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What Will U Do If Your Husband Can Not Perform?

This is a real issue in most marriages. What will you do if you discovered on your wedding night and beyound that your husband you married can not perform at all in bed. Will u divorce him immediately, continue to endure or look elsewhere for what is lacking. Your view is needed pls because it can happen to anyone out there.

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hmmmm...abi ooo! buh na wa for u

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i think agbayaism is the NL word

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That is why bad girls like me always get the best man, because we dont have to worry about poo like this. When you good girl were ready your books we were bleeping all you husbands of the future so we know how to choice the best man

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speak for yourself woman,and stop posting shits

because that highlighted statement aint true

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aanh anh, not this Negro, it aint happening! Look, even if my doctor warned that I need to stop fuckcing cus my heart can no longer sustain, I no go listen to am. You cannot dissuade a limping lion not to chase after the buffalo. I only need to sniff, I'm on it!

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The tested issue , in this case we should not be generalizing things with the sex before marriage , Because you might test death , it's absurd to be testing sex, Get married if you know you have flir for for sex don't advise people wrongly , we all have only one life to live why would i be toyling with my life ??

@ poster .,, atleast we have all gain more than enough , make use of the write advise , you can hear verybody, but make a wise choice.

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that kind thing no fit happen ( we must try b4 we buy)

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@ topup

Must you always be so reasonable? You have a very valid point. while i believe that sex is vital in a relationship (at least at the onset) the other elements you listed are also vital too. There's nothing as good as leading a balanced life but as humans we are imperfect and we always tend to have a bias for certain elements over the other. I guess striving to achieve that balance should be the goal of both partners in any relationship.

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sorrrrry, am very sure nigerians are not silly especially d PUSSYcat around before i marry a man we would have done enough HONEYMOON before d official HONEYMOON so hw wont i know maybe he can perform or not 2 be frank in nigeria we believe in sexs before marriage isnt it for more talks and chat email mi on mabos_olayemi@yahoo.com

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Oh really? and its not. right?

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There's a pun in that! Love Conquers all!

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Perform?!?! What is this perform thing? What do you mean by perform? If his ***** is perfectly functioning then what's the problem? I'm not asking for a world athelete or a pro who's obtained 'medals' from all his past conquests? I'm asking for someone who can just focus on the here and now and pleasing his wife. Really, who cares if he's a pro or not, it's the moment that counts, if you're more bothered about marking his performance skills instead of enjoying the moment, then obviously you will find errors.

Medical Problems are a different thing, totally. However, if it is something that can be treated, why not work through it, though if it can't be treated, I would have hoped that you both married each other for love first and so unless the love changes you still couldn't imagine being with someone else. Why has sex become such a big thing on everybody's agenda?? My answer; because everybody has been brainwashed into thinking that its one of the vital things for a successful relationship.

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sorry but im not staying wt such a man,divorce is d next thing for me

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The reason is that the marriage was contracted based on deception and therefor it qwill be annulled.

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Still waiting for positive answers to my question

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So the question is can a man and woman be married without a sex? Is it a must that the man must perform what if he has money and other good things of life i know the woman will not mind that rather than sex.

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@ topic

it's a terrible thing to even imagine. But it's out there.

If the case is you're both married already, then too bad, because aside the "marriage is more than sex issue," it's all in the mind.

You might love ur husband and wan2 support him at this time, but just the KNOWING, it's terrible. Physical and emotional go together. No action, no satisfaction.

Love Machine or no Love Machine, that intimacy that makes marriage what it is, is absent. Sad truth.

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The situation presented by the first poster is one whereby, during their first night, the woman discovers the man nor sabi. She is still in time to get that marriage annulled, because until it is consunmed they aren't married!

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I guess that would depend on the age of the woman/man at the time of the marriage. Also do they have other children. Do they want more children.

In my case we are waiting until our wedding night, I know that i gets hard because i have felt it thru his pants so performing is something i am not worried about. But if he could not we would just see a doctor about it. Him and I both are not looking to have anymore children between us both there are 5 kids. so him leaving me if i was barren is not an issue.

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If the man can't perform, leave am jare! If it were you who was barren believe me that man nor go think twice before he kicks you out of the house. Stop being disillusioned. That "He would do the same for me" is just a dream!

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Husband miss sum1 married.

meaning that the wife shd know abt it.

But honestly, its a choice and ONLY GOD can help

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What is God does not answer the prayer what will u do?

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Religion should not be confused with reality. It is not in all cases God answers prayers there are certain things in life u have to carry on with and ability not to perform sexually is one of such instances.

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I think it is too early to jump to any conclusion. I would suggest you arrange for him to go for extensive laboratory test. A good doctor will let him practice on different women.

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If he can't get someone to do it for him, afterall what could he possibly do? The man has no say!

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Send a message to Him for me and ask Him why he would allow a marriage where the husband can't perform and at the same time expect us to be "fruitful" or to stay in such a marriage

Until then you should probably comot from my face

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absolutely illogical, do you know HIM at all?

Ask yourself how many of these people really believes in JESUS and do you know what convenant they are into?

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why dont you tell Jesus to come down and make it work if he wont let you get a divorce

No one brings Him in when men leave barren wives or wives who only produce female children for other women

Useless people.

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You have only one excuse to divorce

Only if either is fornicating!Matt. 19 : 9

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ok on a more serious note: pls define not perform?

also to what degree is this non performance? because there are diff solutions at varying degrees

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Different wordings but same idea, anyway some people can't see things beyond their nose. The ball is in your court i'll leave you to it.

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what if they 2 couples have visited so many churches, prayed, fasted and yet no solution what should be done in pratical sense?

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Yes, that is a better solution but the best  is to put it on the Lords shoulder.He is able to carry.

As for me, i blf in miracle so anything can happen at anytime. Do not cease praying for him.

May the Lord answer you from Zion (amen)

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Well i guess no one has any real positive solution in mind i guess i have to carry my cross like that then.

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Excuss me! Miss Oyinye, , Can u pleaz explain ur comment very well. tak care. Easy.

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try different positions or something. maybe read some kama sutra

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Actually, its a big case to judge but i'll say, tak him 2 an herbalist maybe there'll be a solution and if not START CRYING,

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I guess most ladies on this forum have not given their sincere opinion yet. Still waiting to hear from you though.

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Perform as in able to have sex with a woman.

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@Poster

Ur question is complicated, what actually do you mean be not performing

*****Minute Man****** or

*****Mojo always sleeping and snoring as well******

If the case if for number one i believe finger, Love Machine and tongue will help but the second God intervention is needed asap.

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But the truth is not all prayers that God answers so there is nothing like preaching wrong gospel is just a basic truth.

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After praying and nothing happens what should be done?

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Haha.thatz why itz good to hammer b4 wedding.Virgins take note

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firstly,dis is cumbersome u knw,secondly i tink ny1 dat finds him or hersef in dat condition "ll ave no oda option dan 2 pray cos our lord is d grtest healer nd physician.

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Is like no one is ready to give permanent solution at all.

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Pray. You are already married, and there is no hopeless situation. . . so just pray!

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