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What Will You Do If Your Man Calls Your Child A Product Of Unfaithfulness?

They are not married but they have a baby and are both planning to get married soon,one day the guy called is own baby a product of unfaithfulness,what do you think this lady should do?

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see kettle dey call pot black, nor mine am jor

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She knows herself better than I do.

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They have no business,getting married.Wonder what he else he'll say 2 months into marriage.

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May be the guy is not the father of the child in question

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Well no matter how man likes to think he has progressed. He still remains an animal. And by man i mean humans. . .both genders.

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Maybe he means that the child is the product of their fornication (having sex before marriage).

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Your conclusion after hearing such a story is that 'Women can keep secrets oh!"? What's wrong with you? You have a man that raised a girl from birth (whether she's his or not isn't the point) and he goes on to molest her and that's seen as what? An admirable act? There's one thing I like about Nigeria: pull a cowardly stunt like this and you may end up doing a dance wearing a tire and doused in kerosene. It's good he ran because he knew the consequences; the wife confessed my foot.

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Women can keep secrets oh!

A girlfriend told a guy that she was pregnant for him and he married the girlfriend, but he discovered two decades later that she deceived him when the baby (a girl) was now 21 years old. He was enraged, but he did not let her know that he had found out the truth. He despoiled their "daughter" and told his wife. When she challenged him and wanted to raise hell over his abominable act, he now told her all he found out and she confessed that he was not the real father. The man left town. This happened in Surulere, Lagos.

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Sometimes we say things that we really don't mean

Well I'm sorry baby

Bring your lovin' back to me

I can't sleep babe, R.Kelly

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But your assumptions could be wrong. No one knows whether the guy is aware of his partner's infidelity, if thats the case. The child may be his but he may have doubts if some information recently came to him. Or it could be he is just trying to back out of the wedding. Either way, its difficult to say.

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lol.

Like i said it could be misdirection. . .maybe he's thinking of doing something, so attacks first to give him the excuse/validation he needs/wants to do what he wants to do. Consequently just displaying the cowardice he has. . .disappointing. If he thinks i could do something like that. . .he never really knew me then. . .disappointing. But that's just people. . .they can sometimes be like horses with blinders on.

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Why are women always bent on teaching lessons even when they have severe consequences?

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nothing as bad as forcing a man to marriage.An average man would also want to express his greve at every oppurtunity.

The guy is just calling a spaid a spaid but not for the spaid but for its mother,there is just much more to it.seleh.

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i will just laugh it off.

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If he is trying to deny paternity do a DNA

Maybe he is implying that the kid is a product of pre-marital sex

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There are a lot of issues involvd, lets not jump into conclusions. Is d child a product of their relationship. If yes, such a statement coming from him, no mater the circumstance is wrong. If no, it's also wrong but understandable. One just has to act with precaution

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If he is unsure bout the child's paternity why not go for DNA test

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I think the lady should see beyond what the man said and be sure if he meant it or he just said it for saying it sake(Though wrong).

Then take it from there.

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oya, girls over to u ****am watching by the side****

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Story, story. He's claiming not to be the Daddy now that wedding bells are set to ring in the near future? Please, he's just trying to back out of the relationship and needs a 'valid' excuse. He needs to be careful when being a potential coward; what if the baby is his and the child finds out later on down the line that Daddy denied him/her? Can. Of. Worms.

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maybe he's thinking someone else could be responsible for the child's preg.

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There are a lot of issues involvd, lets not jump into conclusions. Is d child a product of their relationship. If yes, such a statement coming from him, no mater the circumstance is wrong. If no, it's also wrong but understandable. One just has to act with precaution

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There may be some personal reason for the man saying this, he may venture into this fake pastor on the street.

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It is obvious that there is no trust in the relationship. There is no need to go ahead with the wedding, the marraige will not work out since from the beggining there is an issue to be clarified. I would rather wait till I get someone who will marry me for me even if the child is not his'.

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yes you are right cos like parent like child. You child cannot live the character of his/her parent and live another character.

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The guy is obviously refering to the child as a product of the girls unfaithfulness, thus the child is not his. Or maybe he was with someone before, had an affair with her, the child came and he is being 'forced' to marry her against his exact will. Whatever the case, if the girl knows his statement is true, yes she'll feel hurt, but there's nothing she can do about it. But she should let him know his statement hurt her.

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What's a product of unfaithfulness? Is the guy saying the child is not his? because if that is what he is saying I seriously think that should be set straight before any wedding.

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Could be true, could be misdirection, could be an opening to something.

Personally. . .i'd be disappointed but will get over it.

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what were the circumstances for him to call that child that?! was it out of anger or while cool as ice during a normal dinner convo?!

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This is just like a pot calling a kettle black (off course both of them are black). The guy is busy pointing his finger at the lady while others point back at him. My advice is that the lady should say nothing because the guy is actually insulting his own self. So baby girl just cool down!

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The guy is just one of the > 70% correct guy in the society.

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depends on the circumstances but he could be referring to the fact it was a product of pre-marital sex.if he didn't exonerate himself from it.

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