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Who Should Ask, 'Will You Marry Me?'

Guys and ladies, Please kindly answer this question.

Who in a relationship is supposed to ask the question 'would you marry me'.

I mean is it nice for the lady to ask the question?

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It should be the man.....because if the woman ask, the man will take great advantage of her............

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the guy should be man enough to ask a lady to marry her but some guys are so shy especially the first time lovers. If a lady asks a guy to marry her, she will be taken as being cheap or forcing herself on a man. it is not an idea i will ever support. You can give him a sign an encourage him to ask but do not go ahead.

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Let me tell a story, (not sure if its fiction or true, also i might add or subtract from the story).

     Once upon a time, a boy and a girl became good friends during their freshman year. They dated each other (i am not sure whether there was sexual intimacy), through out their university days, the girl fell deeply in love with the guy.

     After graduation, they where still close and they saw each other regularly and talked on the phone. The guy didn't say anything about permanence with their relationship, but the girl (being a typical naija babe) didn't ask any questions, instead she was nursing high hopes that the guy will take the initiative to take the first step.

     Few years later (about 7 years, with the girl still hoping that she has found Mr. Right), the guy came to the girl's house to drop his wedding invitation to another girl. The girl fainted, when she became conscious, she almost went insane.

     The lesson of the story; if you are in a relationship (both males and females, but especially the females), don't hesitate to ask (in a non threatening way), about the future of the relationship, and be able to understand/discern the meaning of answers given (if na player you dey deal with). It is very important so that you don't waste valuable time with a relationship that has no future.

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THE MAN SHOULD DO THIS JOB OF ASKING,

AND THE LADY SHOULD BE PATIENT

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anyone can ask ,this is to help them know their stand. if you don't get a positive reply , its up to u to decide whether to stay or leave

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It's only in Naija that i come to find out things in a relationship is only for the men to ask but not for the ladies to ask. Now tell me, what the difference if a girl ask a guy if he would marry her? she want to know where the relationship is leading her to not that she is forcing him to marry her. If a girl ask me, would I marry her, "If am not a player and really do love the girl in questioned, i will give her my best answer and that will be, "yes i would love to marry you." and if in the cause of the relationship there is any circumstances hindering my plans in getting married to her, i will let her know soonest not to give her a wrong signal.

In most advance countries that we are all eager to learn their ways of life and still do, a girl will boastfully be admiring a guy, wishing one day he will say some thing nice to her. They will even go as professing their love for the guy even if he did not. But for naija babes, hmmm!!! chicken go grow teeth first. If ever a naija babe confess her love to you, check the time at which she is confessing those love words, circumstances and who the hell are you?

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nairaland ppls,i feel anybody shud just pop the question,after thinkin deep 'bout it

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na it shud b 7/30 men 70 n ladies d oda inshut 60/40 we both love each oda n not d male doin all d loving init

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in an Archaic world, D woman, mIn a civilised world, Any

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Basically it is a duty of the guys to do that, well to all the guys lay down you pride cos it is a duty well all have to undertake. cheers guys.

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The guy is responsible of doing the asking. It looks cheap on the girl doing the asking.

It goes for the guy.

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The man should do the asking

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As for me, the man should be responsible enough to be the first to ask the question.

As for the ladies,it will look as though you are cheap.

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The man of course, if he's not man enough to ask, then, he should wear the white wedding gown and the lady the Armani suits! This is Naira Land oh, we are inculcated in the African culture.

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I was the one who asked my wife and believe me the interval before

Yes I will marry you can be------ Figure it out yourself.

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I think when you are going out with a guy that would marry you

your instint will tell you and not popping up the question in the middle of sex, but as for me I would never ask untill am ready.

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i so much cherich the topic WHO SHOULD ASK,'WILL YOU MARRY ME?'

it's an interesting isue that need to be discussed tactically because it nice.

both the lady and the guys are bound to ask the question

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i really appreciate u guys in Nairaland. ur reponse are really great but pls if u must contibute kindly use good and correct English. sometimes they use words i dont understand and words that doesnt go with what u were asked to say.

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exactly what iice said, whatever floats your boat, i doesn't matter who proposes, as long as it works out,

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I see nothin wrong in asking a man to marry me, it's either a yes or a no. If it's a no, no I move on, at least I know where I stand with him.

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please,I'm advising all the ladies,NEVER EVER ask a man for his hand in marriage,it is un natural o.

The answer may not always be yes,are you ready to handle his response? It's not always that a woman says yes to a suitor,there's been a myriad of responses from women, can you live with your head held high after his response since the tables are turned now,

what if he says no!!

or says I'm not ready yet

my people will not approve

let me think about it

please give me a little more time

I'm feeling rushed

I don't really know what to say

my elder brother is not married yet

I need to first get a better job or train my siblings first

Ladies keep your womanly pride and dignity and if the man is ready financially and emotionally for marriage,let him do the asking.

so that when the story is told,he asked you for marriage,it is the proper thing.

my take on this.

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@ Poster

I think it should be said by both sex but it may be at diferent time or diferent locations as dey may wish.

