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What Is The Right Age To Get Married?

What is the right age for marriage?

Is there a particular age at which you'd expect a lady or a man to be married? At what age should you start thinking about marriage? And at what age should you start panicking if you've not yet found the right man? If you say age doesn't matter, what are the things that matter and can they be measured?

Personally, I think the most important things to achieve before marriage are economic independence and a clear sense of where you're going in life. If you have that by 20, fire away. And if you're a lady, and you're close to or 30, please start panicking! Maybe you've been too picky?!

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There is no hard and fast rule as to when one should marry.I think it's down to maturity on all fronts:emotional,spiritual,physiological,to some extent,financial.

Throughout history,people have crawled,stumbled and staggered into the noblest of institutions at varied ages.Joseph became the Prime Minister of Egypt and married the same day at age 30; Isaac at age 40; SEAL got married to a single mum,Klum,I think,at age 46.So much for the age to get married-there is no such thing as ideal age,as we cannot possibly put taxation on it.

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For me though its advisable to marry at an early age,which I would not mind as well,

But I rather marry when I meet the right person.

The right person to me is someone,that no matter the situation,I would love till the end. Someone who I know we would be able to join our hands together to give our kids the best,even beyond wat we enjoyed ourselves when we wrre kids and someone who would love me back as well.

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Kk... To everything there's a time. As a guy, for me (can't speak for anyone else) I'll like to marry as soon as I start making a living for myself and can afford an apartment. Waiting till u become rich is jst a waste of tym. U'll jst end up wasting funds on yeye babes up and down. So for me say in the next 3-5 yrs. I'm 24 rite nw. For a lady I bliv it shud be latest 30. By the time u're over 30. Suitors reduce. Guys that are 30s or late 20s wud be going for younger girls in mid twenties or at worst their age mates. If you're a 30 year old u'll be on the look out for guys say only 30 and mid 30s. And I cn assure you that they are not in abundance. But if you're in ur mid 20s or nearing late 20s u have a much larger pool of suitors. Say u're 25. Ur pools is 25 to 35.

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I feel like the right age is wen u are old enough to understand wut love is so that u will know that u love really truely love the person u are claiming u want to marry...I'm a 27 yr old female with a 4yr old daughter and I'm engaged to be married...its nt to my daughter father bt at one point we thought we was ready for that step too bt we was soo young and it didn't work out...bt now that I'm older and I know the real meaning of being in love I know this is the guy I want to marry

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thank you orikinla

i dunno why everyone is in a rush to marry, Gods time is the best time.

if God doesn't give me any man i now i will feel secure for me and my children,then i guess i wasn't destined to marry.

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The best time to marry has nothing to do with age, but when you are ready.

If you ready at 22, go ahead and marry.

If you are ready at 40, go ahead and marry.

But if you are going to marry and later harass the rest of the society with your ill-bred children, PLEASE SPARE US THE HORRORS AND TERRORS OF YOUR BAD MARRIAGE.

I know the social and family problems the church and charity centres have to address everyday.

The problems of bad marriages are the worst cases.

The majority of the unhappy couples bearing miserable children who become anti-social delinquents of the lunatic fringe populating mostly underdeveloped countries like Nigeria are those who were not ready for marriage.

Marriage is best when you are ready to start your family.

It is evil and wicked to bring innocent children into an insecure environment like Nigeria where the house has fallen. I feel sorry for all those who are marrying and bearing children in Nigeria today. The future of majority of them is very bleak..

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lol am not living in nigeria , i am in the western country. expired lol yeah right i know a lot of women who got married in their 30s am fine, thank you

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I feel everyone has a point,but it all depends on individuals and what they all want also without GOD in a relationship its a ship wreck.am

30 my fiancée is 27 we have both decided and agreed on things also I have asked God to have his way.there is no Ripe age for marriage remember cultures and experiences are different.NO RIPE AGE chikena

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lol i will never marry at 20 years thts flippin insane, i am noit even ready for kids and i stilll depend on my mommmy.

only village girls are ready to marrry at 16 they don't reallly have anything else to do.

i will get married at 36 ,yes it's possible

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OP.

