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you highlighted from a bus on the way to your fiancees house only to realised that she was in a scuffle with your best friend (they have not met before) and she has been slapped twice by your friend. what will you do?

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It is sad; however, these laws exist because there are some seriously perverted minds in this wicked evil world.

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In the UK where teachers are told to constantly find out from children about what goes on in their homes, you will just see police coming to arrest you. When you get to court, it will be a jury of white people who have a biased view of black people (especially men) - some of them have never had any dealing with a black person in their lives - and they will just throw you in jail.

You will never be able to work again, your life will become miserable as your name is already soiled.

Make the man no try am o

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I get your point but I will still stay timid

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They do have hair removal creams but I would not want a child of 9 to administer them. They are very strong and harsh. They will severely irritate skin in the crease of the thighs if placed there. They also can cause serious problems if they get too close to the folds of the labia. The creams are tricky for adults so I wouldnt advise it for a child.

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What of hair removal cream.you place it there, leave it and rinse it off or something. if she cut herself once next time she will take caution.A nine year old can do this.A relative, a female church member, female family friend, even the doctor can show her this once. This is nonsense esp for abroad when small thing they say child abuse person still dey do this kind thing no fear.

At least i have heard of such cream i rmb in secondary school (i attended a female boarding school) a girl did it in my prescence those of us bathing around her moved closer and asked her questions about the cream and stuff. That was a long long time ago, i guess those creams are still around. i dont know if they have negetive effects on women especially children of that young age(9). You tell me

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At day spas and some high end salons they do bikini waxes. They wax and trim the hair in the bikini area. I dont think they remove all the hair but they remove hair that would peek out of the bikini area and trim the other hair.

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Yes, $30 for a wax is better than jail, especially being jailed as a sex offender. Sex offenders often have to register and are listed as such for at least 10 years. No one will hire you and many will know your whereabouts and may protest your living near them. The guy could easily lose the child. He needs to exercise extreme caution.

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I only suggested salons, etc. becuz I know the danger the guy is in. Again, if this story was repeated @ school to the wrong teacher, he would DEFINITELY be investigated in my state and likely be charged. Suspicion of abuse MUST BE reported by ANY ADULT OR THAT ADULT CAN BE CHARGED WITH A CRIME. The guy can either pay $20-$35 for a wax or be charged as a sex offender, lose his job, and pay $200 per hour and up in legal fees to prove he is only an innocent father. A word, to the wise, is sufficient.

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What if the man has no money to pay for those waxes and stuff?

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The dad also needs to explain to the girl that she is becoming lady and that it is no longer proper for others to see or touch her private parts with the exception of doctors or the ladies at the salon that they may go to for trims. If not, the child sounds a bit trusting, and someone may prey on her innocence. Also, who does the child's hair? The stylist may be able to recommend a good salon for the trim or bikini wax.

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I am an American woman dating a Nigerian man who is widowed with a young daughter. If he asked me to shave her, I would take time try to teach the child. However, I would advise him to NEVER do this again because it could lead too SO MUCH TROUBLE here in the US. I am a lawyer and sometimes work child abuse cases and most court officials would not look favorably on this shaving by the father or girlfriend for that matter. So, what to do? Advise the guy to take the child to a day spa or salon for a bikini wax or trim. It is expensive and may be costly but worth EVERY PENNY to avoid trouble with officials, This description sounded so much like my guy except for the city and the fact that my guy is not hairy. I feel for the guy. It is tough!, So there are some American ladies who would do this for a guy. I love my guy and would hate for him to go thru this alone.

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DUH!!!! (What if we FLIP the script to a widow stuck with an 8 yr old son with such needs, will you advise she look for male friends at work to help her do it) ---- as far as i understand, i thought u said you are "Flipping" the situation??!?!?!?

Note; Women are more open to each other. I could ask a GOOD FRIEND who has a bf or husband to hang out with my 8yr old son every once in a while and they can "talk"---

(I bet you, [b]NO American woman will agree to that contract, marriage or no marriage) /b ] REALLY?!?!?!

