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Who Makes The First Move, The Man Or The Woman?

In our culture as Nigerians, is it right for it to continue to be wrong for women to ask men out?

who should make the first move in modern Nigeria?

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The man should make the first move.......because if the woman make it, the man may want to take great advantage of her..........

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Men should make the first step,

A responsible guy knows it is his rights, duty to approach to a girl he want/desires. It is irresponsible men who doesn't know their right from left that will wait for a girl to make the move for them.

I have learnt that any first move from a girl never last and it always have a clashes. so my fellow girls wait for men to make the move.

AS FOR ME, MEN WILL START IT, MOVE IT ON AND THEN i WILL CORPORATE.

That's me.

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Me thinks the guy should make the first move!

na Afica we de my pple.

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YES, is alway goood that the guys shld make the first move, but now, we live in the western world where CIVILIZATION is growin fast.i mean , now aday, women makes the first move.

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It's always the woman. Men just don't realize it when it happens. They're fooled into thinking they made the first move.

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does d prey go after the hunter?

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I think it depends,

If both of you are friends, and close, then i think the lady can tell the guy how she feels about it.

If they are meeting for teh first time, i think the guy has to do it!

Having said that, if i think a guy is cute, or is wearing a nice shirt, and he is checking me out, and i want to knwo him better, i'll smile and tell him i think he is cute, if he wants to proceed tossing, then thats his biz. If he choses to say THANK YOU and remain slinet, then he had better 4get about me

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Well i think its right for both sides to approach each other,

the african tradition stuff is just crap.

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I have to make the first move otherwise na hit and run I go take am do

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pls,this idea of the guys must make the first mood,i think its not not helping me.There's this guy i really like at my place of work and i think he likes me too but i think he hasn't gathered the nerves to come to me.HEY GUYS,SHUOLD I HELP HIM OUT?at least,we'll start from being friends and later,we mite begin to run things,who knows.

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Anybody can make a move at anytime cos love is the triumph of imagination over inteligence, ask Juliet why she had to kill herself over a dead Romeo while there are several Living Romeos like me, Anyhow not her Fault, Ask shakespeare LOL

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Guys shuld mak da first move.Dats we lead and they folow.A girl once me out,wow,da relationship did not last cos i had no feelings 4 her.So guys shuld their job.

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it will be beta if the gurl make the move first,

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a man must make the first move

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There's this saying -- "once bitten twice shy." A lot of boys can't act out the role required. I know a certain couple -- before they went out the girl had to help him out along the way. Like

"Hello Susan, um , er, " [the boy]

"You'd like to take me out. When?" [the girl].

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oh well i we are bringing Marrige proposals into this, then hell yeah! guys gotta do that, it is like a discrace to our manhood if the womam got down on her knees and asks it, then i mean that would be weird situation for a dude. it is like a right of passage for a man.

but i would like to see a lady ask a guy out, that would be nice, and if it goes bad, then all the better leason wise. Women should really experence, first hand the pain a guy goes through when they are shot down by a girl that he likes. i think that in modern times, we need more equal societies where it is ok for a girl to do things resereved normaly for a guy (at least in as far as relationship goes). once you experence the hurt oh getting shot down, then you may get a greater respect for the risks that a guy goes through by asking someone out, and if you are giving the signs to a guy you like, and you know he has been shot down a few times, then show you care and help the man out by shouldering a little burden

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c'mon it's modern times now

i dont' see how a girl could look 'cheap' making the first move, i mean i guess if it's some grotesque pick up line but it's not like it doesn't make guys look cheap if they do that too. plus if i a girl sees a guy somewhere, say at a bar or something and she sent him a drink, how could that be bad? everyone gets rejected anyway no matter what gender

then again a girl proposing, yeah that wouldn't be good but only because i think that's the guys moment and if a guy got proposed too he'd probably just feel robbed of that moment or insecure that they did it first. [/font][/font]

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Lets still respect d nigerian culture,norms n u know orientation. Guys should ask ladies out but they too can help by giving d green light. but plz girls, dont overdo it or we will take u as a cheap slut

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our beauties............abeg. help our guys most of them suffer in silence in a bid to get the courage to ask a girl out.it's normal 4 a guy to make d first move but pls girls give us the green light cos it takes the two to play the game

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it really doesn't matter if a chick asks a guy out but personally its kind of weird maybe because its not generally accepted but i would really love to get the nerve to ask a guy out maybe sometime in life.but i prefere the guy God made it well that guys should do that.

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it would be nice though if the girls started asking the guys, really. Women in America allways wanted more rights, then finaly they got it, so i think that that should make it social acceptible for them to ask guys out. It would also make it easier for guys to get dates. Some guys have just asked one too many girls out, only to be shot down (like myself for example, i tryed to aks this girl out that i really had strong feeling for, only to be shot down, but at least she did it sorta nicely), which makes them loose alot of selfconfidence and to become too shy to ask a girl, even if the girl would be the one. in that case, if the girl knows he wont, or is too shy to ask her out, she should take it upon herself to ask him. i think it should be social acceptable for both sexes to ask the oppsite sex out.

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its like this year is going to be a duplicate, we are just duplicating and renaming past posts, what a way to go?

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I think our women folks are becoming victims of selective amnesia! When did you all become upholders of our customs? If i can recall, most of our customs require women to kneel when attending to their husbands. How many women recall that tradition?

More talk on a similar topic: http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-4118.0.html

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Well anybody can.. but mostly the guyz should

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In our culture. The man makes the move. But the lady can help by giving him signs that, he has the green light to go ahead and ask.

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a guy has to make the first move. thats like seeing a girl propose to a guy( a big no-no, i havent seen such ) so the guy definently gotta make the first move.

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guys should be the one taking the first step.abeg, don't  let your ladies do it..

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it's soooo not right......it 's going to make the lady in question look like she's desperate....please!!!!!!

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Since you like a girl, you are meant to go for her.. and is not right for a lady to toast a guy... if that what you think.. it will look as if the gurl is kinda cheap

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It is a nice idea i think men should make d first move.

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