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What Would You Do If You Had a Boyfriend Like Mine?

My boyfriend claims to love me, but I don't see him. He comes around whenever he likes or whenever someone tells him they saw me. We are in the same state and town but we saw each other 2months ago. His excuse is he's making money, "I can't see you because I am broke", and then phone calls once every one week.

Now if you were in my shoes what would you do?

For the guys, when you say or do that to a girl, what do u mean?

And for the girls, if your boyfriend treats you as such what would you do?

c`mon answer needed

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i was once in ur shoes n u know what i did, dump his freaking a.s.s... hes not worth the stress n if u really check it he has another gf. so dnt bother mine said his reason for not calling is becos its part of his nature, can u imagine? Babe, move on with ur life , he never cared in the first place.

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Pls cud dis be love?...cals u on 1 wk interval?..hmm.Dnt knw bt i smel rat

I wunt refer 2 hm as my boyfrnd we ar jst frnds; since na space hm de find

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Women will alwaz be women....small brain!How can u call a man who u hardly see or calls u once in a week ur “boyfrnd“,“lover“,“spouse“ or “patner“?Just see this guy as a frnd &move on with ur life.i cant imagine myself not calling my “girlfriend“ at least twice in a day &vice versa.wake up from this sleep girlie!

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NA WA O.IF D GUY NO GET MONEY NA UNA GO TALK SAY HIM BE BROKE Bottom NIGGA.UNA WOMEN ALL DE CONFUSED.WANT TO HAVE UR CAKE AND EAT IT.MUMU GIRLS

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Yeah!!!! ill give to ya.

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You need to talk with him and let him know how you feel and don't jump to conclusions. If the relationship is not working out then you should part ways before you end up getting hurt.

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dont dump him girl, get another boyfriend and when he comes over or call make urself busy then when he finally finds out ask him if he expected you to wait for his sorry Bottom.cos i figure if he really loves u and is trully lookin 4 money.u guys can do it together, ladies in the house am i right or am i right. ;d ;d

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dont dump girl get another boyfriend and when he calls u or come around be busy too.then when he finds out you are dating someone else ask him if you were suppose to wait for him, some nerve he has

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I wonder who the hell una dey advice

the girl don follow her bobo

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i wud have left his broke Bottom along time ago...gurl move on his obviously not really dat interested in u n e more...no offence.

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We've not heard from the thread starter since she started the topic.

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4 all we know, this situation never happened sef.

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You're not high on his priority list. Sorry, but that is the truth. You can still make it work, but not if you're the type that requires attention.

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drop him like a bad habit!!

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What is it with goodguy this time?

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whiteshark and goodguy sef......na wa oooooo!!!!!!una two sef ooooo!!!!!mmmmmmmmm.....I no fit talk.

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make we yarn another thing abeg....... Some people just know how to get others worked up

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kissyspark, in my opinion he is definitely cheating or have another girlfriend.

Regards.

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whittie, u deal in fairly used goods abi oshara.

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person wey create the topic sef, we nor see am again.

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I will dump that B be for is too late.

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Girlfriend,wakem up and smell the coffee,the guy is simply saying,leave me alone!!!but you are too in love to hear him.You know what,take a break and rediscover yourself,stop contacting him and when he calls,say"pls who is this"?He will feel you deleted his number cos of his "busy schedule".Try it,but my advice is,dump him before he dumps you.Ciao!!!

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Omo, dump him O! i mean...Duh!

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I said so many girls, not all girls

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Thats not exactly true

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I am not saying it's bad. I just want to know if it's compulsory since that's what so many young gurls these days are after. They all want to be with someone at all cost.

@Kissy: one thought just came to my mind now. Who toasted who? Were u the one all over him, or did he approach you for a relationship?

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@goodguy u wicked ooh... why wld u say having a boyfriend "is it compulsary"

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Na wa sha... this ur man... he smells like a married man ooh... all these disapering and appearing act. wo i feel u uchetobi.. @ kissypark just burst this guy jo.... afterall it doesnt look like he is spending this his imaginary money on u...

My advice: date another guy... have fun... u never can tell.... it just might bring him back

but pls dont sit around mourning and waiting....

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what i mean by the best is yet to come is that if i call it quite with him,i know definitely that i will find a guy who will love me for who i am,who we always takecare of me.Are u satisfied

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Dump him. That nigga cheating on you.. Gurl.. 2+2= geddit?

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whats ur own if she has a bf or not..its her choice innit..

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All I can say is ... If you cant take the heat, STAY OUT OF THE KITCHEN !!!!

