almost Being A Doormat?

I remember I had an issue with an ex where wheneva I'm trying 2 express my feelings, he says I'm disrespecting him when I can't even see it whereas I don't want 2 suffer in silence. How much respect can u give a man without seeing as a doormat?

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I think respect is treating him the way you'd like to be treated i.e. not abusing him and listening to him and trying to understand his point of view and all that good stuff.

Being a doormat is always doing what he wants irrespective of how you feel about it and not being able speak up for yourself to him. Because respect is a two way street and if you're the only one doing the respecting and you yourself are never being respected then you're a doormat.

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this is a doormat!!!

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@poster - Your post is quite vague, so it is difficult to answer your question with respect to the post. For instance, we are not privy to how u "express" ur feelings. U could be aggressive, rude, or raise ur voice - all of which is disrespectful, whether ur a man or woman.

On a general note however, there are various forms of Respect There is the "General" respect of a fellow human being. There is the "Gender" respect that acknowledges the needs of the persons sex and gender, then there is the "Relationship" respect based on the relationship btw both parties - husband, wife, father, mother, brother, friend etc.

To respect any person properly, there needs to be mix of all types, based on the person.

Its no good respecting ur Husband or Wife as a person/human being, but not acknowledging the respect that their status deserves, or respecting their needs as a man/woman.

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respect and enslavement are two different things.

cos u respect your man dont mean u can't have ur say.

its only the way and manner u have ur say that counts.

but a doormat is just as likened to a slave,

she does all she is asked to do and have no say i n the relationship.

onething we guys must always remember is that no one ( even us) are sole custodians of knowlege, and respect should be given back.

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@Poster, there's a big difference between being respectful and being a doormat. in a relationship, both parties are obligated 2 respect each other and not d sole responsibility of one. each other's opinion should be valued, but understanding is needed most. men guide der ego with their lives and feel aggressive wen it's challenged. there are many ways 2 pple can prove their points without stepping on each other. d problem most times is not wat's being said but how was it said. it's wen one's right is being trampled on and frustrated by d other, dat's wen dat person is regarded as a doormat

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A doormat is one who lets the other walk all over him/her. Easily taken advantage of, easily maltreated.

Some people throw the 'disrespect' word when they can't have their way.

Of course somethings are staple - don't shout at him in public, don't heap curses and what not with no justifiable reason etc.

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