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I have a boyfriend whom i have dated for almost 3 years now and i actually like him alot cos he is caring but the age difference between us is really far and he is from a place i think my parents will disapprove. He has asked me to marry him but there is this case of him not having a job at the moment, though he says he is working on some things but i dont see any result.

And there is this other guy who i met on the internet about 4 years ago and we have always been friends and we keep in touch though he expressed interests in me but i didnt actually agree to it cos i have not met him and i felt internet dating is crap.

Early last year the second guy came in to the country and he is really cool and he is seriously asking me to marry him but i dont know what to do with my boyfriend cos we are still dating. I actually dont know which of them i love. I wish i could just pick one out of both of them. please i need advice.

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so which one u later get marry to btw them?

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So u'r telling me it's better to eat rubbish and not to know, just cuz it's cheaper? Well honestly now, I prefer to have the information that what i eat is rubbish and correct it! don't tell me that u'd better not watch tv cuz u see there that you don't live in a safe world, so u'd rather not use the information and live in a fantasy! if u get my point

And what about the other 20%? If you'd have told me that 99% of the girls turn out to be heartbroken, then yes, maybe that's not a chance to take; but 20% seems a lot to me! Did u ever hear about the saying: "no risk no win"? How small are the chances to win the jackpot?? I'm telling you - a lot less than 20% and there are millions of people who still gamble and guess what? Some actually win! S as long as there is a chance to be successful, then I'd always say go for it! Life itself is a risk. It all depends on how wise and balanced you are!

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[s]white nkem, [/s]

i'm realy suprise that girls like u can give their fellow girls such a bad advice. if u had a brother and his girlfriend jilts him over another guy, how would feel.  joyce said that she realy did not love him 'HABA", and dated him 4 3yrs ,was this before she agreed going out with him or after . and was it before she agreed to flite with the other guy. where i come from there is this saying that, it is better for u not eat outside or else u will find out wat u are eating at home is rubbish . joyce has eating out and now realises that she actually do not her guy. how sad.

white Nkem, simply because u met ur guy on d internet, doesnt mean that internet dateing works. Go and check the statistics ,u will find out how many relationship has actually worked through the internet. only then will u know dat 80% are heart broken,u better wake up and realise that all that glitters is not gold.

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Please, don't make me laugh! Even when I was 16 (with no qualification) I still found a job! If you want work, you get work! If you say you won't accept any job that pays less than so so amount and it only requires to do very easy things, then my friend, you have a problem! It's not his fault?!?! You must be kidding! Then who's fault is it? Don't tell me, I know, it's, the destiny!!! Oh give me a break. The guy sounds so irresponsible and you so take his side!

Well you don't believe in it cuz it never happened to you!! That doesn't mean it doesn't work for anyone! But it's like that old proverb: if the fox can't get to the grapes, it'll just say 'they were sour anyway!'. Actually I am happily married now and I met my hubby online, so please, next time refrain yourself from generalizing!

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i beliveu are being selfish and unfair o ur firt guy. i dnt think u deserve him at all. simply because he has no job,is it fault that things are not working out 4 him. he migth be trying but things may not be working out 4 him.

secoundly, i don't even belive in internet relationship. they don't work.i know some cases when the guy comes down and just take advantage the girl.

my girl u need to be carefull befoe u make up ur mind.

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Absolutely correct. My dear! Its very very true to find a love online and for both of you to take it to the next level, am a living witness

From all indications, you're going ahead with this[b] internet guy[/b]. Do not relent.

As for the first guy, just like Cute-Bottom said, let him know in a polite and smooth manner that he has to let you go. No hard feelings

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I read all the responses and thanks, i really do appreciate them, firstly the first guy lied about his age cos i remember when i met him and i asked him he said he was 28 which was true and i found out much much later that he was older than that. i have never really loved him and he always knew that, though i felt with time i would grow to love him. I've also tried to break the relationship several times but he wont let go. Its not like am just seeing all the negative sides in the relationship but i've known all along that it was going to work and i've always try to let go.

As for the internet guy, i've met him and some members of his family cos they live close to me and they are kool people, i like them and i think they like me too. I really appreciate your responses but i still have to think real hard so i dont make a mistake i would regret much later in life.

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Honey , pls be honest ,who do u actually have in mind? And why?

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