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What's Wrong With An Older Lady Marrying A Slightly Younger Guy?

I am older than my boyfriend with eleven months. We have been friends for years [from school]. Our friendship grew and now he wants more, but his family is kicking against our relationship because i am older, it is straining our relationship, i cant understand it

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The good guy is HERE.

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Dammn I don't think I can do this if I was her.

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dat'z africanz 4 u, wat does age hav to do wit luv, no cliches, 4real[color=#006600][/color]

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nothing bad jawe,if there is love

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I was 16 and she was 19 when we first met on that October 19 morning, and we found we just wanted to be together. As the days went by, we knew this was love and it was for real. I was 19 and she was 22 when I asked her if she would wait for me, and she said YES!

Now I am 28 and she is 31 and we are getting married in October.

My parents, brothers and sisters all know she is older, but they cant go there cos they see the look in my eyes (ie it is NOT NEGOTIABLE).

So Poster, if he's got the guts, and knows you are what he needs, nothing can stop you, not even parents!

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I dont think eleven month should be an issue? once the two parties involved understand themslves, the young man should stand by his madam

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Not a damn thing especially when Men on their death-beds can still get with 18yr olds,

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Nothing is wrong with that.

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noting wrong init as far as he is not living off you, since you said he's ok financially then i dont think you av a problem just go with your flow

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At this point i think you should be more concerned with what your man thinks and maintain a loving relationship with him, if he is man enough, you have only little problems left, be prepared to fight some wars, but then love is worth fighting for, right??

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absolutely nothing wrong innit

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If your guy is man enough, no one can dictate to him what to do. Tell him to stand his ground and his people will live him alone.

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There's nothing wrong with you marrying your younger guy.

But your guy needs to grow some balls, and not allow his family to dictate his life / relationships.

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How did his family know u are older? Have u bn fair in ur dealings wt ur man in d past? Are u "submissive" enuf 2 allow him feel "manly" n be in control? Do tend 2 relate wt him like a younger friend in d past? Do they see u as a desperate old babe looking 4 a guy 2 marry at all cost? U nd 2 ask ur self some more questions. But, ur man has 2 decide on whose side he's on. If he's 4 u, b prepared 4 series of confrontation in future wt ur inlaws, otherwise be prepared 2 mend ur heart n move on.

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Eleven months? You're still in the same age bracket.

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Nothing at all, Age is nothing but a number (well as long as they are both in the adult age of consent)

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D man (abi na boy sef, ?!!!) no serious! Na im people go find am wife? Make e tell dem bring am wife from village now, abi?

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@ Emiwanlee  What's wrong with d lady knowing? Its no big deal

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The only thing wrong is the lady knowing.

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so, wat is the problem, na him dey marry or na d ppl?

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Maybe he is not rich yet, he is still a baby bcuz matured man is idependable and free do wat he want cuz he is a man enuf. I can marry who i want, my ppl have no say about it sofaa i love her. Well, my sister na black people for you. For me, i preffer matured woman, d one older dan me cuz she has seen life and now ready to settle down than all dese fele-fele babes wey never see anything.

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@poster

nuffin so long as u treat him with d respect he deserves as the man of the house

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Nothing is wrong wit dat wat matterz there is LOVE,

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