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Who Is A Husband Material?

More often than not, we hear guys label girls as "Wife Material".

But such allusions are seldom heard about men

I may try to define "Wife Material" in what i understand it to mean.

I guess a girl who is of marriageable age, well mannered, homely, probably working class (for some dudes like moi),

Affectionate and have tis motherly disposition, attentive to your needs and has a domestic disposition that equals none.

And so much more that i may not readily recall.

But i wonder whether guys fit into this definition in a masculine way.

Babes, who is a "Husband Material"? And what qualities a guy to be labeled as such?

Not excluding the bobos,

Guys, define your personality of a "Wife material"?

I hope i ain't asking too much. . . . .

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this is a very important question for women who are looking for husbands.

it is not that easy getting husband these days!

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A few on the list require reciprocal behavior. Remember, to whom much is given, all is expected.

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Sistawoman

You bar is too high

A lot of babes can't leverage on it

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no b only ogogoro sef. na kankandoro sandwiched with weed

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You are correct this is a hindsight list. I made my list after my first husband before my current.

If I had been schooled before by older wiser women I would have had this from the start and would have married one time.

I am not saying that the man should come with millions of dollars; I am just saying he should be where I am. I date older than me and have always dated older than me. Therefore I feel like if I have accomplished things in my life so should he. And if he has not then he is not the type of man i want or need. I am way beyond my days of looking at the potential. I am way beyond my days of pushing a man along and helping him get his feet on the ground.

My man must come in the door carrying the table not just bringing something to put on it.

Women should never date down. I believe they should date up because most women date older. And if an older guy does not have his act together then keep it moving because he might never get there. He might forever be stuck in the "dream".

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Are u drunk with honey mixed with ogogoro? Why the zigzag comments? Wetin last wey u dey find for online?

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oh you guys sure this is not where i'll find her?

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my dear there's absolutely nothing wrong with it but some times you don't need to blame them. it's what their selfish father's imbibe in them. Africa tradition na the worst wey i don c. Though this era many Africans don out grow those barbaric practices. na fun for a loving man to assist im wife i know know wetin dey wrong with that

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The world heaves a collective sigh of relief

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oh boy just talk wetin u want talk

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i really wanna be a part of this conversation, no one to talk to me?

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no one is ready to welcome me?

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please im new here, i saw your post and it's so captivating, can i join you?

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Even if he is a dwarf or slowpoke

women sha!!!

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Guys - if you are really so insecure about your manliness - my advice is do not marry. You will kill your wife - the first day she questions your judgement!

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A man that understand that I come first as his wife. Even before his moma!

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@ honeric01

I am glad you cleared that up and I am happy that your mom taught you how to do everything a woman can do. Alot of men are pampered by their mothers and have no survival skills, thus making them vulnerable to any woman who puts on a good "show" of skills.

It is always a plus when you know that you can count on your hubby to have your back no matter what. Lord knows I get busy, very busy, and cant always tend to my family w/o working myself to exhaustion. It is a relief to know that if I am working late hubby and the kids wont just sit in the house and die of starvation or that he wont call me a bad wife because he had to cook a meal, vacuum a floor or put in a load of laundry.

There are two people in a marriage and one works themselves to their grave it is not cool at all. Together we can accomplish so much more than we can alone. A team that flows like ours has helped our family gain so much more then if we were in a "mans", "woman's" duties type of marriage.

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Any dude that has MONEY is a husband material! FINISH!

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God have mercy on the poor slave that you marry.

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If the woman is not home and has a child still wearing diapers, so the man has to change the diapers too? i see

why not go out with the baby then?

well I read men can also be pregnant now. maybe equality is finally settling in right?

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dear sistawoman

pls ignore some posts abeg

right now they are giving me a headache

btw druss and you

i think its as good as it will get.

besides what's wrong with changing diapers

abi no be ur pikin again

i expect that if i'm not around that my hubby -father of the child will not wait for me to come back before he changes his child's diapers.

there is nothing unmanly abt that.ds

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Please tell me how I am bent on wealth?

