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When Female Dates Say I ' I've A Boy Friend' Is It Just To Feel Tech?

I spent a greater part of my last 3/4 of last year searching for a girl friend. Prior to now i've spent like 4years without any serious relationship. But what amazed me throughout my search period was the almost always same replies i got from the ladies, As if all planned, each date always ended with ; please i've a boyfriend, but i'll cherish we kinda get real close, as par become very good friends, hope this doesn't affect our relationship, And blur blur blur, :

luckily i had strong enough belief to hang on to one of them, we got real close, & spent the greater part of the last 2 months of last year together, What really baffles me here is that, despite like the other girls, she also told me she had a boyfriend, And till date, we've been to places, spent time together, i've met most of her friends, But i've not for once seen the boyfriend, His pics nor his calls & text messages, , At first i never wanted this to bother me, but i'm kinda begining to feel a bit insecure each time i think of the ghost boyfriend that could surface anytime! Though we've not slept, but we've actually had romantic emotional moments, . I've never asked her about the supposed boyfriend ever since, I need your advice pals, ? Was this i kinda test or could it be real?

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Ladies are confusing creatures. You may never know why she said she has a boyfriend. She may have said because of the following reasons: (1) she actually has a boyfriend; (2) she does not have a boyfriend but is presenting herself as someone who is sought after by a guy; (3) she is using it as a barrier to prevent you from getting close to her -- she doesn't like you; (4) she actually likes you a lot and thinks saying she has a boyfriend will make you jealous, which will make you pursue her more aggressively; (4) I have even gotten word that ladies use it as a ruse to make prospective men offer them money to buy them out of their existing relationships; and many more. Bottom line, you will have a headache if you are trying to figure out her reasons for saying she has a boyfriend while still somewhat emotionally connecting with you.

Keep it real with her, tell her your intentions, and clarify this boyfriend issue -- communication is key. You may even ask her you will move on if she really has a boyfriend, portraying that you don't want to invest your emotion and time into a lady who is involved, or that you don't want to destroy an existing relationship.

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you know when a girl says she has a BF, it means she has a BF or she dosen't want to date you. Either way, that's a nice way to say 'NO'.

It dosen't even make sense to me when a guy goes after a girl with a BF. It meanse he has no respect for relationships and he'll probably make a bad Bf.

So you guys shd just get the whole idea of a girl using that excuse to raise her value or attractiveness or those other silly things you guys think out of your head!

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nice one but~

Do you believe our emotions are upredictably erratic?

You could just wake up one morning and find that you feel nuttin for him anymore~

do you also believe that if sex can be a gateway to unlock emotions then our emotions really stand grounded on physical forms

now don't you really believe having just a bf~ and not an husband~ shudn't stop a lady from exploring her world further if HE can make her fantansies become more real?

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On the contrary. . .it's the emotional/mental stuff that keeps people bond. Without some form of rules (by one's standard) then be prepared to be dropped like a hot potato at any moment's notice.

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You are an option not a definitive.

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I totally agree with everything Ravenzord has said. Rave, you obviously understand ladies!

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It's true that some girls tell you're they're dating s'mun even if they're not,prolly cos they want to put up defenses so you don't get too close, or cos they don't want you to think they've been waiting for you all their lives, maybe they think their being taken would increase their attractiveness. . .I'm not female so I can only hazard a guess as to why they do the things they do. Since you say you and this girl have been having close moments then she obviously likes you, whether there's a boyfriend or not. Talk to her, bring up your feelings,discuss the boyfriend issue. It's better to know where you stand than to keep floating. Besta luck.

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I appreciate your advice ravendorf., you guys are making nairaland da bomb, Thank u all

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