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When Is It Love?

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Ok, I just want to ask a question that's been confusing me for a long time. There are often these conditions which are attached to true love, what it should do and what it should'nt do. The way I see it , the only type of perfect love is that which God loves us with. But there's one problem. God is . . . God. And we are just puny humans who mess up in the most terrible ways a lot of the time.

So when you hear ;

" If a guy/girl loves you, he will wait for you "

Or

"If a guy/girl loves you, he will never cheat on you"

Or

"If a guy/ girl loves you, he will never do something to hurt you intentionally"

Some people are brought up in violent environments and thus, their idea of love is twisted and their way of expressing it is just not what a "normal" person is used to. But that does't mean they aren't in love, does it?

What if someone is excessively selfish and they just are not used to the idea of looking after anyone's interests but theirs due to their background? Falling in love wont CHANGE their character's automatically, will it? If anything it makes them more selfish because they may want to play the field and keep the one they want waiting in the wings but intentionally hurting them in the process.

I just wonder a lot of the time because if someone was in that type of relationship, the general consensus would be "Get rid of him/ her! " or " Kick him to the curb! " as I hear a lot of people say on this forum. So when exactly does it end? I hope I've made sense but I'm just really confused about this because it seems as though everyone has their own definition of love these days.

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Actions and Motive.

I just Love to understand why people do certain things. It's not always about what they do, but also about Why - For me.

I think cheating is a weakness/flaw. Inability to handle responsibility or be satisfied and stick with what You have, Plus, lack of courage to leave a particular person [if You think You aren't coping] before bringing another person in.

No one can change anyone . . . .Change comes from within.

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I have no intentions of doing such. Lol. Altering someone never works , i know.

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That isnt what my question is about and someone in 'lust' can ignore the needs of other important family members, to meet that of the needs of a girl.

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Love is a strong bond btw 2 people who appreciates,cherish,understands and accept each other d way they are.U knw ur lv when he or she occupies d centre stage of ur mind.

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A man is said to be in love when he can ignore the needs of his mother, father, siblings & friends just to meet that of a girl. Any other expression less than this is 'lust'

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