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What's the difference between looking African and African American?

I happen to look very West Afrian, ppl mistake me for women in Nigeria, Ghana, etc. I notice that African american guys are fickle when it comes to me. Does anyone else feel this way?

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I don't know. I am brownskin, I have long hair, dark eyes. I am average in size.

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this is not even inferiority complex.  this has gotta be sheer inexcusable stupidity.

must be a pre-teen or a high school teenager.

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That is what the other posters said. One guy said that the AAs guys think i am ugly when they say I look 'west african'. That they only go after the lightskin girls with keen features. But even teh lightskin girls they go after have west african features as well

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How do u look?

Describe your facial features. . . .

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I don't trust the posters here enough to show a picture of myself. I only described how I look and they already said I was ugly can you imagine if I showed a picture

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i have 31 and half teeth . . . havent killed myself yet. infact i love the half tooth, i wont see a dentist for it ever.

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lol what a silly little girl.

i look ugly because i am brown skin with west african features.  you are mad.  what an insult.

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she does sound like a typical clinically depressed individual

It has nothing to do with being a strong adult

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Segun Arinze and Amy Winehouse are big celebrities.

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arnold1 has 12 tribal marks per cheek and he hasn't killed himself.

@ poster hold your head up high

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She's not a baby who needs to be petted.

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The poster is manipulation your brains.

Why are you so naive?

U believe anything printed on the net?

Who attempts suicide cos people said he/she is ugly??

Puhleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease, letz discuss something else.

Doyin13, are you out on tag now?

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Can she post a picture

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Sauron this is not a joking matter

behave yourself

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This is not a laughing matter people

This lady sounds like she needs help

Anybody that can't say anything encouraging should be silent.

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You are a true Omobaba. . .and long may you give us moments of jest.

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The different between black american and look africa are, Black america are those Africa traded as slaves to the AKATA olori funfun people in the earlys year, while the looking black are the one that escape the slavery like me because my great grand papa escape it, I am proud to be NIGERIA, BLACK AMERICA, COME HOME. we will welcome you here, we don't give poo about white here at all

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It's natural for me to want to be validated and feel accepted, espcially by others. It's strange and incredibly depressing to get used to being seen as ugly and inferior by other black people because I am not lightskin with keen features. Who wants to feel this way?

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Is she bothered by akatas calling her ugly or Africans?

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No, but now I am starting to. I guess I fooled myself into thinking my features were actually attractive. Now, I see myself how most AAs guys probably see me. Ugly because I am brownskin with west african features

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so you only feel good about yourself when someone else says so? Dear you are wonderfully and beautifully made like my bible says . . . it doesnt matter what anyone says. As guys too we get rebuffed sometimes by Americans who feel we are too "african" for them and they dont want to contaminate their bloodline with flat noses and coarse hair but guess what? We brush it off and move on to others . . . no big deal. As far as i'm concerned, its their loss not mine.

wipe your tears . . . dont put your family in misery over others.

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seriously, lighten up.

Its not a big deal.

Africans are called ugly all the time- it doesnt mean they actually are. In any case, it doesnt always matter!

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wow you must really have deepseated problems . . . kill yourself over mere men who will simply observe a minute of silence over you and move on with their lives? How pathetic.

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I cant say weather U are ugly or not but I can say one thing,  U are nuts!!!!

U need to seek help fast if U have even considered suicide on account of some stuff said about ur appearance.

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yes I am serious. Who wants to be told that they are seen as ugly by their own people? Damn is this supposed to make me feel good about myself. I am s itting here in tears over this

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being told that I am ugly because I look west africans BY africans themselves is just the last straw.

the point is is that i am IN AMERICA, i am not over in africa. my life is invested here, i have no money to up and move to another country. I have already seen therapy about this and it has no worked. I have attempted suicide once but after reading this post that confirms my inferiority to my own ppl i'd rather be dead than continue to live like this

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No, I've already slit my wrists over this in the past. And sought therapy. It hasn't worked

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I get confused with that term,

Most of the AA girls around here are even darker than moi.

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Well, I'm going to commit suicide then

thank you for telling me this

good b ye

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I said they think I look West African. Other posters commented that they think I'm ugly. I'm very confused. Neither is helping my self esteem.

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funny cos most people say "i look like d americans"

but i always reply"D Americans look like me"

As far as i'm concerned,we are all africans.

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I think U have some serious self esteem issues that U need to work on. Dont blame it on the West African or any other look for that matter.

U admitted that the guys show interest in U and then pull back after sometime,  didnt they notice that U have the so called West African look when they were showing that initial interest?

Is it possible that there are other stuff, apart from how U look, that made them withdrew?

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since your question is for AA guys, you may want to talk to your AA brothers Hero/KB1 and Mandingo so they can give you the 411 on what goes these days.

So far its only Africans on this thread but you say its AAs who are calling you ugly.

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so I'm  ugly to them?

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I don't know how to do that. IIt's a hard pill to swallow. Is the only way you can be pretty is to look like Beyonce?

Apparently. People tell me that. I never knew I looked West African until African Americnas pointed this out to me.

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i think they mean you look ugly.

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There are many African American males who look like that too. A lot of them are not heavily mixed. I'm in America btw.

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You need to come to Nigeria and see a lot of men that look like that.

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@stillwater,

that looks more of a senegalese than Nigerian

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Tpiah, I would never say he looks West African, just looks like a black male that could be from any part of the world.

So you mean to tell me that there aren't any AAs who looks like that? I would never go, "he looks Nigerian".

Can someone post a pic of someone who looks African American

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That man (I think he's a football player right?) in that photo looks like a Nigerian.

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@Tisha,

Nobody has the right to put you down and i guess you are consenting to that,i'm a west african and our women are great women,they are making u question ur self worth.be proud of who you are.

If the white Folks do not like you, then date west Africans and I know the white dudes aren’t 1percent better than us and I’m available to help you with ur problem.

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No matter what, there is a look,

I can put 100 blacks in a line and put one nigerian in the line and it will stick out like a sore thumb.

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I am asking myself the same thing, what is an "West African" look. But people tell me that I don't look American and right off the bat they presume I'm not

Even on a job interview, the person interviewing me said I looked "AFrican" so I asked him, "what is looking African?" and he said that I looked like the West African women he knew because of my bone structure. I should have asked him what is looking African American.

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Thats what people dont understand about America. Growing up i was predjudiced heavily by AA's.

And for a long time, I only hung  with Nigerians or Whites.

Now I cool with everyone, ppl are just ignorant. But due to  the world being more interconnected, AA men are more intrigued when u tell them ure Nigerian.

I went out in New Orleans and this guy saw my 9ja flag hangin in my car,  and so was goo ga ga that he was talking to me. Its so funny now.

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Can you tell me what makes a Nigerian look different from an African  American??

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West African Look: 'Blackened face caused by the harsh equatorial sun, big bulbous nose and fat lips. Some may also have the additional misfortune of big bulging eyes and scary hair'

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look you are old enough to know who you are and have self worth - if a man can not see beyond your complexion and love you for who you are then stuff them

meantime you STOP looking for excuses to dislike yourself and START CELERATING your origins!!

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