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When You're On A Break Is It Ok To Sleep With Someone Else?

When on a break from your partner... what are the rules?

I was watching an episode of US sitcom F.R.I.E.N.D.S. One of the characters (Ross), while on a break form his relationship from another (Rachel), had sex with another woman.

That act cost him the relationship but was he not within his right (since he was on a break) to explore other women.

Does it make a difference depending on which partner - male or female partakes in exploration?

Please share your thoughts and ideas...

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To me, i don't do such thingz nd to my point of view if i said anyfhn like that that meanz wat am tryin 2 say ix dat ''i need 2 move on my own/we shld let go of dix relationship am done wif it''

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A break means there is no relationship in the interim right. So yes you are free to find a squeeze on the side to fill the gap if needs be. Depending on whether you are still in love with the former then you may be a bit more sensitive and communicate it to him/her. But still you are under no form of pressure to update people on your relationship status when they are not in your life.

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For there to a break at all shows that d love has broken.

So wats d fuss?

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a break means uncommitted to whatever work/thing you where doing or supposed to be doing

thats the reason why your boss cant count the lauch/tea break has part of the production time

the same when you have an annual leave your are on a break

i think when one decide to have a break ask the person if s/he means his/her own defination of break or the actually meaning of having a break

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YES, even if u re in a relationship u re also free 2 cheat on ur partner.

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normally it should be ok to meet other people.(important word here is "normally"")

the problem here is that some people will ask for these so called "breaks" in order to make you miss them and realize that you care for them more than you like to show etc BUT it sometimes backfire on their asses and the partner gladly go and deep his stick where its cool and inviting.

while going on "break", people should tell their partner EXACTLY what the rules of that "break" are i. e. if we can date, shaag, flirt openly in front of friends etc

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I was just thinking about this topic!

The way see it is that a break is taken because one or both parties feel that they need some time apart to reflect and evaluate for the SAKE of the relationship. How can you do that if you are in bed with someone else? If you are thinking about exploring new territory then you may as well call it a day with your partner.

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@Topic,

Break ke? Na primary school?

Its either you're in or you're out.

If a girl i'm dating decides to take a break instead of sorting things out with me, dat break go tire am ooo.

I'm not trying to be harsh or something, but whats the point?

When will it last? A week? A month or 3 months?

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sorry but, is this thread about "a break from a relationship or marriage"?

kinda getting confused here

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A break is taking a breather from ur partner, there's no guarrantee that ure coming back together.

If its a "break" that is running into months and ure not sure about how you feel for your somewhat ex, why is it wrong to give someone else a chance?

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What is the break for, you are either together or you are not, I just don't get this whole break thing!

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It's called a break because both parties still have it at the back of their minds that there is a possiblity of getting back together after the break is over. Sleeping around during the break ultimately compromises the essence of the break. The break is supposed to help view your relationship from an outsider's perspective. A period of deep reflection to help you determine what went wrong and things you feel you can do to make it right. Sleeping around during that time will definitely cause more harm than good and so it should not be done.

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my ex once told me he tot we shud go on a break and i was like do i look like a snack i mean relationships are like marriage- befores u know tryin to check if it would actually work out  that sort of tin  i neva do understand d break because most relationships i know dat go gor break never resume from those breaks some get promoted others get demoted.so ur bobo suggest u shud go for break dont bother about that relationship wat is it dat u pple cant settle that he tinks going on a break is d solution, sis delete dat number, go shoppin and get a new nick name start hangin out more meet new friends and move on i advise.if he wants u bak he will come toastin all over sometimes i wonder wat men think they are? they want abreak i mean sistas in the house how humiliating are u some kind of pest or wat?

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my ex once told me he tot we shud go on a break and i was like do i look like a snack i mean relationships are like marriage- befores u know tryin to check if it would actually work out that sort of tin i neva do understand d break because most relationships i know dat go gor break never resume from those breaks some get promoted others get demoted.so ur bobo suggest u shud go for break dont bother about that relationship wat is it dat u pple cant settle that he tinks going on a break is d solution, sis delete dat number, go shoppin and get a new nick name start hangin out more meet new friends and move on i advise.if he wants u bak he will come toastin all over sometimes i wonder wat men think they are? they want abreak i mean sistas in the house how humiliating are u some kind of pest or wat?

