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Where Are The Quality Single Nigerian Men Hiding?

Maybe it is just me, but on my side of the world( USA) it seems that these days there are a lack of single, quality, honest Nigerian men out there!! A lot of men will say the same for us women as well!!!  The problem seems to be that there is not a lack of quantity these days, but truly of quality.  Maybe I am looking in the wrong place, but my question is where are they hiding, or do they no longer exist!! Will one have to settle in 2010?  Lets get the dialogue started!

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"Yall still on this sh1t?¿¿" Guys, but is it mandatory to marry ur country girls includin d one i observed here wit silly attitude to d extent dat she can't even get any dude 4 herself as big as america is?. . . . . . . . . . Hmm! IMPORTIN SOMEONE? dat word is like a pride nd sounds so disgustin to me nd she's feelin like she's on top of d world in america while i got someone in macon, GA right now who as already live in america almost her age moreso if i feel like movin to america today b4 November i'll be there so wats d big deal like u r in paradise nd u keep flauntin 4 guys here wit ur crazy IMPORTIN word, is dat hw cheat nigerian guys is?. . . . . "Poster, abeg sidon make i see who dey waka" nd i guess u aint worth it in and out, if u are then there'll be nigerian guys knockin at ur door 4 serious relationship right there.

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I am not so rude that I would ignore you, I live 95 north, Philly, Philly- Philadelphia ( the so called city of brotherly love)!!

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^^^ If you don't mind me asking this question, what part of East Coast do you reside?!

You can choose to ignore, but I would definitely love if you respond.

Honestly, the consensus here and your likelihood of finding a 'Quality' Naija man in the East should be high.

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@LADYJ, I LIKE UR COURAGE TO SPEAK UR MIND,

I LIKE THE CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM,

THE BIGEST ROOM IN OUR LIFE IS ALWAYS THE ROOM FOR SELF IMPROVEMENT

LETS GIVE ROOM FOR IT, WE L GET THEIR,, ALL THE BEST.

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na2day I agree with ur point of view and that is y many marriages are collapsing these days . in the movie coming to america , eddy murphy left his wealthy kingdom to look for a woman that will love him for who he is and not what he has but many naija ladies miss the point by going into a relationship because of what a man has . lets assume a lady goes into a relationship with a man and he loses his job , I guess the woman will have to leave the man since what she saw at the beginning is no longer there . the only thing that keeps a relationship going in very hard time is real love . however , I must say that many nigerian men would love to spoil their woman but economic situation is not letting them . I know nigerian men are still the best despite the odds .

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Alright. I rest my case.

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like every other nigeiran girl, u easily miss the point of an argument, no one said she cant afford it, after all she was alive b4 she met her man but how easily they transfer responsibilities to the man is what i am talking about. i need not go very far, plz go dig up nl threads and read what ur fellow nigerian girls say here, a common line is, "are u not a man?" or "may be she wants to know that u can take care of her when u guys get married" etc. and these are educated girls that worked their butts off in school to get an education oooo. i always like to remind them of the good ol' adage, "u can't eat ur cake and have it".  why not take a survey and ask how many nigerian girls here take their man out and pay for it lets see. it is common knowledge on nl that alot of girls say they want men with "bentleys" when they dont have a bicycle tire to their name.  i can give u stories and experiences i had in chicago, houston and dallas easily. u might be different but certainly u need to open a clinic for ur sisters

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Interesting thread.

Why are people vexing about the poster preferring a guy who's also in the States as she is? It's reasonable and a personal preference.

@topic, I dunno but Good luck!

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Hey go for it, u never know!! I am glad my thread could be of services to some people on here! lol

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@Osisi,

I am a Nigerian in USA kinda new in America, Less than 3yrs. I am in my late 20's and I am looking for cool Nigerian girl who are doing very good for herself. I wont mind a medical doctor or a Pharmacist too.

I am a working professional and make six figures so I need someone in my social status too maybe a 24-27yr old Nigerian in America would be cool. If she was born here, She needs to identify with my Nigerian culture since I am still very Nigerian.

please I am not needing a girl for papers I am arranging my own stuff by myself.

Sorry ladyjide for hijacking your thread.

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Exactly at least you understand - it is a personal choice, and if someone choices other wise- It is not the end of the world,

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Marrying someone in Nigeria has it's gripes and all. It is all a personal choice. Not everyone wants to marry someone and bring them here

For one the issue of if they married the said girl/guy for real or just because they want to come over. These things aren't that black and white jare

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How is he to become my husband when i cant even get to know him because he lives thousands of miles away.  

Nothing stops that when the time comes, but I need to get to know the person I am dating before that happens, and telephone calls and once a 6 month visits just wont do for me!!!

 You need a man YET you want it all on your own terms?  I  think that is where you are mis informed- I do not need a man- as I do not think I have ever had a problem getting one of those, and since when cant you get a mate on your own terms??

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I was at a wedding recently

This man was seriously searching for single men for his daughter in med school.