Is that because I own two businesses, am a captal investor in my childrens business, provide administrative and accounting support for my husbands business and still hold down a day time full-time job?

Is it because I work and party equally hard?

Is it because by the time I was 30 I owned my own home?

Is it because in 4 years I plan to buy another?

Is it because I have 5, 10, 15 and 20 year goals for myself and my family?

Is it because I am a business woman and a wife and a mother?

Is it because I mangage to juggle all of my responsibilities, preform all my duties as assigned and still mangage to demand that my husband meets me half way?

Let me know what about me says that I am all about wealth?

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SOMEONE LIKE ME!

COOL-HEADED, GOD FEARING, HUMAN FEARING, PRUDENT, TACTFUL, AND THE REST!

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3 qualities of a husband material are,Which I also possess as a married man.every lady must be on d look out for the qualities.

1, God fearing,A man who fears God will also loves God and will also loves every man and woman he come accross with.A man who does love God cannot love any woman.because real love originates from God who created every man.

2, ready for commitment and responsibilities,this is more than been financially stable because many men are financially statble ,but they are not ready to be committed and ready for responsibility.If a man is ready for commitment ,he will be focus and have direction ,then he can achieve anything he set his mind to do.

3, must be independant in making decisions,not only physically but mentally.even if the man is still living with his parents ,he should involve his parents less in making his decisions.there fore shall a man leave his father and mother ,and cleave to his wife.the leaving should be gradually not instantly.

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sistawoman,

am sorry, someone like me cannot marry you. you are not a good adviser to your fellow girls. you simply bent on wealth and not husband material.

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ME!! i am a perfect husband material

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Emperoh,

You ke,

you dey ask for husband material. Ask busy_body na, she go tell you wetin dey for okuro soup.

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A family orientated and faithful man

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Dr. Tony, i can very well see that u are going nuts.

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I agree with sistawoman - That is what all male should aspire to. I do not see how that means you will be the main person multitasking in the house. I see we are so used to the way we see the so called 'dominant male' doing stuff. There is nothing wrong in caring for your wife, There is nothing wrong with taking an interest in the kitchen (men in the past needed to know how to cook - how the fvck would they survive on the road? you think it was by buying from peeps on the road - when you catch deer, na raw you go chop am? Arent the best cooks in the world male? Not to mention being well versed in the kitchen allows for a fair bit of lvoers' play in there!!) - Is it taking an interest in the house cleaning? No be your house as well? Shuo? Now my problem is if she asks me to wash her undies- I have never done that ish for anybody and I dont intend to do that now. We have a washing machine - stick it in there!!

Now with financial stuff - the way I see it - there has to be joint account - fvck that hiding money from each other. We will have a degree of autonomy to making decisions - but fvck the woman who decides to call me if she needs to spend money on some minor object. Only call for discussion if it is some expensive stuff or some irrelevant thing that either of us want to use to oppress.

Sex - Pls I am beginning to realise I have a high libido and from what I see - my current girl matches me in it - although we are now in our born again virgin mode - we aint doing it till we tie the knot - tough and requires trust but hey - that is life (as Keshi would put it).

Did I miss anything that I feel it is relevant for all ball-less males and cotton brain females? Most of the things I read here sound like they are coming from insecure brats!! you dont need to prove you are the man - you are already the man - if they like let them cut off your dick and balls - let them amputate all your limbs - cut off your head - You are still the man - Aint nothing gonna ever change that - Quit with the frigging insecurity- So what if the dumb female says 'you are not a man - i am more man than you - eff da ho - dont marry that girl - she is confused , you dont need no confused woman by your side at home with a kitchen full of sharp knives!!

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ladies

its simply, a husband material is a guy who does d following

1) respects his wife both in her presence and when she aint around

2) listens to her

3) eats her dinner at night

if u have a guy that does d above, MARRY HIM

fortunately I do d above, but unfortunately am not available lol

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A Husband is a man who has the fear of God, also who love his farmilies, always be there for them all time all day.