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Break! Well, it depends on what a break means to the parties involved. A break to me means no more relationship. If that is it, then each one is free to pursue his/her dream independent of the other. Nevertheless, one can not rule out the possibility of reconciliation. So if they eventually come together later, it shouldnt look as if they had a short break to resume later but that somehow, fortune or love or whatever has brought them together again. Nevertheless, i think a break shouldnt be encouraged, when the partners still want each other because a little crack will soon enlarge to a big hole and later a gulf between them.

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'Break' is just a break. Rest and treat yourself. Don't get involve with nobody else. It is OK to have friends during that time but be careful not to mess up.

A 'break' can strengthen your relationship with your partner if you guys get back together.

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What is the BIG DEAL about Sleeping around? Is it that compulsory?

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HMM You shouldn't even sleep with that your so called "partner" when not on your so called "break" let alone sleeping with anyother person when on the silly break.

YOU SHOULD ONLY SLEEP WITH YOUR HUSBAND OR WITH YOUR WIFE.

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Why a brake. Lovers never get tired of each other.

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yeah i think so but its kinda rong but its called BREAK

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of course its okay..wheres the rule that says it isnt..but thats just my opinion

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da fact dat u're on a break doesn't mean it's over !!!!

if ma boyfriend went around sleeping wit other gals while we were on break i would definetely break up wit him 4 gud

whatever might av caused us 2 take a break doesn't come anywhere as close as wht he has done it wld definetely be OVER

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when ur on a break it means it's OVER. so yes, it could mean sleeping with someone else.

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I really do believe in breaks as long as that person ain't my husband. U have a choice of having sex with ur boyfriends but when u get married it's like a must do and that's when u don't need a break whatsoever cos there's a bond almost like a divine bond in there. Don't get me wrong but as long as I'm not committed to any man, I can take breaks here and there just to explore for myself and my future.

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There shouldn't be a word called break in a relationship that is built on the foundation of true love. If there is a rift or disagreement it should be settled or sorted out. Giving each other a break is not true love. If I truly love my babe, there will be nothing like a break becos whenever we have problem it must be settled before day[b] breaks[/b].

If there is break between us, that means separation and I will definitely go out there looking for someone else that does not believe in the word break.

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I don't believe there is anything called "taking a break" in a relationship. Once u guys are not calling urself bf and gf any more, then u guys are free to do anything u want.

There is nothing like taking a break, but u guys are breaking up.

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The simple answer to your question is YES

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this should be a personal question, would you mind if sleeps around while you are on break and you don't? If you don't mind then break up you both fooling yourselves

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Basically it should be discussed between the guy and the girl, even though when you hear "I think we should take a break" you know definately something's going wrong

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If someone's on a 'break' from a relationship and decides to have sex with someone else then he/she she should as well go on a permanent vacation

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i don't support sex without love so NO

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maybe...maybe not... u choose

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i dont really believe in going for a break in a relationship.when im in a relationship,i no im in one and what ever issue that need adjustment or if theres need for correction,we sit and talk heart to heart and not a break.for me going on break in a relationship is indirectly saying im fade up with the whole thing.moreover when oyu go on break,you might meet someone you like and wouldnt want to come back.if you have a nice thing on for you,dont ever let it go or else someone out there will take from oyu and might even cherish it better than you.

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word! Let him/her know if u still want to continue with the relationship, if it's a negative, by all means sleep with who ever shows up but not when you guyz are still figuring yourselves out.

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Break is not a green light to sleep around. Break is when you stop and re-evaluate the relationship, not to start something with someone new.

No, it's not ok to sleep with someone else while on break unless it's discussed. As in: So, if we're on break, that's saying that I may do as I please with other women/men?

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