22 yrs old upward!

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If we choose God's choice of married, For a woman you are ready the day you bleed, Men the day you can make babies,

I do not think maturity comes to you when you in your late 20s or 30s, Mental maturity can start even as a kid, I am speaking from personal experience. I was ready to married since when I was 14, I was mature for my age, I hanged with women in their 20s, I was physically amd mentally ready for married, And just because I did not yet finish school meant that I was going to financially rely on my man,

Maturity can start at any age, environment I think can also affect your maturity,

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At the age whenever the person's ready.

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The "right" age to marry all depends on the individuals. Their maturity, reason, etc. I know of some very young couples who love one another and are rooted in God's Word. Then there are others who get married due to physical attraction. Whatever the age, they should be mature enough to understand that marriage is a ministry and work.

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The best age to get married is 31,32,33

so that you can marry a gul of 26,27,28

But for me to marry a gul btwn 20 to 25

God forbid i don't want to die young

their head is still hurt they are not ready

to settle down yet.

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btw 25 & 35 Depending on ur account balance. mehn, if u get married without a financial backup or plan, U'RE FINISHED, 4get all those "have faith, the lord would provide" trust me, Poverty wld consume u like fire.

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the age when my mom starts giving me greif!

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Who cares, if u so hate d trad society. Then bleepin change it and stop yning

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I disagree with almost all you have said. I know alot of people that married in their 30's and still gave birth to healthy babies my humble self included. I equally know alot of people who marrid in their 20's and could not conceive until their 30's and even 40's. The most important thing is marrying at God's time not man made time. After all children come from God. I know atleast 3 people who were told they will never be able to conceive by so called medical doctors. Well guess what? They have healthy children today. One reason I stayed away from Naija people when I was singly back in the day and still do is their over sabi when it comes to issues of marraige, child bearing and the likes. You people are not God. Allow God's will to be done in people's lives and things will fall into place accordingly like it should. That is how you people rush in and by the time you hit 50, you are either divorced or looking for a younger woman to marry. Marraige amongst Africans and especially Naijas is mostly a mess and a scam; no mutual respect, no love, no affection; more like a master/slave relationship. Tufia! Thank God I don't live in that kinda society.

Peace out!

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I THINK wat i understand about wat the poster is saying is WAT AGE IS RIGHT FOR SUM1 TO GET MARRIED? NOT WAT U SHUD HAVE B4 GETING MARRIED''OK ready and understand b4 contributing rubish ideals

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I think there is no specific age for marriage, it depend on individual, a man can be 35 years but still behalf as a boy which automatically disqualify him. a lady who is 25 or 30 can still be thinking as a 5 years girl which makes her unqualified for marriage. you must be psychologically and physiologically matured to manage conflicts when it arrise, for definately there must be conflict because even if you are twins, there must be a day you will disagree over an issue not to talk of people who came from different background, different gender and different ways of thinking. what will bring you together again when you disagree or misunderstood each other is your maturity to manage conflicts. love alone without maturity and conflict management cannot keep couples together.

talking about economic, one need to be financially okay, as a man, you should know that food must be cooked three times a day, bills must be paid including children school fees.

generally, minimum years should be 21 for men and maximum should be 40 years, for children are not suppose to be raise by aging parents whose thinking capabilities are equal to that of children. for women, 18 should be minimum and 35, for by 18 she is physiologically matured to bear a child and by 35 she can at least give birth for 5 years before menopause.

