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What You Are Looking For In Your Man Or Woman?

Here are some qualities to look for in a healthy relationship: common values and similar culture, ability to forgive and be forgiven, ability to be challenged and confronted without defensiveness, desire to raise children, common goals. Ask yourself, Why do I want this relationship? To lose myself? To find myself?· To make up for what I lost in childhood? To keep me so excited I can’t be depressed? To boost my sagging self-esteem? To be a temporary fix until I decide I want something better? For security or someone to take care of me? To be in control? To show off to my friends that I can get a man? To get my parents off my back? To run away from my responsibilities? To find someone to support my children?

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a woman i love. she most be someone with vision, bold, respectful and very sweet

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Happiness simple[color=#000099][/color]

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amm looking for respect and love.care

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i whould prefer a guy who knows wat he wants , cause some guys just dont know wat they want some of them just go with the flow , once u know wat u want am all urs cause i know wat r want n if a guy dont dont ave those qualitys i wont compromise watever, thats me

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Now that's worthy of he Guiness Book of Records. A virtual cyber-space hug extending from North America to Australia. Hmmm.

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thank you Zahymaka, 2C sure i don't know you but i know what youre saying. You don't have to be touchy i don't have to know you to know what youre writing.

I am not judging you, you placed a judgement that true love does not exist, i simply disagreed with you. Your response however though tells a lot about either who you are or a reflection of what you have experienced.

Zahymaka has put it better than i have, and i agree with him. When you keep smarting and snapping at harmless comments like that, remember it takes two to tango.

True love exists, only reorientate yourself for better reception!

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miss 2cantango you sound as though you distrust all men -- instinctively. When you disrust the person you're having a relationship with, the other person senses it -- don't ask me how, just know it happens. You need to get more trusting. Love is like investing -- what you put in is what you get out.

Love begins to die when one partner for some reason decides h/she's more loved or deserves more attention. After some time, the second partner catches on and "retaliates" causing some "retaliation" from the first and on it goes until you have two virtual strangers who have no love for each other.

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@nicetohave:

whatever. . . you don't know me so you can't pass judgement. This thread isn't about what you look for in yourself, it's about what you look for in a partner, I haven't found a man who can love in it's purest form, and if you think that's because I am not capable of loving like that, well you're totaly wrong. Those who know me, know what I am made of and know what I am capable of giving.

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If pure, genuine love is unattainable and unrealistic, and my expectation that it should exist is a fault in me. . . well that speaks volumes.

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A quick-thinking individual who doesn't consider dicussions of matters of the heart "banal."

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Yes 2C, i am inclined to agree with whoknoxluv. If you are convinced what you are looking for doesnt exist then it only means it is not a realistic desire, hence you should lay it aside. If however your statement is based on the fact that you have not searched enough or you have been discouraged by long term search then get in touch with him since he is offering to help.

Again if you insist what you looking for doesnt exist, the fault is in you not what youre looking for as youre loking for the unattainable.

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i want a girl or a boy that can keep up with me !

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[bosoms] they don't turn me on. I prefer a strong-willed woman who can stay clear-headed in times of difficulty. Most important, she should love me -- for me.

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2 MUCH 2 LESS!!

2 much love, she takes you for granted,

2 less, and she's soon gone like the morning dew.

2 much of riches, her expenses increases,

2 less finances, your status decreases.

2 much talking, 2 much familiarity, less originality,

2 less talking and soon you become strangers.

2 much seeing each other, she might grow bored,

2 less of eye to eye, another eye takes your place.

2 much patience, and you'll look silly,

2 less is impatient and she's irritated.

2 much of this,

2 less of that

Indeed, this boy girl thing is not so easy

ohai?

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I have learned that what I am looking for doesn't exist.

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A woman with a dream worth pursuing and a loyal, kind, understanding heart.

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a man that willl love me for me , and will be there through the good and the bad, the highs and the lows

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Someone who accepts me throughout all my ugly and not-so-ugly moods and who isn't ashamed to be seen with me.

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to love and to cherish me in sickness and in health

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