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@sistawoman,

I agree that there alot of men that possess some of the qualities you mentioned but you are giving our young women wrong impression,there is no Mr.right and mind you likes begets likes,prayers cannot work in the issue of marriage,they way you make you bed so shall you lie on it,so you have to be good to attract such a man,you don't have to be a liability and expect to meet a man like that and if every woman should get this thing right that you make your home not expecting someone that has gone through life's process and has arrived and you shout alleleuia then be ready for problems in your marriages.Every woman wants a man that is financially stable but she is idle and messes around, so if your man is financial stable now,have patience and he will get there and he will turn out to be a much more wonderful husband than the qualities you mentioned.i'm out.

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Husband material = as cool as me

Wife material = as stunning as my mother

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husband material? are you looking for a ready made? nothing good comes that easy.

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We all have our wish list

But all i can see is that most would like to be on Sistawoman's boat. . . . .

But life's never like that. . . . . Or are you saying you will not take less assuming time is running out?

Lets be frank, a lot of us would want what Sistawoman listed above but what if time is running out,

Aren't you gotta make do with the available?

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A guy whose sincere,one whose got class and always willing to take care of his responsibility would sufice,

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Sistawoman,

The above listed criteria are all yours and you are on your own. You are setting a bad example for the single ladies here to follow and to the single ladies better be careful or else you would pass your prime.

A husband material is someone with a very good character,humane,considerable,humble,loving and the vice versa of the wife material. There are so many rich men in Nigeria and overseas but no qualities of a husband material and they wont marry.

We must differentiate between an ideal husband in a film or novel to the real husband in life.

Single ladies pray for God and He would take you to your perfect husband. Amen

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A successful man is one that can make enough money for his woman and family to spend, successful woman is one that can find such man.

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silly people. silly post.

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Cook and clean for a woman?? She must be heavily preggers for me to do that.

Our roles in the house shall be well-defined. Cook and clean while she is doing what?? Watching ER or Desperate Housewives??

What else?? I should breastfeed the kids too??

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only ariblaze made an effort to give a sensible answer, the rest of the guys gave such dumb answers. what selfish peeps.

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@ sistawoman,

Ride on, I am feeling you!

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I expect that he will know how to do and will do it from time to time to help me out or give me a break.

Read my other post and you will understand why.

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[td]Husband Material:

It may be different in Nigeria but one of the first things I look for is a man that is not still living in his mothers basement, unless he is saving up for a house.

A man with a job, good paying job, a job that pays more than or almost as much as mine.

A man that pays his bills on time

A man with good credit.

A man that is faithful

A man that see the value in me

A man that is romantic

A man that loves, adores and treats his mom with the highest respect (the way he treats her says how he will treat me)

A man that does the above to his sisters

A man that understands I am independent and also dependant

A man that understands I too have a voice and respects that voice

A man that stands behind his decisions and deals with whatever fall out there is behind them.

A man that respects me ALWAYS

A man that would never dream of disrespecting me in my presence or behind my back.

A man that can cook and clean

Be back lata[/td]

I DO AGREE WITH MOST OF WHAT YOU SAID EXPECT THE COOKING AND CLEAING, HABA, WAHT DO YOU WANT TO DO, THE GUY PROVIDES THE FUNDS, LOVES, ADORES, RESPECT, TREAT RESPECTFULLY ALWAYS AND THEN COOOOOOOOOOOOOK AND THE BASE OF A CLEANNNNNNNNNNNNNNN, I CAN DO ALL THAT BUT COOOOOOOOOKING AND CLEANNNNNNING, THAT WOMAN WILL HAVE TO GO MARRY SOMEONE ELSE

CAN YOU IMAGINE A TOP EXECUTIVE, COMING BACK FROM MEETINGS IN LAGOS (8AM) AND ABUJA (1:30PM) AND GETTING HOME FOR 8:30PM - DO YOU EXPECT HIM TO GO COOK AND THEN CLEAN, THINK ABOUT IT DEEPLY.

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How exactly did you infer that?

If you catch a man early enough you can mold him into a husband. Just like men prep us for marriage so must a woman prep a man. But there has to be basic qualities there to shape.

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