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When Do You Give Up?

I had a heated argument with my bestfriend recently over the issue of break ups. In her opinion I didn't fight enough for the one I love and surrendered to early reason why another girl came into the picture. She thinks I was supposed to denude myself of every pride and dignity to show how much I really loved my guy.

Well I on the other hand thought is was pathetic to keep running after someone who has told you NO after you told him repeatedly how you'd love to be with him. I am a proud person, I know and I am not always to voice out my feelings but I am not going to lose and annul myself because I want a boy to love me.

House what do you think? Supposedly you broke up with your boyfriend/girlfriend and you still loved him/her, how far would you go to get him/her back?

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Sometimes one just has to let go.

Move on to better things in life and don't get tied down with someone who doesn't appreciate you.

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Most times a man gives up first. That is what a lot of women don't understand. Hence his weird behaviour of not calling as often and other antics because in his head he is done but waiting on you to get it and do the break up.

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Jesus, @ the sly, u r the epitome of a bonafide stalker!!!!lol. it goes both ways, u can always still convince a woman after she says no at first; on the other hand , u can almost never convince a man after he's said no. he'll think u crazy. happenned to me. this gal i been liking for months, that used to curse the poo outta me, after we hooked now is the one thats going crazy ova me.

then there was this other gal in the past that insisted we dated, scared the poo outta me and i bounced. so its vice versa.

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Pride has got nothing to do with giving up on a relationship. If there are things that need fixing fix it if there needs to be apologies make em. Don't throw ur hands up n say o well.

That said I would consider it 'foolish' to try to hang on to someone who has categorically said NO. Relationship is an agreement and two must continue to agree for it to survive. If some1 chooses to go south and the other north the relationship ends.

If the guy said I don't want to be wit u I want to b wit this other person then don't sweat it and stop making references to ur pride doesn't do u any good.

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some ppl can love to death some can love to reason.

The ones that love to reason give up immediately, the ones that love to death do everything humanly possible to with the ex back. ask yourself which u belong to ,

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they dnt want u, they dnt want u, u dnt need to even think about trying to get them back. its worthless.

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I personally would never force myself on any dude. . .I believe if a dude wanna be with another woman rather than with me. . .then mahnnn. . .he ain't worth it. . .

A guy who's best for you. . .would never place another woman/girl above you. . .

So I'll rather let him go and not waste time hanging on like some desperate pony. . .

They might call it pride. . .but I call it self respect!

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Well for me, if a girl whom I love tells me its over, I would accept her decision (it might hurt me though) and move on with my life.

It would be foolish to force yourself on someone who has already made up his/her mind on you.

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About your confession that you're a proud person. If you must know, pride takes you nowhere who knows, maybe its because of your pride that your lover left you as a lady, you should be submissive to the man you choose to give your heart regardless of his status; and believe me, if you do that, he would feel secure and cherish you.

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If the break up was a result of something i did, i would put pride aside and do my best to fix things, but as the other party has stated that there's no hope, i would give it some time, and really try and if i get the same response, i'd let sleeping dogs be.

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You need to lose your proudness else u might lose better guys.

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