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kissy,i can feel ur pain,because i was once in that predicament before,the best option is to leave him,take it or leave u're the one suffering and i'm very sure that he has another girl,just find leave him and go for another guy,my ex boyfriend he's a fool just like this guy of urs

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@virozuru, you can't just say "dump him" like that.

remember, we have only heard one side of this story. We all know that nothing occurs in a vacuum. there is always cause and effect. right now, it appears to me that all we have is effect. we have no idea what caused his behaviour. Perhaps he has an extremely stressful job, or is under a lot of family pressure. Until we know why he's acting the way he is, we cant give sound advice. Afterall, the solution has to fit the problem. As Confucius say, "Dont use cannon to kill mosquito."

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such a guy does not deserve me ,and the best thing to do is to dump him. cos i believe the best is yet to come

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@jumfol. Yea I have. But I can't force her, it has to come from her. I doubt if she even remembers today is my birthday.

Let's not deviate... we are here for Kiss.

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"...you want to dump me".  Those type of words from guys! Please try not to believe such words EVERYTIME even from a guy from your family. Infact from some of them you are already dumped why it is the reason he is making such statement.

Open your eye my sister and let God leads you.

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This door swings both ways. You say you haven't seen your man for two months even though y'all are in the same state, and he only calls once a week, so you're wondering what's up. Wake up honey, so is he. The distance from his place to yours is the same as from yours to his. Phone calls aren't cheaper for him to make than they are for you. Have you made the effort to see him? Have you called him? He'll be wondering what you are up to. He'll be thinking "how can she say she loves me, but she wont call?" Dat kain tin. Y'know.

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FOD, man in solidarity! Have u tried to discuss with her or complain?

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@rufaai

Maybe you are but not all guyz are playas.

@kissyspark

I know you love him thats why u started this thread. So don't leave him in a hurry. I don't know his age though but methinks he's probably tryin to match it with his opponent,reason why jhe complains about cash (childish).

Pretend as if the relationship is over and see what happens.

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Hi, I hope my piece is enough to guide you on the right pact. First and foremost how often did he see you before and if you have consumated this relationship? Are you in the same state or country? Wasn't money initially important when you guys first meet? How much is a phone call to deprive him of that savings plan he has?

I'm a guy and when a guy comes up with flimsy excuses, it is more than likely that he has had enough of you, he has been there and done that, and is unto his next conquest.

I hope this is not the case in your instance.

My personal advise, it might be time you woke up and smelt the coffee. Just count your losses, at least, it does not have an odometer.

I wish you luck.

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WOW! I think he's playing double game... I know how we are always

Just give him some time... Tell him if he has no time for you, you'll break up... I think this would make things look better... Try it

Also, You girls need to be a little bit bold to love... I mean you shouldn't show out too much of love to a guy... That will make him feel superior... Just show him that you love and thats all...

I think that should be it...

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very well spoken, da808cutie.

@ kissyspark, one thing I really want to know is that Do you love him so much that you want to marry him? If not, then the relationship is as good as useless. Call it off!

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if im d one i would give him a break to get himself and choose between myself and d money he goes about making fine its for ur sake but atleast there is time 4 everything

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See i guess kisspark have seen all what we wrote.. let her go and meet him and give us feed back.

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A relationship is a two-way street, so you can't keep complaining about him not calling you if u don't make the effort yourself to call him regularly. guys have feelings too u know, you surely don't expect him you be all over you if you don't do the same.

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@kissypark

If i'm left to say he ll continue the "crying, i ll change" of a thing

well i think u should just sit him down ,have a heart to heart talk with him,

let him know what u expect of him in the relationship,in doing this be firm cos it's ur feelings we r talking about here.tell him point blank ur not comfortable with the way things are going.

if he really cares n adores u that much ,he shld be eager to talk to u, know how ur doing,pay the visits.

Honsetly if he thinks that makin money is the ultimate,maybe u both shld go n test the waters,is hard to but at times certain things has to be done.

so dearie go for what u want.

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why am so confused is this, when i get fed up and calls him up 2 talk to him he`s scared i wanna dump him cos i have met some rich dude and then hes begging ,crying plz dont dump me ok i promise to change and then after sometime he goes back but i love him just hope he would change

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a lot has been said. the bottom line is that there has to be a two way exchange in words and she should inform him of her perception before wielding the big stick in case he does not change.

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Methinks real girls fall for who you are and not what you've got.

Back to the topic.

I always advice the "dumping" thing should come only after a thorough tete-a-tete discussion. Dont just jump into conclusions no matter how obvious it looks. Go see him. Tell him whatz up and hear his "last statement" at least. It could make the diffrence.

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