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Hi

I just stumbled on this topic and deciced to make a contribution.I agree that marriage has a lot to do with financial stability,maturity,love,and above all God's plan for you but ladies should have it at the back of their minds that your chances of childbearing are reduced as your age increases.Medically,ladies in their early to mid twenties stand a better chance(25%) chance of conception every month while those from their mid-twenties to early thirties have a 20% chance.those in their mid thirties have a 15% chance and when a woman starts having children at that age,that's when you might have cases of down syndrome,slowpoke children and so on considering that you will space your childrens age,its always good to start on time but that doesn't mean that if you havent found Mr Right you should become desperate.Work on your reasoning and dont wait for maturity,you can attain it by being logical in your reasoning.So for the ladies,pray to God to get married say in your early to mid 20's cos i know of a lady who got married at 20 only to have fertility issues that lasted for 10years.She had her 1st child at 30 so due to her early  marriage she didnt have much to loose as most of her mates who got married at late20's/early 30's just had about the same number of kids.Guys when you are financially stable and ready for a lifelong commitment to one special lady,That's your own ideal age.

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i’ve fallen in love, that in it took me by surprise. I’ve been quite guarded with my emotions for a long time and it just sort of happened. I really want to trust the relationship and relax but I’ve been having a few problems. Teardrops from the past have been weighing me down and even though I’ve realized this, I’ve had a difficult few weeks dealing with my insecurities.

The object of my affection is an amazing person, a talented, intelligent man who appears to have a lot of patience with me. I have been honest with him, which for him must be quite offensive to hear, although I think he understands. For him I want to move past this period of doubt, i have a chance to share my world and I don’t want to let it slip through my fingers.

Today, I am hoping to answer his question "will you marry me". When I do, the answer is going to be yes. Saying yes, then for me 27 is the right age to get married.

Peace

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There is no right age to get married. I believe the later the better; thus, the more dating and life experiences the better. I don't think there is a right age, instead, I believe their is a right time. That right time being once you've found yourself, and have full understanding of who you are and what you expect out of your life and your life with your partner.

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for a guy, i think 28-30 is ok 4 marriage.

4 a lady i think 23-26 is ok 4 marriage.

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Just let the ball bounce where it may. Let destiny take its natural course!! Live now.

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Seun I understand what you're saying. We do need to face the fact that men think we're old after a while.

But what about financial independence? That usually comes at a certain age, and we'd rather not be asking for money when it's time to go to the hair salon

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Below 30, I don dieo. I'm presently 30 and a professional, still want to start my executive MBA ending of next yr at university of oil city(PH) but presently making bucks. Have not taken the decision to get married(Have met girls and will still meet more). So is it when I have decided that I will start searching or when I have got that I will decide, When will that be o and who will it be o.

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There is an age that legally u can get married but there is really no particular age u should be marrried. Being married takes a lot which u have to plan about.

Im almost 30 and not married, ive never been picky with men but from one dissapointment to the other im not panicky becos i know when the right time comes it will be, i dont know when that will be what age i will be but i know that one day it will come

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THE RIGHT AGE FOR MARRIAGE IS WHEN YOU HAVE , .LESS TO DO,MORE TIME TO DO IT,AND MORE PAY FOR NOT GETTING IT DONE

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Hi all,

U guys have said it all but i just believe that wisdom is a principal thing and we should all get wisdom and in all our getting we should get understanding about this issue.

The right time for marriage has been an issue everywhere and it is something we come around everytime but personal perspective, views and opinion i believe most people especially guys are running from responsibility bcus we get to see pple who are well to do and matured enough to get married running from it, so it all depends on personal conviction towards this thread.

I met a lady some months away,i told her i have a plan to get married in the next seven years when i will be 31 yrs (cus i believe so much in 31) she screamed and said im a wicked guy, i want to use and dump her that she is not ready to wait for seven years.

My responce was i ve got a big vision for my wife to be and kids, i wont get married until i ve set 60 to 70% percent of the plans running.she left me and started calling me names but i dont bloody care i must achieve that( personal opinion).

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For guys, early 30's, 4 girls, mid/late 20's. But den again u shld b bothred abt d maturity of d person n not d person's age. Marrying very early could b a disadvantage because u may end up feelin like it was somethin u rushed in 2

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just a minute, am kinda miffed, too much coffee maybe, well 25 isnt bad, but there is no ideal age really.NO HARD AND FAST RULE about tying the knot!!

