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Which Is True Among The Two? I Am Confused!

I really don't know where to start.

I met one before the other, started dating him, but along the way, we broke up, but we remained friends and I like him a lot. The most amazing thing about him is that He understands me better, He reads me, He knows when am happy or sad or when something is wrong with me, he knows what I like and what I don't like. I can feel it, I know he still loves me especially when we talk, sometimes, we quarrel but we make it up fast, although we are far from each other, most communication is made on phone and on the internet.He wants me back, He wants to marry me too although not too soon.I really don't understand my feelings about him, It seems I love him but I don't even know, I feel like being with him. He is from another tribe, he is a christian but he is not religious or let me say spiritual, a christian by name and he is the first son of the family with so many responsibilities.

The second guy is out of the Country, He is cool and nice, I like him too, He doesn't understand me, we argue a lot but we tend to settle it fast.He comes home once in a while to Nigeria, so I get to see him, but anytime we talk, He is more interested in sexual things, I mean, talking about sex and all and he has so many rules and he wants me to obey them and always do what he wants, he never considers what I want.I think or let me say I know he loves me and I love him too.He wants to marry me and wants me to come meet him out of the country soon. He is nice, but he doesn't respect my wishes.When I talk, He says am selfish because I don't want to do his wish but He is not doing mine.we are of same tribe, He is a christian and also he doesn't have responsibilities.

Seriously, I am confused, IS it possible to love two men at a time? Which one is love? I don't know.

Please, Help me out.

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pray, answers are sometimes divine

but then use no need to be in a hurry

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Please think long and hard before you choose. If you choose the first guy you will prob. live a life full of fun and excitement and fullfillment. It appears that he compliments you well.

The second guy wants a slave for a wife and if you have a free thinking mind they you will die slowly each day in that house and once he marries you he will prob. start to hit you to make you conform. He already bitches that you dont do as you are told, now it is just warnings but the minute he gets you away from family and Nigeria he will beat you into submission.

Please choose carefully marriage is for the long haul and dont take this lightly.

If the second guy really loved you then he would respect your voice, thoughts and feelings and take those into account. Selfishness is not love.

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I think you already know what you want, you just don't wanna accept it.

I think the one in the US is BS-ing! if u know what I mean, pls stop wasting ur time ,

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Its 100% sure that d one abroad will end up at having u as a sexual satisfactory mate.

i cant advice u to even think of him any longe. close this issue pls

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Thank Y'all

I have not decided which one to choose yet, but I think I will give it some time to do that, Maybe along the line, I can stick with the true guy, but I still communicate with them both.

I still need some advice from Y'all, especially those with a sincere heart not those who are here just to make fun of ME.

Thanks Again.

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[color=#000099][/color]oh girl, relax and get a good time off thinking about them.give yourself a break. don't rush into marriage. give yourself time and you will know what your heart really wants. time will tell which is true among the two. peace out

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prophet and prophetiess u guys shud allow dat lady to decide 4 her self who to go after.

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Some people are looking for one person to love. and here is someone loving two people at once. life is a mystery.

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None is true.

Believe me

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Thank Y'all for your contribution!

To those that gave their hearty advice, I appreciate

and to those that dint use their no 6 before they contributed, I hail oh.

Thank you!

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poster from ur post u already know wat u want

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@moyola ,its true na.  Better be alone than to live at half throttle

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when a woman loves a man and desire monogamous union with him,she should marry him if her heart calls her to.A marriage to a man who would silence her voice is a life in bondage.

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Free woman?? Jeez what are u talking about. Consequences? Now you are getting paranoid. . Being a realist means not being naive and silly. If a guy left her, why shd she want him back. Cos he understands her? Puh . . . leez!!!!

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Is being a realist a.k.a being a free woman?If yes can you stomach the consequence?

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@ Hollandis: Got me!! I dont know and am not intrested in knowing. I pride myself in being a realist so I dont deceive myself with stuffs like that. Thats what u guys want abi? Lover girls. Too bad I aint one. So tell me, love expert, what will you advise her to do??

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@ Poster U really need to think smartly. I hope the one abroad is not based in London cos if he is u better stick with the one in Nigeria cos Nigerian based London guys aint poo!!

Seems like you know what you want but the prospect of being a Jand boys' girlfriend is appealing 2 u. If the Nigerian one did not hurt you or mess up big time then you may wanna stick with him.

As some very sensible ppl have mentioned already- dont let material "prospects" cloud your judgement (note that i put the "prospects" in quote cos he may even be a broke Bottom niggar that cant offer you much- anyone can live in London these days- that dont mean they are rich)

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u knw wtchu want dear!

dont be enticed to d fact dat d other guy is based abroad n despite what he does or how he treats u, you'd want to go for him. Beta go 4 d guy u'd enjoy ur life with. . . . .

well said hollandis!!

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It might just be "Gold platted"

I think her issue is a matter of WHAT SHE FEELS, she only mentioned that she loves ONE of the the guyz particular . . .The other . .She doesn't understand becos she like being around/ talking etc to this guy.

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BLA BLA BLA

dishonest advice

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The 1st guy is the 1 you should go for. The one abroad seems too selfish. If the 1st guy loves you and since you love him, just give it time, you'll find your way back to each other.

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U may wish to joing the one abroad 'n' cee the consequence since your heart is already with him. By the time he turn you to his house maid you wil know your level but might be too late to come back to mr.right.i don't know why some ladies can't make a very simple decision by themself. mumu

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loving two pple at a time is flirty ooooooo.abeg stay with one!

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Well some men never listen either. But i have to agree that she knows where her heart is, but refuses to admit it. Its too bad on her part.

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Well only you know him better than we do. But going from what you said. I say forget about the second one. He seems very selfish and irresponsible. Never marry anyone out of pity. please go with your heart on this one. Because marriage is a lifetime thing, not something to take lightly.

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Simply becuzz you decided to choose gold instead of toad?

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Dump the one abroad. Must he start using you as a punching bag before you understand? Damn!

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Yes o there are a few elders left in nairaland.May she not reject the advice of the elders and consult young men and women

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