Meanwhile the groom at this wedding was imported straight from Naija for this American born Naija girl

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How condescending!

Is there some special advantage attached to you because you live in the US

Rubbish!

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lol i've experienced it myself. i no dey mind them at all.

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I say no mind am

let her do yanga now

By the time she clocks 30 with no serious man in sight ,she'll change by force.

If you see how these American born Naija girls  and their parents rushed some single guys who came from Naija for  a kporakpo convention fear go catch you.

Men were seriously trying to introduce their daughters.

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1. I am not sure what Nigerian women with Us passports do as I can only speak for myself-- I have never have had anyone date me for citizenship yet- and it hasnt even crossed my mind per say-- If i dated a guy who lived here but was not a US citizen is not a problem, I am just not going to go to Nigeria to look for a date- what about that is so hard to understand,

2.I am not interested in importing a husband, No need to explain anything there--- I am glad for your friends and congrats on their marriages, It is just not what I am in to, or going to do. I need time with my mate and I can not get that when we are thousands of miles apart.

I guess I am not that serious or desperate yet,

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lol it might interest you to note that she's a US citizen. The way many of you think impulsively and without much rational is amazing.

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I guess you live in Nigeria- as well, Your response is expected!

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Don't mind them

a lot of them are approaching early 30's with no prospects

By the time they wake up at 35,they will be looking for a Mexican and they won't find

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^^ Sorry guy- I am no longer looking right now, but maybe someone else will see this!

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Wy all diz utimate search wen I'm here,

I've got all u need n can take any of u as a wife if u re hapi to accept me as i am.

I'm a Nigerian born guy, i can satisfy all ur desire en i'm ready anytime u want. Send me a Mail: deblla@yahoo.com

, Tanx dear

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i really don't dig long distance relationship too i meant.

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Yeah! U r right about dat nd i really dig long distance too but there are alot of nigerian guys in d united states nd i also got some friendz nd families dat can hook u up, hangin wit a nigerian guy in d states aint a big deal only if they happens to be d kind of quality guys u want so its complicated 4 now but u can stil give a trial.

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Because that is where I live currently! I can not date a man that lives thousands of miles away- it is not realistic~

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Ok point well taken brother!

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In united states? Why don't you wanna live wit him right here in nigeria?

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Ladyj, well as a matter of fact no qualify nigerian women excludin those ones abroad dat as already make some money dat r only lookin 4 true love but as far as nigeria is concern, NO MONEY NO HONEY lol dats nigerian girls motto so i don't need to bother openin ma own thread askin dat kinda question cos ppl do pretend here as a qualify nigerian men/women but in real life they're foul lol

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(*¿*) well if someone here tryna tell me in an indirect way she's the right girl then i disagree. Gbam!!!

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I understand your dilemma----so I dare you to start your own thread- asking where are the quality Nigerian ladies hiding and lets see your responses!

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Ladyj, yeah! u r right in some kind of ways but as a nigerian guy also, i have deal wit some of 'em nd to call a spade a spade, 85% of naija ladies are after money nd b4 u can meet d right girl dat is not after wat u got then u wil hook urself up wit an uptown girl, and if she fall in love her parents won't let dat rltnship grow nd later end it wit u jus because u r from downtown or they find out dat u r not from a good nd wealthy background etc. . . . . Thats nigerian stup1d mentality for u and i aint blamin those naija material girls tho cos d situation nd economic of dis country is not helpin matters.

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Because they are picking the wrong girls,

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Why dudes keep complainin dat nigerian girls r too materialize? So obsessed wit money. Na poverty? Make una change o! cos dis is jus like a bad records.

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@Ladyjide , u sound nice . we could talk if you don't mind . my number is 08023095262

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@Ladyjide I don't mean all ladies just most naija babes beside what if I am honest , hard working , caring , Godly, ambitious  etc what next ?

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I would like to disagree when it comes to my own self--show me ambition, honesty, and a hardworking man--- and then I shall fall in love,

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many nigerian babes don't consider us good enough because most naija ladies are money consious so they really don't get to meet the good guys . the principle is no money no love

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^

No way jose, drama free zone.

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Away from overly sensitve, overly independeny lady jide. Who want palaver and drama?

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>>> back to d crib <<<

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@Ladyjide,

Wen she is prepared.

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funkybaby, Can I have your mail add?

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well i have red through and i agree with the poster. for me that travels a lot i find the problem to be that we men in Nigeria take u ladies that are outside the shores as too western like in dressing and thinking and most of us men cant match that ,that is why we tend to run away from u babes but if we really ask this question are u people real? as in behavior and others well u babes should answer the question. u marry a babe from abroad first u have to match her dressing behavior and others then work too, the way u babes take men that grew up at home as second class men to the ones that were born abroad. u have to show us that u babes can do what our mothers at home do to their husbands that's being submissive and respecting then u will see the changes too. we are here and expecting good Nigerian girls living outside

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Just wish I'm qualified for screening.

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Wish you the best poster.

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