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This man lives in Loiusville kentucky. Which friend?. Even if you find a female friend, they may not feel comfortable doing it for their own safety because all the girl needs to do is say it to her teacher and people will land in jail. His fiancee agreed to do it because they were becoming a household and she's a Nigerian woman. I bet you, no American woman will agree to that contract, marriage or no marriage.

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St Funmi even to a boy it should be the same. The pubic hair means puberty and puberty means a lot of confusion about sex and feelings. That is the wrong time to be touching your child's privates.

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yuck, das nasty!! but, well --- the girl grew up knowing no mother! hmmmmm, this one is hard oh, but ewwwww, if i were him, i'd make female friends at work who can help him teach his daughter to do her thing!

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That is a no no. He should never have started the shaving. There are other methods besides shaving to remove hair so that he does not have to be all up in his daughter's womanliness. Haba. The shaving might even be making the itching worse because with shaving the hair does not grow out finer. The new woman should not shave it either. If she is itching uncontrollably she needs to be seeing a gyno. I don't care how hairy you are you cannot possibly itch that much that you have to start shaving your daughter's womanliness. The woman being there is a plus but she too needs to be careful because this is simply abnormal to me.

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I guess so but the song will be different if the girl is always on your neck to help her do it. I suggest you try and teach her once how to do it safely without cutting herself.

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No no no no! Let it itch her well until another female can help her shave.

As soon as my daughters are 3 yrs old only their mother shld be allowed to touch them there.

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why would i be shaving at 9. who's going there?

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Some 9 yr olds cannot shave themselves. Were you able to shave yourself at 9?

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Is the 9 year old slow?

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@shopie, get out of the marriage, your points are very valid.

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@shopie, get out of the marriage, your points are very valid.

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Busted and still wanna make a reason of her nonsense.

Chaircover, i have always known you as a cover to the chair, never knew u were a cop too.

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i have a question for the guys here who say the wife should forgive. say the situation is reversed. your wife has an on going affair with another man. has his child, continues the affair, never tells you, never breaks it off untill you discover it on your own. would you forgive her?

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trying to forgive is not stupidity. its just divine to forgive and then to live with it

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Forgiveness is a choice.

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Whatever happened to for better for worse?

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you are right on this one

I guess it depends on d relationship as well cus whats good for A might not be right for B

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the wife said she will never leave her husband---come what may. I guess its a personal decision, NL can't make it for you.

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^^^^^^ after 25 years of marriage where will the woman go ? Its not as easy as you make it seem

I remember this one pastor of a cele church after two girls and 17 years of marriage with his wife; he phucked one of her close friends, because he wanted to boy---anyhoo the extra-marital affair gave him a boy----- its 25 years of marriage after the incident and the wife is still married to him.

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if its before the marriage then you can 4give him/her

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now what here is forgivable?  this is not a man who got drunk and "messed up" once and told his wife he was sorry and what he had done.  never once advised her to have herself checked, never once tried to make up for what he had done.  did not find out months later that this "mistake" was pregnant and he and his wife together delt with the situation. 

the first scenere: hell to the no is that in any way forgivable.  why would any self respecting woman take seconds by her own husband to some skank on the street.  to the second scenereo then yes with a hell of alot of work and time on his part them maybe, depending on how long it took him to "confess" and how long the affair lasted

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u mean u cant forgive?

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if the child was concieved after you two started dating then leave now and never look back

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if u love him soo much---- u may need to find a way to accept him and that child----- its not as though the child is coming to leave with you----yea ?

Forgiveness is HARD but its the greatest gift you can give a loved one.

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If it was be4 u marry,nothing u can do.

If it was while u guy take a break from each other, nothing u can do.

If you call cops for him and send him out of the house for some weeks and that happens, nothing u can do.

But if all is well and it happens while you making him happy, then, that na dead body get accident, and you will ave to do all u can do to save the marriage if you still want it.

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Talk to your spouse poster. It's your decision.

I don't think NLers can do anything for you and advise given hereswill not be valid without adequate information from you either.

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