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u kno i think shes right @omo-eko for some crazy reasons.

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45,, that's the age, menopause setting in, money in the bank and no time to waste,

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simple - when u r ready - u can be 50 and not be ready to take responsibilities - it isint about the age.

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when one is independent

and has the wherewithal to take care of himself n your partner

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I always thought the best age for a woman to get married was about 22-24 but now, i think it should be more like 28 - 29 because that is when a girl knows she really ought to get married. For a man, i think the best age is 30 upwards because he is expected to be mature and ready to be a man and cater for a wife and children.

When people are young and in love, they think they must get married NOW! When they do get married however, real life comes upon them, the bills, their duties, funny habits, children etc and then, they start to feel trapped with no where to run. It's better to wait until you can't hold off any longer and then you'll know that you're entering it for good.

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Bill Gates got married at 38 and his wife was 29. I dont know wether y`all knew that but I didnt until a few days ago when I was reading on him. Was quite surprised cos the guy has had enough money to look after a family since he was very young. He said he spent much time at work. No wonder he married a Microsoft employee.

I was " inspired" by this. I`m 25 and when I was younger I used to think I would get married at 25-26. Lately I`ve been thinking I`ll do it at around 29 cos the idea of doing it after turning 30 has always been "uncool" to me. But now I think I`ma wait much longer. If Bill did it at 38 then why should I rush. Serious. I can`t afford the burdens of a family at the moment and I`ll only have one when I can afford to provide for them.

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As long as u r financially capable of takin care of a family, u r mature enough to take decisions on ur own witout being dependants on second/third parties and being psycological n emotionally balanced enough to handle a family, there should be no stopping you.

Age i have always said is nothing but number, attaining these three stages might take some less than 25yrs and anoda abt 32 yrs.

Cultures n traditions are also determinants u consider be4 marriage plans n these differ from climes to climes

one thing is so constantly true for all climes, marriage aint for KIDS.

Ladies dont get depaired wit the fact that u r approachin the 3 figure. u man is still out there, all u need do is pray n search. A female boss of mine got married at 41 n thats a testimony.

Compliments of the season, wishin you ALL awonderful, marvelous and resoundinly fulfilling 2007. hope your break was wonderful??

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Gabriel,

I'm with you. I'm just as young as u are and if my girlfriend was here, I would'a married her.

Vieira is saying you should be mesing arround. Yeah, that could be a good advice. but what happens when you don't feel like messing arround, simply 'because you don't find it appealing, the same way the choices of pre-occupation vary for different people?

I've gone through things not many 30yr old men have gone through. Having left naija at 18 to US to stay on my own without a single relative nor black person, believe me I grew up. I had to. Am I mature? Well that depends on what you call 'maturity'. Do I know what I want? Yes. (But who doesn't think he knows what he wants?)

@topic. I say anytime you feel like it. Some of my most succesful friends got married at wierdly young ages-- 19 and 20. They're still living together and loving hard. There's no right or wrong. There's appropriate hence in-appropriate.

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What did someone say 15 for a girl? So how old should the man be that she marries 16? 35?

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Hi,

The right age for marriage is not really the number of age but how mature the person is in dealing with issues of life. But to be more precise, i will say from age 20.

Well, i got married at age 20 and i am very happy i did because i am really enjoying myself now. Also, you have to get the right person if not the riverse will be the case. I have been married for four years and it feels as though we are still engaged.

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There isn't a right age for marriage. I think you could get married when you know you're ready to make a long life journey with your husband or wife

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nah, there s no right age

right person plus right time = marriage

and by timin i mean feel ready

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gabriel, it is hard to make a judegment for someone else.

I would say 22 is definitely too young.

But in the end the decision is yours.

Ask other adults around you and get their opinions.

Life is short and at 22 you should really be at the stage where you are enjoying life and exploring it.

But everyone is different.

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Gabriel, 22 is quite young sha o, bt if u guys r okay with each other n are ready 4 d nu life, go ahead.

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