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What's The Best Way To Turn A Woman Down Without Crushing Her Self-esteem?

It's easy for a woman to bluntly say "no" to a man if she's not into him. But how does a man turn down a lady who has defied all odds to indicate her interest in him, without making her feel silly or UNDESIRABLE ? How do you take it, ladies

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A friend had this same problem but agreed to the woman's proposal.

Later that day, he informed her that he had to get to the Clinic for his weekly shot.

Upon being questioned (both basking in the newness and lull of love requited) as to what the reason for the shot is, he held her hands, lightly kissed her then said he was Epileptic and needed to take shots to avoid the occurence of episodes or failing that, to avoid infections during the unconcious phase of the attacks.

Then he kissed her again and said he confessed to her only because they're both in love and that he actually had an attack early that morning.

A Ferrari (maybe even a bullet) couldn't catch up with her the way she took off almost spitting her tongue out for fear of having kissed Epilepsy itself. On hearing from her that my "bastard #$%^##$" friend wanted to "destroy her life and put her in trouble", I enquired what happened from him and he told me. Long after, when she found out the truth, she was able to laugh over it and he had the right to say "See, you didnt truly love me else you'd have waited".

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Good qxtn men!!

As much as i would love to read more and find a more suitable xkus when i need one i still think:

* A guy shouldnt say da whole words you know (action speaks louder than voice), you might need dem gurl tomorrow for whatever support.

So i suggest:

Cut down contacts (face to face, phone calls and texts), find xkuses, trust me she'll get da drift/thought after one week.

Aint quite easy i tell ya.

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TRY TELLING HER THE TRUTH, IT'LL GO A LONG WAY AND SAVE YOU TOO MUCH TALK.

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Kinda hard to do ma self.im d kind guy we knw as mr nice guy nd it rily kind gives me dat conscience tin bt i tink its 4 d bst.beta dan datin sum1 outta pity

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it happened to me,  this particular Girl *name(withheld)* knew my GF and she frequently ask of her, but you know women are really covetous, she became jealous of my relationship with my GF (which she was older and mature than her in all ramifications) and this made her wants me Really bad and she started showing it to me and became jealous to the extent that my GF presence promted her abnormal irritation, later i understood her feelings because she could no longer hide her (evil)feelings for me that she told one of her friend, my GF started to feel uncomfortable with her whenever she is around with us because she always does some thing that can implicate me, to cut the story short, later,one night, i went to her and told her all her plans can't work out as i cant have anything to do with her because of the Love i have for my GF, she cried and asked me for just a kiss and she told me i am the type of Guy she is looking for and told me how Lucky my GF was to have me because i was a faithful and relationship conscious type, i felt good and went to bed tho i did not tell my GF till now, and does that make me an unfaithful guy?

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if she is so gangsta like u said, i don't think her self-esteem will be affected at the least bit if u told her straight up. lol

she sound like someone who would kick ur Bottom

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- Be blunt with her.

- Cut-off contact with her if she refuses to get the message, cus it amounts to sexual harrasment if she still refuses to take no for an answer.

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Just raise ur shirt a little to expose the head of ur gun

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'Sorry, i'm not into you', straight up without trying to deceive her. She'll respect it and move on, just make sure you don't assume you can be friends, cos thats just sending out mixed signals and you'll piss her off big time.

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There really is no way. Women dont handle any kind of rejection well and they go to all lengths to avoid it.

If you reject a woman, you'll be hearing "He wasnt serious, so i didnt date him" 2 mths later!

I use the line " Its nothing to do with u, its me!, My head is just not in the right place at the moment"

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that comes with a price, You mightn't see it now . . . it may tarry but it'll defo come.

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Tell her you would like to be friends first and take it from there. While you're doing that, keep avoiding her as best as you can -- with time she will understand you're not into her and she lets you off. If at all she summons the courage to talk to you on a friendship level and ask you what's going on then tell her a story that you have a girlfriend with whom you have issues with and you're yet to resolve all of the mess you both have together, that until you figure things out with her and know where y'all both stand you can't start off a good relationship. Go on further to tell her she's a special person and you so wish to have a smooth relationship with her with no scandals or mess but you're afraid it might take sometime to get things figured out in your current relationship. If she asks you how long it's going to take, tell her you don't know how it'll pan out yet. Even if she claims or acts like she knows everything about you, let her understand that she can't know absolutely everything about you. I'm sure at some point she'll quit hoping but each time you talk to her let her know how special she is and how much you wish for a hindrance not to have been on y'all way.

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just do it, dont even bother about crushing her, its not really necessary. she definitly get over it

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Scare r off, if that don't work, wave your gun

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dem douze her with a cold bucket of water!

b4 she ruins ya relationship. Sometimes, a harsh awakening dont harm no one.

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What if she already knows, from your frequent chats and interactions, that you're not hooked?

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Give da chick a good hug and tell her 'hey ma,i really would have so loved to date u,but i really am hooked already, just hug me ok'

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