Simply because both of dem has to seek each others consent n reaply positively for d relationship to be successful n peaceful.

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@poster As for me everybody have the right to express his or her opinion been man or woman ok

l will advice most lady not to die in cold say your mind it make things work fast but be wise in all you do,

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so u teelin me u'll say to a lady that ask 'for ur hand" in marriage?

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If the guy really love the lady then why wouldn't he ask?Ask guy what they will think if the ladies takes up their responsibility?every guy wants to feel like a guy. For me the love must die.Am man enough to ask.If she does that,she should as well pay my ''groom price'' and i will carry the baby.thank God for modern medicine. WHAT DO U GUYS THINK?

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When God conducted the first ever marriage in the garden of Eden he took the woman to the man.When Adam saw her he exclaimed''flesh of my flesh,bone of my bones''.That was a sort of marriage proposal.It is the man's duty to ask the woman to marry him and not the other way round.There is something about this man/woman thing-man is the predator while the woman is the prey.A woman that asks a man to marry her gives herself away as desperate,besides this will scare many a man away.

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i think the man should because that is the way God has made it to be

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sometimes it depends. a woman can say it. but mostly say it. so i guess has the right to really say it. just like me and 1 guy we're having been dating. as in i like him and he likes me too. we considered ourselves just friendz. so unexpectedly he txted me can i be his and im whoa. we continue dating and getting to know each other till i became he's. though we got different attitudes but we still understand ourselves.

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Maybe Her Mum should ask you to marry her,have you ever see a lady ask a guy to marry her?or does your girl ask you to marry Her ?

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my name is mabel

   marriage is beautiful and a true reflection of God's covenant with us.Nobody enters into marriage union with the plan of exit the next day.

    a lady cannot ask a guy 2 marry her because, to so many men, they may see the lady so cheat.again some men may feel that she has be reject.

Normally, a lady should not because she is a responsibility.that the man is the head and the woman is the neck.

  so the guys should ask and not the ladies

  thanks

      mabel

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i think the guy should ask for such, cos it proper from every angle u view it from

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I've seen many cases of very proactive women asking a man to marry them, sadly too, i've watched many of such marriages fail. Traditionally, this is a man's role because he will need to make up his mind to live with that woman's stress all his life, but the world is changing and alot of shaite is happening everywhere.

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hello guys, the question is WHO SHOULD ASK, WILL YOU MARRY ME not the other way round. anyway, to my own beleive, i think the guy should, and its not just any guy, u dont ask a girl in marriage just becos ur folks want to, or becos ur mate are doing it, i believe a guy that is ready, and willing to take responsibilities, not some guy that will go into it then 2/3 years, he will start fooling around nooooo that is wrong, so please GUYS out there, am not saying a guy should not have one or two flings outhere but not in the early of ur marriage, at least take a break, enjoy it for at least 5 years b4 fooling around. one thing ave always known its that, no one guy/man on this planet will stick to just one girl, NEVER, SO GUYZ no one is forcing you to do it, do it when u are ready okay.

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Someone said whoever is ready should ask.

I couldn't have agreed more.

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I'v not earned the right to offer an opinion but I hope when i get there I won't have to pop the question to confirm if she'll

marry me. Our antecedents should have foretold the likelihood of our getting married

Perhaps for formality's sake it'll be ok to ask, and that's always a man's job to do.

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It’s supposed to be the man who should ask the question.

A woman shouldn’t put herself in that position because she doesn’t know if the man is financially prepared for the marriage, or if the man has other plans for his future.

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old question, when time reach just tell am say i wan bring pammy for your pale next week ooo how u see am baby. as a jaaga no need to form oyibo. If she ask me she go bring pammy for my ppl as well, pay for my head then i go follow am go their house later i go change my name to their name as the case may be.

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The partner who feels they have something special going and believes the other person is holding back should should break the ice. However popping the question is getting kind of old. I can't ask anybody "will you marry me?" as if the marriage is for only my own benefit.

"Let's get married"!

End of story.

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my fellow nairalanderians, if the couple think or know there totally caught in each others web of love, why then do they need to ask the "question" or would they soon be a question for having kids. "honey i think i should get you pregnant". i think its bad enough that the guy has to beg 4 love. ladies please be merciful

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outrightly is the guy that will ask that question.

its the girl that is marrying not the guy. that is why in every wedding it reads woman weds man and not otherwise.

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@Caradona;

fcurz, u need tu consider all those things b4 jumping in2 the marriage*

If lovereally & truly exists, they'll be nufn lyk dat

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Most acceptably, It's the guy.

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The ladies ask the question a lot but they are not asking you to marry them but they want to know if you are going to marry them.

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I don't know, but it really feels like a big deal.

Its like Emasculation. Like i'm not man enough to do what I'm meant to do

or like i'm wasting time about the marriage thing.

That doesn't feel right.

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@ oracle aye ti yi , times have changed man , wats the big deal ?

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i wouldn't really feel right if a Lady asks me if I wanna marry her.

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