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i want to make my marriage to work. I'm willing to work on it more than anything. we have been through tougher things in our marriage. I believe in my heart of hearts he is not cheating. He just lies about small things. If you say your gonna do something he should just do it. (i think)

I know were young and we have just started our lives together and i know we can overcome this together.

Your right with the advice thing. it only helps if i put it to work. Which i plan on doing. When i get home we will have a talk bout things (all things)

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@ cece84

What do want to do about it?

I mean, peeps can offer you the world of advice but, at the end of the day it boils down to YOU and what YOU feel YOU are capable of doing.

There's no point listening to 'advice' if you ain't gonna do anything about it is there? That 'advice' becomes redundant and gets relegated to the in-tray of 'opinions'.

Some of the cr*p I read on here either makes me laugh or loathe.

You know what you should do, it's a matter of whether you've got the cahunas to do it.

I don't mean to be aggressive about it but, this is real talk. No sugar coating here luv.

In your heart of hearts, only you know what needs to be done.

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@olanajim

Thanks for the advice i will try what crazykidd says, I encourage him everychance I get. I will change up my look a bit,

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@poster,

it seem to me that your guy is a bit bored. From your last reply, it seem he is honest until other women start coming. His age also betray his maturity.

Why not try what crazykid said above? It may help.

Try that for a start. Afterward, we will see what happen next.

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by the way I am African American

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Him and i meet over the internet,

we fell in love got married.

I am no nigerian.

the women he talks with mostly are nigerian.

We have had a great relationship until he decided i was the reason he stoped speakin to his female friends. So he made a big deal bout it so i said go ahead, and it has been blown out of mind,

He did not have a green card when we meet. I know that is not why he married me at all, that i'm sure of. It seems like i'm not enough for him in some area, when i try to speak with him about it. i get no answers or the silent treatment,

thanks for all your help everyone.

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Are the other women Nigerian or black?

Are you white or black or Nigerian?

Did he have his greencard when you married?

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He is from Nigeria. we live in washington state.

He says Unclad pics came from a friend

2years june

no kids

changed a little bit,

no he has a code on his phone

other women conversation in on phone,text, email. facebook any and every way, lol

Im 24 he is 22

I know God will take care of everything

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I have a couple of questions

When you ask him about the Unclad pictures what does he say?

How long have you been married?

Are there any children involved?

Has he changed toward you recently?

Do you have access to his cell phone?

Is the communication with the OW via the internet or has it moved to text and phone calls?

Where do you live?

What is the ethnicity of you and your husband?

What are yall ages?

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Well it seems or it is clear that you’re on the verge of spending the rest of your life with a womanizer.

The only thing I would suggest you to so that your husband would begin to look in your direction is . . .

1. Change Your Wardrobe: There’s a saying that newly born babies are more admired and appreciated than the existing ones. So I would advise you to go shopping for new clothes – clothes you know he would definitely admire; I’m sure that when he sees you, he won’t be able to take his eyes off you.

2. Give him an unwarranted and unnecessary compliment: I know this might sounds wired, but believe we men love being appreciated, it might be that you hardly tell him how handsome he is or how lovely and sexy he is; little little gestures like this add great value to relationships.

3. Spend time together: Many married couples hardly spend up to two hours appreciating each other. Marriage isn’t just about sex; there’s more to it than sex. When you distance yourself from your partner, then there will be problems because your partner might begin to look else where for the love and comfort you’re denying him.

4. Don’t believe everything you hear about him: Believe me, this is one of the virus that eats up relationships; when one partner hears something negative about the other partner and decide to take law into his/her hand by confronting the partner without any evidence or prove can really be dangerous; because if the whole story was just a set up, you might end up loosing your marriage.

So my dear, you saw Unclad pictures in his e-mail. . . I know it hurts, but sit him down whenever both of you are in a good mood and have a good talk with him.

I’m sure he would have a reasonable explanation for his action.

Good luck.

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I have a couple of questions

When you ask him about the Unclad pictures what does he say?

How long have you been married?

Are there any children involved?

Has he changed toward you recently?

Do you have access to his cell phone?

Is the communication with the OW via the internet or has it moved to text and phone calls?

Where do you live?

What is the ethnicity of you and your husband?

What are yall ages?

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@Poster

You're seem so confused.

Why not give us full details, i.e how it all started and things like that; so we will know how to compose our replies.

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